i did it, i finally let go...

[styleee]

of my wonderful, beautiful, spaceous, elegant apartment (that i've never been able to afford.)

so i found someone to sublet for the summer, and i'll be moving back into my dreadful parents house for a few weeks. luckily i'm going to be away for 6 weeks over the summer, and i plan on couch sitting for my best friend down the shore for at least a few weekends over the summer... so i guess it won't be too terrible.

and then i can always move back at the end of the summer if i can save enough $$$, or else it will be back to finding someone to rent my room for the remainder of my lease.

so please wish me luck and hope that i don't kill my family before they kill me.

but, on a more postive note, my best friend might move home this fall as well to attend grad school... and she hasn''t lived there in 6 years, and her parents are equally as bad as mine, so we might hook up the camper in my parents back yard as a sort of 'living room' for us to escape to. good idea, non?

[eSDee]

Think of all the stress you'll avoid this summer when you're not worried about trying to get the rent. Every time your 'rents get on your nerves and you think you can't take it anymore, just remember that! Perhaps it will keep you going long enough to last the summer.

Good luck :thumb:

[DoPeY5007]

Originally posted by styleee

so we might hook up the camper in my parents back yard as a sort of 'living room' for us to escape to. good idea, non? why not the two of you get an apartment? :shrug:

[topane]

Good luck. You'll be better off saving a few bucks.

[styleee]

Originally posted by DoPeY5007
why not the two of you get an apartment? :shrug:

because, for a crap 2 bedroom its still over $1k / month, and i have no money. and it wouldn't be until the fall anyway, she's not leaving her oasis any earlier then necessary!

[welfareloser]

well, good luck... living with parents as an adult is never easy... heck we just stayed overnight with prm's mom last weekend, and get this... mind you, we are talking about a 26 and a 25 year old engaged couple...

SHE MADE A BIG SHOW OF MAKING THE BEDS FOR US, YES TWO SEPARATE BEDS, ONE WITH PINK PETER RABBIT SHEETS AND ONE WITH BLUE PETER RABBIT SHEETS. i understand some parents are that way, i've heard about it before, i've just never encountered it head-on. i did a good job of not laughing.

she also makes it her job to get all worked up and stressed out on prm's behalf, like, he'll mention how we're going to do some painting and landscaping at the new house, and she says "OMG YOU DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THAT WHAT ABOUT YOUR SUMMER CLASS AND WRITING YOUR THESIS AND YOUR GRANT PROPOSAL AND OMG OMG OMG!"

anyway. parents are great cuz they love us so much.

sounds like the backyard camper is going to get some heavy use.

[Kim]

Good luck Styleee!

[WhiskeyPapa]

Originally posted by welfareloser
SHE MADE A BIG SHOW OF MAKING THE BEDS FOR US, YES TWO SEPARATE BEDS, ONE WITH PINK PETER RABBIT SHEETS AND ONE WITH BLUE PETER RABBIT SHEETS. i understand some parents are that way, i've heard about it before, i've just never encountered it head-on. i did a good job of not laughing

Well, if my unmarried adult child were to stay in my house with their fiancée/boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, I would make them stay in separate rooms. I guess I'm just old-fashioned. Not old-fashioned enough to use Peter Rabbit sheets, though.

[welfareloser]

Originally posted by kb0wwp


Well, if my unmarried adult child were to stay in my house with their fiancée/boyfriend/girlfriend/whatever, I would make them stay in separate rooms. I guess I'm just old-fashioned. Not old-fashioned enough to use Peter Rabbit sheets, though.

which would only result in their not staying at your house, unless you're really good with the "don't you love your parents anymore" guilt trips...

[Nija]

i guess my mom is immoral. AS long as there over 18 anyone can sleep with me :D

[WhiskeyPapa]

Originally posted by welfareloser
which would only result in their not staying at your house, unless you're really good with the "don't you love your parents anymore" guilt trips...

Nah, they've all grown up with me as their dad, so they know what to expect. It's not like it would hit them out-of-the blue and be a total shock ("What?! Gee, Dad, when did you become opposed to pre-marital sex??"). Besides, if you're finally out on your own, would you really want to come back and stay in a house with your 8 (or more) siblings, some who are still in diapers?

I'm not trying to say that you're a bad person or anything like that, I'm just saying that there are certain behaviors that some people aren't comfortable with. If they're under my roof, unmarried people of the opposite sex don't sleep in the same room together. If we're not under my roof (like at a motel or someone else's house) I wouldn't say a word.

[welfareloser]

Originally posted by kb0wwp
...

i know... if you've raised em, they wouldn't be comfortable with staying in the same room with their s.o. anyhoo, so you wouldn't have to "make" them do anything... different comfort levels for different folks, no big deal.

and so long as you don't think i'm immoral for doing it, it's all good... ;)

when i was in hs, my bf's parents moved far far away... and rather than change schools for the last few months of his senoir year, he moved in w/ me and my parents. my back door neighbor, who is extremely judgemental, nosy, and gossipy, ("well, where does he STAY?!?!?" :rolleyes: my mom: "we have a guest bedroom.") blabbed to everyone about what immoral ppl my parents were. there's this guy at their church who the neighbor told all about this, and he had a couple of girls in hs, couldn't imagine doing something like that... and he thought my parents were trash b/c of it.

then, this guy wound up hiring my mom, and they became very close friends. and then this guy's hs daughter got breast cancer. went through chemo. was sick and miserable and not sure if she was going to live. to make a long story short, he wound up allowing her boyfriend to sleep over because it was a great comfort to her in her time of need. (i mean, who needs an 18-year-old daughter trying to crawl into bed with you for comfort, anyway? :P )

at this point, he spilled the entire story to my mom, about how ashamed he was of thinking she was an awful person when he dint even know her. judging a situation he dint fully know about. he was in tears. and my mom said no big deal, glad you don't think so anymore. so. moral of the story...

my backdoor neighbor is a beeotch. :P

[styleee]

ah yes welfare, yet another reason that i hate my parents house...

i'm not allowd to have boys in my room. not that i would ever dream of bringing anyone to my parents house, but if there ever was an occasion, they would have to stay in the living room.

and i too am 25 freakin years old.

[jujubees]

I know you've been struggling with this decision for a while, styleee, so it's good to see it come to some sort of conclusion. :|

Good luck during this transitional period. And keep your chin up -- things will get better. :blite:

[Nija]

Originally posted by styleee
ah yes welfare, yet another reason that i hate my parents house...

i'm not allowd to have boys in my room. not that i would ever dream of bringing anyone to my parents house, but if there ever was an occasion, they would have to stay in the living room.

and i too am 25 freakin years old.

everytime I'm in the living room I get in trouble :naughty: so now everyone has to come in my bedroom...:D as per mommie