Need Help Immediatly!!! Girl Problems...Jenny you there?

[cruelpupet]

ok, quick story... friend was dumped by her BF for the 4th time...guy is an *******


how can i help cheer her up

[MJordanash]

Take her out tonight and do something fun, or go see a movie or something.

[cruelpupet]

welfare... any ideas?

pink girl?

[mojo]

if she got dumped by the same guy 4 times, then her problem is not the getting dumped part :rolleyes:

whatever you do to "cheer her up" will just be temporary. good luck.

[cruelpupet]

Originally posted by MJordanash
Take her out tonight and do something fun, or go see a movie or something.

shes resistant to all normal ideas...tried to take her out the other night...she decided to stay home

[Jenny]

Surprise her.

Go rent a movie, pick up some chinese food (or other food that you both like), etc. Make sure the movie is a comedy (NOT a romantic comedy) so she can laugh and get her mind off of it.

That way she doesn't have to go OUT but you can help keep her mind off of everything. :)

Hope that helps!

[jase71]

Get a movie... or go for a walk... or go out to dinner...

Something that'll give her the opportunity to talk. She probably needs to open up and vent a little sorrow or frustration...

[MJordanash]

Originally posted by cruelpupet


shes resistant to all normal ideas...tried to take her out the other night...she decided to stay home
If she isnt up to going out, then maybe do what Jenny suggested and go over their or invite her to your house. I have a friend that is always getting dumped by her boyfriend, but continues to go back, so I know the feeling. A good comedy would do her good instead of just going over everything that made them break up.

[cruelpupet]

well shes not answering my beep...so...guess ill forget it for tonight

[mojo]

kick the guy's arse and tell him to quit playing games :angry:

that'll fix a few things ;)

[MJordanash]

I say give her sometime. She just might call you yet tonight or wants to be alone for awhile. You were a good friend anyway and thats what matters. :D

[welfareloser]

Originally posted by mojo
if she got dumped by the same guy 4 times, then her problem is not the getting dumped part :rolleyes:

whatever you do to "cheer her up" will just be temporary. good luck.

:stupid:


and don't give up. she will resist doing anything fun, but she will (probably) ultimately be glad when you finally get her to go out (or stay in) and do something fun. keep it low-key... getting all dressed up or going out to drink heavily are probably bad ideas. but keep pestering her...

AND ASK HER WHY THE HELL SHE WOULD WANT TO BE WITH A GUY WHO OBVIOUSLY DOESN"T WANT TO BE WITH HER OR MAKE HER HAPPY. seriously. time for some tough love.

[Merlin]

Originally posted by jase71
Something that'll give her the opportunity to talk. She probably needs to open up and vent a little sorrow or frustration...

Get a bottle of her favorite. Let her wipe it out and just blow her emotions out. It is not always the best thing but sometimes it does help you say goodbye.

[Kim]

Just be there for her. Good luck!

[CarolinaGal]

In any order:

* Chocolate

* Tequila

* Fresh Flowers

* Deep-dish pizza with extra cheese, and six-pack of a good hardy beer (none of that light crap)

* Bubble bath fixin's: scented candles, nice smelling suds

* Cheesecake with fresh strawberries

* An offer to accept her phone call any time day or night, and really meaning it

* A bonfire to burn old pictures of him

[styleee]

why doesn't anyone call STYLEEE when they want a woman's opinion???

i sometimes feel invisible :bawl:


and in my experience, there is nothing you can possibly do that will change anything. my friend dumped/ was dumped by his girlfriend at LEAST 10 over 3 years, and i had to put up with his hysterics each and every time.
lesson= they just want you to feel sorry for them, and every time you console them, they are happy because you are paying attention to them. and instead of them showing their joy, they hide in their rooms so you have to dig deeper and deeper and try to make it your mission to help them get over this rough time.

i say screw it... tell her le jeux sont fis, baby. tough love is the only love.

or you live in freaking NYC, go out, anywhere, there is like, over a thousand places i could name right now that i would enjoy going to when i'm sad.

[LPMiller]

show up drunk and nekked at 4 am, singing ribald french songs and declare, "C'mon baby, I'll make you forget all about..." then pass out in your own puke on the front lawn.

Hey, it worked for me.

[Merlin]

Is she cute? Afterall she could be prime for some easy breakup booty.

[cruelpupet]

shes cute, but im not interested

[Nija]

Originally posted by styleee
why doesn't anyone call STYLEEE when they want a woman's opinion???

i sometimes feel invisible :bawl:



I think it's because your not around as much as some of the other females. But don't worry.. eventually everyone will also remember you spell yur name with 3 e's :D

[NuTs62]

heh.. two of my friends just told me that they broke up with their bf's. Usually, they always come to me with their problems, and if they have problems, to console 'em. For some reason, this time 'round, both of them jus told me, and thats it. They seem perfectly fine. :shrug: But then again, both the guys that they were goin out with.. Both of them weren't jerks.. and was distance issues.

I'm too lazy to read all the suggestions up above.. Take her out to a mall.. It might get expensive, some girls like buying lots of stuff to get their mind off it.. Buy a gallon of ice cream, chocolate, or cake, and show up at her door with a comedy movie (as said before, preferably not anything romantic), or her favorite movie. Take her out clubbin.. Go to the beach with her, and have a picnic.. Go to the park for a walk.. If she loves animals, bring a pet over, or take her to the zoo.. Remind her that guys are jerks, and how the guy doesn't deserve her.. That she's too good for him. Continue reinforcing it, and make sure she realizes it so she won't go back to the scumbag. Remind her that it aint the world.. And you gotta go through some bad apples, before you know what is the perfect apple in her eyes.

Those suggestions may sound "romantic" or whatever.. But like you said, you don't like her in that way.. So long as you know that, then it'll be fine. Many girls may just see it as you comforting them and caring, and from my experience, it has made my friends happy, or at least feel better.

[molecularfire]

Seems that everything's already been said on this... so I'm not going to add any ideas of my own. Only you know what will make your friend smile, and that's what you need to do. I've tried most of the above suggestions and they've all worked well for different people (like I said... this kind of stuff's got to be tailor made). I do NOT agree with the idea of getting the guy beat up though... it will most likely make her feel worse, get her to go back with the guy (I know that he dumped her, but you really don't want her with a guilty conscious if/when he decides that he wants to get back with her again,) and will pretty much eliminate anything positive you can do for her from then on. If you're going to have him taken out... have it done by people who can't be traced back to you and a little while later, when the cause will be less obvious.

Also, for the alcohol part... do NOT do this unless you can handle your alcohol yourself. A friend of mine tried to cheer me up once when I was down with some alcohol. It was a nice gesture, but he also got drunk with me, and that led to some very serious problems on both our parts. I ended up depressing him in his anebriated (sp?) state and we both did something very very self destructive that night. Luckily, we both got out of it alive. That I do NOT suggest.