View Full Version : Dating People Online...Marriage?
Sir_Froggy
03-13-2002, 09:40 PM
so it seems two Koreans met up while playing D2 and got married March 10th dunno if this is repost
Marriage over D2? (http://www.blizzard.com/diablo2/d2wedding/)
:hmm:
ya, it's a repost. but i just wanna take this opportunity to (once again) say....so what?!? are people that you meet online not actually people? are they hideous creatures or something? i don't think so.
sure, people can lie about stuff online. but people lie about stuff irl too. so it makes it easier to lie...if you meet someone who you thought was a 20 yr old girl and it turns out to be a 40 yr old hairy guy from cleveland...don't marry that one! but other than that, they're no different than anyone else.
and i still think it's great :thumb:
jujubees
03-13-2002, 11:24 PM
Yeah, what mojo said. :D
Also, couples who meet while netgeeking are more likely to understand the level of computer addiction that we harbor. :dodgy: There's nothing worse than having the s.o. whine, "It's either me or the computer!" or "Don't I mean more to you than that hunk of plastic?"
"Huh? Yeah, that looks great on you."
*type*
*click*
*photochop*
:P
Jihforce
03-13-2002, 11:53 PM
Yey for Mojo! :) :thumb:
coleslaw
03-14-2002, 12:08 AM
Originally posted by mojo
if you meet someone who you thought was a 20 yr old girl and it turns out to be a 40 yr old hairy guy from cleveland...don't marry that one!What if I was supposed to meet a 40 year old hairy fat guy from Cleveland... but he turned out to be a hot 20 year old girl! Should I marry that one?? Even though I really wanted the hirsute hippo? :hmm:
WhiskeyPapa
03-14-2002, 07:13 AM
Yeah, marrying people you meet online is cool! Ask my aunt...
Her ex got engaged, so she decided she had better hurry up and find a husband too. So she got an on-line boyfriend to propose. She moved her kids 1500 miles away from their dad (and told them they'd get to live closer to Disneyworld!) Within a few months she had to get a restraining order against the guy, and finally found herself tied to the bed with her hubby threatening to kill her and himself if she ever tried to leave. Luckily, she was able to call the cops and get away.
Ain't romance wonderful?
welfareloser
03-14-2002, 07:32 AM
Originally posted by kb0wwp
Yeah, marrying people you meet online is cool! Ask my aunt...
Her ex got engaged, so she decided she had better hurry up and find a husband too. So she got an on-line boyfriend to propose. She moved her kids 1500 miles away from their dad (and told them they'd get to live closer to Disneyworld!) Within a few months she had to get a restraining order against the guy, and finally found herself tied to the bed with her hubby threatening to kill her and himself if she ever tried to leave. Luckily, she was able to call the cops and get away.
Ain't romance wonderful?
okay... but the "meeting people online" part was NOT the problem in this case...
whitak24
03-14-2002, 10:03 AM
i agree with mojo, et al. obviously, you shouldn't rush stupidly into marriage with someone met online. but if they're cool, then there's nothing "abnormal" about it. better than marrying people you met at your family reunion, imo.
molecularfire
03-14-2002, 12:31 PM
better than marrying people you met at your family reunion, imo
You too. Cool. I'm not the only one. :P
Originally posted by welfareloser
okay... but the "meeting people online" part was NOT the problem in this case... word
Originally posted by whitak24
i agree with mojo, et al. obviously, you shouldn't rush stupidly into marriage with someone met online. but if they're cool, then there's nothing "abnormal" about it. better than marrying people you met at your family reunion, imo. word :heh:
i met my ex wife at school. i have 100% marriage failure rate for marriages from peeps i meet irl. i have 0% marriage failure rate for those i met online :P
jujubees
03-14-2002, 04:38 PM
Originally posted by welfareloser
okay... but the "meeting people online" part was NOT the problem in this case... Definitely. You don't move yourself and your family across the globe to shack up with someone, sight unseen. Sure, you met online, but unless your marriage will consist of two networked computers and an ongoing chat session, you need to find out how well -- or badly -- you interact with each other *gasp* IRL.
Originally posted by jujubees
Definitely. You don't move yourself and your family across the globe to shack up with someone, sight unseen. Sure, you met online, but unless your marriage will consist of two networked computers and an ongoing chat session, you need to find out how well -- or badly -- you interact with each other *gasp* IRL. also, apparently she rushed into something in the first place. talk about a bad situation all the way around.
molecularfire
03-14-2002, 04:50 PM
unless your marriage will consist of two networked computers and an ongoing chat session
Hmmm... not a bad idea. I find that girls like me more if they've never seen me. :P
WhiskeyPapa
03-15-2002, 07:23 AM
Originally posted by welfareloser
okay... but the "meeting people online" part was NOT the problem in this case...
I agree. That was an extreme example. The real problem is that she was so determined to get married at the same time as her ex that she married the first willing male.
I do think that meeting and developing a relationship with someone online has a higher risk than the "normal" ways.
Typically when you first meet someone irl, you are aquainted with some of their friends or relatives. You meet some of their coworkers or other aquaintences. You see how they interact with others they are close to. That's how you develope your "image" of them. There are many opportunities for one of them to say to you, "Girlfriend, watch out, he's a wacko."
When you meet someone on-line, and even later irl, they can "act" however they want. All of the old "checks and balances" are gone. Your only input for developing an opinion of them comes from one source.
I'm just darn glad I'm married and don't have to mess with that stuff.
Oh, I know I know! We can use the people we meet online for a starter marriage, then move on to a real marriage with someone we meet offline. How's that? :P
-OC
Originally posted by kb0wwp
Typically when you first meet someone irl, you are aquainted with some of their friends or relatives. You meet some of their coworkers or other aquaintences. You see how they interact with others they are close to. That's how you develope your "image" of them. There are many opportunities for one of them to say to you, "Girlfriend, watch out, he's a wacko."
When you meet someone on-line, and even later irl, they can "act" however they want. All of the old "checks and balances" are gone. Your only input for developing an opinion of them comes from one source.
again...you're gonna meet the person. then you'll get to know them, etc. if you can't tell from that, you can't tell anyways.
and btw, ya...people told me plenny of stuff...after she filed for divorce. thanks for playing. have a nice day :)
jujubees
03-15-2002, 09:47 AM
Originally posted by kb0wwp
I do think that meeting and developing a relationship with someone online has a higher risk than the "normal" ways.If you're careful -- and all women should be -- I consider it to be more like a blind date that you set up yourself, except you know a little about the person, from chats, phone convo's, etc. I'm a firm believer in talking to the person before meeting them ... that way, you can avoid the old 20yo buxom blonde/50yo hairy male "switch-a-roo."
Originally posted by kb0wwp
Typically when you first meet someone irl, you are aquainted with some of their friends or relatives. You meet some of their coworkers or other aquaintences. You see how they interact with others they are close to. That's how you develope your "image" of them. There are many opportunities for one of them to say to you, "Girlfriend, watch out, he's a wacko."I've never met any s.o.'s in "normal" scenarios, and I've still managed to detect weirdness or incompatibilities on my own. It might have taken me a little longer, but I learned something from each experience and now have my own set of criteria, instead of friends transferring their values onto me, and me taking them on as as my own. Why would you base your life and future on what your friends think or suggest? It can be a group opinion ... as long as the whole group is dating him/her. Reference to mojo's thread (http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=41158) If a guy shows up at the date, frothing at the mouth, sniffing your hair, calling you Clarice, and you NEED a friend to tell you that he's trouble ... :disa:
Originally posted by kb0wwp
When you meet someone on-line, and even later irl, they can "act" however they want. All of the old "checks and balances" are gone. Maybe it's a California thing, but it's a given that the first few dates will be fake to some degree. ("I'm in law." == "I'm a custodian at a law firm.")
Originally posted by jujubees
If a guy shows up at the date, frothing at the mouth, sniffing your hair, calling you Clarice, and you NEED a friend to tell you that he's trouble ... :disa:you're not real fbi, are you juju :shifty:
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