How do you tell your friends the person you are dating is someone you met online??

[coleslaw]

Yep, you heard me right. I've been talking with the girl for at least six months online. The boys all left the house to head "home for the holidays," which leaves me alone in the house while I finish a webpage that I promised would be done before I left. So... this girl, who goes to school an hour and a half away from here, came home for the holidays, which is only 20 minutes away from here. So, I got an email from her asking me if I wanted to do something with her because she felt bad that I was left all alone. So I suggested that I get some beer and that she should come over and we would watch a movie. Well, after 17 beers between us, something clicked and yada yada yada, wow, a tongue ring?!?! ... So now we are going to see the Festival of Lights at the Cincinnati Zoo tonight. The question is, how do I tell the guys that I met this awesome chick on AOL IM? She goes to OSU, where some of my friends attend, and she has some friends that attend my school, so I am thinking that it is just best to say that we met through mutual friends and that we got to know each other better via IM. Any else have any suggestions?

[styleee]

you have a few options

1. LIE, say you met her at a bar or something. better yet, tell your friends you picked her up at a mall food court :)

2. Be mysterious about how you know her, just say something like "we go way back."

3. Tell them the truth, what difference does it make? My friend is always telling me about the people he meets online. That is how people meet nowadays. duh.

[AmRivlin]

I am jealous Coleslaw...

What comes to mind is the new Ford Trucks commercial, that makes fun of You've got mail... HEHEHEH I looked for it at adcritic, but it must be a midwest thing...

Just say it was an old friend... No reason to spill the beans (Or slaw in your case) and if people ask tell em the truth. Your kids will understand...(Daddy how'd u meet Mommie, Cybersex son Cybersex.....

[coleslaw]

Originally posted by AmRivlin
I am jealous Coleslaw...

What comes to mind is the new Ford Trucks commercial, that makes fun of You've got mail... HEHEHEH I looked for it at adcritic, but it must be a midwest thing...Hmm, I'm in the Midwest, and I've not seen it.

[abbra]

Why do you have to tell them where you met her? Is this a guy thing?

[pennypinch]

Originally posted by coleslaw
Yep, you heard me right. I've been talking with the girl for at least six months online. The boys all left the house to head "home for the holidays," which leaves me alone in the house while I finish a webpage that I promised would be done before I left. So... this girl, who goes to school an hour and a half away from here, came home for the holidays, which is only 20 minutes away from here. So, I got an email from her asking me if I wanted to do something with her because she felt bad that I was left all alone. So I suggested that I get some beer and that she should come over and we would watch a movie. Well, after 17 beers between us, something clicked and yada yada yada, wow, a tongue ring?!?! ... So now we are going to see the Festival of Lights at the Cincinnati Zoo tonight. The question is, how do I tell the guys that I met this awesome chick on AOL IM? She goes to OSU, where some of my friends attend, and she has some friends that attend my school, so I am thinking that it is just best to say that we met through mutual friends and that we got to know each other better via IM. Any else have any suggestions?

Lie. Lie through your teeth. Lie like you've never lied before, because, if it was my friends, or hell, if it was me, you'll never hear the end of it.

Dirty old man, picking up nubile young lasses, nay, ENSNARING pretty young things with that glorified telephone of the DEVIL! :)

[coleslaw]

The guys will, without a doubt, ask where I picked her up(most likely because they will want to find a great catch such as her there also!) I don't think it is a guy thing, but more of a curiousity thing. I mean, the guys all leave and I'm not seeing anyone, and I come back from break seeing someone - and she lives down here. It might not all add up to someone if they were so inclined to be inquisitive.

[kain9i6]

Who cares.. tell 'em the truth! If they laugh oh well.. At least they don't know of her tounge ring..and won't.. It's not of their business to know how, where and why you pick up girls, talk to them or what they do with them.. Sh|t while they are out at bars spending all kinds of money trying to pick up on women, you are sitting at your computer not even worrying about it.. It's the 2000's.. Meeting people online is comparable to meeting them in a bar anyways..

[styleee]

does anyone else notice that everyone pretty much said the exact same thing about this?

[oblongmelon]

Heinous....wrong to think that your friends should have ANY say in who you see. Even if you met her in a refridgerator box behind a K-mart somewhere...The question should not be-'SHOULD I TELL MY FRIENDS about her..but SHOULD I TELL HER about my friends'..boys will be boys you know..and unless this gal is anything less than a supermodel (perky boobs,collegen,gazelle like legs) you KNOW your friends are gonna dog you about it....so go with the flow-your friends dont need to know anymore than what you want to tell them..and if they ask where you met her and you DON'T want to tell them just say-it was KARMA and leave it at that! By the time you give them their first welcome back drink they will forget why they even wanted to know.

[muffdivr]

I feel the same way about saying i met a chick online so i would just say that i met her at the gym or grocery store or something of that sort. it works:)

[Adisharr]

Just tell your friends you met her online. Who gives a rats butt. This is 2000 isn't it? We have the internet..

Seriously, it really doesn't matter what they think. If they don't approve - who cares. If they do - who cares. Most likely they won't be employing you in the future anyway :)

[Grimm]

Don't even think of telling them you met online. Make up something simple. Go over it with her, she has got to understand. It's just too weird meeting someone you know online...

[coleslaw]

We're going out again tonight, and she told her mom that we met through her roommates boyfriend, who goes to my school. I don't personally know him, but it works for me. hehe :D

[K2]

i don't see anything wrong with that..

just go ahead and tell them upfront..

if they were real friends, they would respect u for what u did :)

[kain9i6]

Well think about it this way.. You are lying now about how you met, but what about when you get married or you knock her up.. what are you going to tell your kids? If you lie to them, what kind of role model are you?? If you don't lie, you never have to remember anything.. Shouldn't have to make stories up to cover things that aren't in need of shade.

[jujubees]

You should lie to people who would never never EVER understand (ie, your parents). That's how I did it: My bf and I have been going out for 3.5 years, and I told my parents that we met on campus when he was visiting his friend. I'd tell them the truth if I knew they could handle it. They're immigrants and still possess the "old world" mentality.

/me gives coleslaw kudos for the "fib" to her mom :halo:

Your friends are in their 20's or 30's, and they know that meeting people online these days is not all that uncommon. They should understand. If they don't, they aren't worth keeping.

This only works if you DON'T have those really cool parents who hang out with your friends all the time. If you do, DON'T tell different stories or you're scr00d! :P

[Hopper1]

If she ain't a wildebeast your friends will think it's cool you met her online...Now if she is your friends will know you met her online....

[Tak]

Just be honest about how you met. Your friends may rag on you a bit at first but that will pass with time, especially if she is as great as you say. Good friends of mine met this way, and once seeing how great they were together, any misconceptions I may have had disappeared. :)

[Jenny]

Was going to school and met a guy online (actually, I got an email chain letter and was looking through it and found a guy's name that looked nice "Scott" from Kansas. I thought since I was in Oklahoma, it would be cool to say hello and nice to see someone else not from California. lol). Anyway, we started emailing back and forth and met a month and a half later, and almost 8 months after that, we got married. :) We celebrated our 4 year anniversary in August this year. Sure, my friends ragged on me quite a bit, but then they saw I was happy and were happy for me. :D

[M_A_C]

All I know is I can't stop making fun of my dumb freind who is "dating" this broad he met on Everquest. He lives in Texas, and she lives in Canada. He's 21 and she 31. He talks to her over internet phone after they get done playing everquest. Boy howdy, do I ever make fun.

[Loosah]

I can see feeling a bit funny about it but people meet in all sorts of strange ways these days. A few years ago, it was the personal ads, or worse yet dating services.

I have not done it, but it is nothing to be ashamed of. It is not like you were writing to or dating prison inmates or something. I recently stopped speaking to one of my best friends of over 16 years because of this. It is a long and sordid tale I won't bore anyone with the dirty details.

[oblongmelon]

hey ..I hear there are nice single men in prison..:) (it will be my next stop on the love train if I ever divorce Mr.Potato head)....

[Loosah]

Originally posted by oblongmelon
hey ..I hear there are nice single men in prison..:) (it will be my next stop on the love train if I ever divorce Mr.Potato head)....

Keep dreaming OBBY, you are stuck with Mr. Potato head for good!

I don't have a problem with friends dating whoever the hell they please usually. And if it happens to be a prison inmate, live and let live. But my very good friend, who happens to be gay is dating a guy who just got out of prison for raping someone. The story goes on and gets even uglier, but my migraine meds are making me drowsy.

[Edited by Loosah on 12-14-2000 at 09:14 AM]

[M_A_C]

Originally posted by chosenfool
care moer about personal happiness.

Isnt that what we are all in pursuit of anyway?


It gives me personal happiness when I have good things to make fun of my friends about.

[MaggieOK]

OSU? Ohio or Oklahoma?

I don't think it should matter what your friends think. I found the best relationship I've had (besides my husband) online. We lived in the same city and it was unforgettable.

And I met my husband through inter-company email back when we both worked at Creative Labs.

Maggie
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