wedding gratuity

[tupacboy]

Hi Guys... so possibly my big day is near... picked out the rock.. now just have to find the right way to ask! :)

So I've been looking at venues, and the thing that bugs me is that the gratuity is part of the contract. I just don't see how a 20% gratuity can be forced, more likely that i'm just not comfortable with it.

I mean its one of the biggest day of you life and if they screw up you HAVE to tip them 20%?

anyone know the legality of all this?

[ray]

The venue is protecting their staff by doing this. It's why restaurants usually include 18% gratuity on bills for parties of 8 or more. They're concerned that the person paying will give a low gratuity (or none at all).

Seeing that this is going to be a big event for you, you want them to give you good service. How do you think they're going to treat you if you get the 20% gratuity clause removed from the contract? From their standpoint, if you don't want to pay the 20%, it probably means you're going to screw them all over at the end of the night.

[kimchicowboy]

so, is this a gratuity for a service for only you and your future fiancee? hm, i never knew venues required this. i thought they did nice things for their customers to provide exceptional service. i guess i'm really naive. hahaha
:shrug:

[cheapie]

the gratuity for a wedding or just for a venue to ask her?

[Nija]

the gratuity for a wedding or just for a venue to ask her?
:stupid:

You are having a party and you are going to ask her there?

You haven't asked and have already started planning where (without her input)?

I'm thinking it's the second one.

I paid Food costs + 20% to take over a part of Buca di Beppo for our reception.

[Thesifer]

Not sure on the legality, but the venue we chose pretty much comped all of their normal fees, due to my parents being great customers/members for them. We're just paying for food and a bartender (Which we're getting 2 for 1 on) And Alcohol of course.

Room setup fee / room rental fee / 'cake cutting fee' (yes a lot of places seem to have that) / valet.. etc were all dropped from the fees.

[attgig]

venues have to do the gratuity for some sort of tax thing... i don't remember exactly what my venue told me, but it's something about how gratuities are taxed, and if it's over a certain number of folks in a party, it gets taxed differently.

also, think of gratuities as something that will have to be there, but negotiate everything else. i got the meal choice fee removed, and the site fee cut in 1/2 when i did mine.

[tupacboy]

thanks for the tips and info guys... i picked up the rock this weekend... now just have to fig out how to ask.. man this is stressing me out.. hahaha

[Yossarian]

do what i did, just tell her that you already act like you're married, might as well make it official

[Nija]

Not to add any pressure, but she is going to remember everything so don't **** up.

She is going to remember what you were wearing, how you said it, the location, everything around her. EVERYTHING. This tends to be a huge deal for women.

I can tell you where (but not the date :P) I proposed, how and that's about it.

/Bad Husband
//:eyebrow:

[whitealexander]

hahahah.. you're right the hardest part is how to propose. well whatever it takes the most important is you say it with sincerity.

[Prngr44]

Prepare to get nickel and dimed TO DEATH.

Every single person involved in a wedding (that's not doing you a personal favor) will have their hand out for a gratuity on top of their normally inflated rate.

Every.single.one.

My biggest gripe about our wedding was that I have a friend who was going to DJ it for free. But no, there's a catch! The reception hall we wanted uses Joe Blow's DJ exclusively! I could hire a band, but if I wanted a DJ, I had to use this outfit. So I was basically forced to use this company and the guy had the gall to mention to me that his rate did not include gratuity. Some nerve.

They'll tack that 20% on and let you know that you're more than welcome to tip an additional amount.

Sorry for the rant but this was a huge pet peeve of mine.

[RoniMan]

Not to add any pressure, but she is going to remember everything so don't **** up.

She is going to remember what you were wearing, how you said it, the location, everything around her. EVERYTHING. This tends to be a huge deal for women.

I can tell you where (but not the date :P) I proposed, how and that's about it.

/Bad Husband
//:eyebrow:
for some reason, this clip came to mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=394U9DhgEXE

[Nija]

for some reason, this clip came to mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=394U9DhgEXE

:shifty:

So true.