Need some serious advice.

[cruelpupet]

A friend of mine apparently is a cutter (cuts arm with razor blade).

She has only done it once where it was a serious cut.

But she does small cuts faily often... once every 2 eweeks


How worried should i be for her???

What should i look out for, to tell if its going to be serious soon???

[mojo]

therapy

[welfareloser]

this can only progress. if you care, risk the friendship. if her parents are not *******s or ineffective, tell them. pound her over the head with "you must go to therapy" until she thinks you're a stalker. you won't be happy if she gets pissed, but you won't be happy if she turns up dead either.

cutting = depression. and even if she is only doing small cuts now, she may just down a bunch of pills tomorrow night. don't wait. she's not healthy.

[Kim]

I agree, she needs some help. You are a good friend to be concerned about her. Good luck!

[chrissy]

I agree.

Help her get help.

[Nanotech9]

why does she say she cuts herself?

[Speedfreak]

Man, no one should do that for ANY reason. The obvious choice is to help her if you truly care. No matter what her reaction, she will eventually understand your actions.

[g222leav]

although therapy is most definatly needed, i wouldn't approach her and suggest therapy off the bat. most people think about doing stuff like this due to some sort of pressure, maybe life, school, friends, depression. i'd suggest talking to her, telling her how much you care, how important she is...maybe even how much she'd be missed. just lending out an open ear is very helpful.

[welfareloser]

disagreement. she'll ignore that, rationalize, and then hide the cutting from you. being nice won't work. you may have to go so far as to make a therapy appt for her and drive her to it. if she has revealed her habit to you, i don't think she would resist, but she won't do it on her own - since cutting is a way of exerting control over one's feelings, i'd say theat she does it because she is feeling out-of-control, and helpless, and thus is probably looking for someone to fix it for her, because she feels helpless.

[cruelpupet]

Already did the open ear thing...he might already be in some sort of therapy..... I was looking to see if any of you dealt with this before, with yourselves or with someone else. Just curious, if there is anything i can look for, that wuld tell me its goign to get serious soon.

[g222leav]

hmmm i thought i just posted, but anyways...i remember seeing a movie about this in school.

if they start to do some "out of the ordinary" things, such as giving away their prized possesions, talking in a dire tone, being closed off or non-approachable. those are some signs. usually, people who are in this situation try to make arrangements for when they pass, such as giving away their favorite doll to there friend so they don't miss them as much....

just my 2 cents

[welfareloser]

Originally posted by cruelpupet
Already did the open ear thing...he might already be in some sort of therapy..... I was looking to see if any of you dealt with this before, with yourselves or with someone else. Just curious, if there is anything i can look for, that wuld tell me its goign to get serious soon.

IT ALREADY IS SERIOUS!!!!! if you want expert advice, call a school counsellor and ask for his/her opinions.

[chrissy]

http://www.findarticles.com/cf_dls/g2699/0005/2699000506/p1/article.jhtml

http://www.bme.freeq.com/news/selfmutp.html


The second one has a bunch of useful info.