View Full Version : SS Eating alone. This divorce thing sucks.
08-29-2008, 09:10 PM
I know it doesn't sound like much but I was with my wife for 18 years. We treasured our dinnertime. We would catch up from our day's work, our trials and tribulations and what funny things happened to us or what stories we had heard. Now, I sit here at the computer and eat frozen dinners every night by myself. No one to talk to, no one to share my day with either good or bad (actually I am crying as I type this) and dammit I am lonely. I miss my wife. I miss my old life and I miss having the companionship I have enjoyed the last 18 years. That's all.
08-29-2008, 09:23 PM
oh man. that's just awful. how long have you been separated? any chance of reconciliation?
08-29-2008, 09:29 PM
Nope. It's a divorce. We're done (and now a 1,000 miles apart). We've been apart since March 1.
08-29-2008, 09:56 PM
Wow... seems like alot of folks are calling things off these days.
Sorry to hear about that Thresh... Hopefully something will come along to cheer you back up. :D
08-30-2008, 12:07 AM
08-30-2008, 12:42 AM
Sorry to hear that. Been there done that myself. I know it doesn't help now but it does get better.
I started out doing the salads, then the frozen meals but what really made it better for me I started cooking again. I mean real meals. It took time to get everything ready, to cook the meal but when I sat down to eat it was something that I had done. I didn't need her to do it for me. Best of all it tasted pretty darn good. Get yourself a couple of cookbooks and try it. It couldn't hurt(in my best Jewish mother voice).
Go out every now and then. Yes, a table for one but I'll try to keep the noise down!!
Sounds like you didn't want the divorce, neither did I. But you now what, it ended up being the best thing that could have happened to me. Took some time to feel that way but it did happen.
Hang in there man. It's a tough road to go down. Remember, it really does get better.
08-30-2008, 12:42 AM
Man, sorry to hear. May God bless you and help you find happiness again.
08-30-2008, 10:07 AM
Dude, sorry to hear that. :( Traveling a lot, I know what it is like to eat alone and it isn't fun. I hope things turn around for you. :)
08-30-2008, 10:11 AM
cooking classes - a great way to meet women.
but what you are feeling is normal, you suffered a loss, and it takes time. Don't rush yourself.
08-30-2008, 04:28 PM
Thank you everyone. It does hurt and I know somewhere down the line it should feel better. It's nice to know that here on the big ol' G|A I have some genuine support. It helps a lot! :)
09-02-2008, 06:07 PM
I hope I'm not prying, but what goes wrong after 18 years of being married?
09-02-2008, 07:57 PM
I'll PM you, this kind of info isn't public fodder.
09-05-2008, 06:40 AM
hey thres. i've been lurking for quite some time, but i wanted to reply and just be an encouragement. i really hope you get joy back into your life. maybe it's time for a vacation and some adventure? :)
The Happy Squirrel
09-09-2008, 09:28 PM
the single life is a big change been there, make sure you take lots of "you" time
dont jump back in too quick, you will carry a lot of baggage and its not fair to the other person. dont rush things there is nothing wrong with siongle life for a while, you may miss out on a "good thing" but will never miss out on the right thing
09-10-2008, 02:28 AM
That sucks thresher I'm sorry :( Hope you find a nice lady soon, or even just some good friends to help make the pain go away quicker.
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