Any of you experience this?

[Jihforce]

I dunno if its just me, but I find this really weird.
When a guy is single, he probably has a harder time meeting/finding quality girls than when he's already with someone.
Anyone find this to be true?

[Hiro]

Originally posted by Jihforce
I dunno if its just me, but I find this really weird.
When a guy is single, he probably has a harder time meeting/finding quality girls than when he's already with someone.
Anyone find this to be true?
YES!! And now that I am single again, I CANT FIND ANY OF THOSE GIRLS AGAIN!! WHAT THE HELL?!

[DaFunkyUnit]

my theory is this:

once you have a gf, its kinda like you've "proven" that you're "bf material" and so your "marketability" goes up

also,
women always want what they can't have.

my $0.02

[Jihforce]

I'm thinking its because when you're taken, you tend to seem more appealing? Do girls think to themselves, "I wonder what this girl sees in him"? Blah blah...
Any ladies care to enlighten us?

[ribitch]

yeah, i had the same experiences. And when i did get close to somebody, they wanted to be with me for sympathy even though i wanted more.

I hope you get through it. I was so releaved when i did

[revil]

What are you guys talking about? I thought we had to pay to get close to girls?

[Hiro]

Originally posted by Jihforce
Any ladies care to enlighten us?
:stupid:

[molecularfire]

Not surprised at all. Actually, I have a friend that uses this system. When he's single, he goes after girls that he knows that he can get even if he's not interested in them. Then, he uses it as a launch point to get higher caliber girls. Moral issues aside, it seems to work pretty well for him. :shrug:

I think it has to do with girls wanting something of someone else's that they don't have. Girls in general (I know... I'm being sexist) check out other girls and compare themselves to the other girls. If the other girl has something that the first girl doesn't have but seems cook, the first girl wants it. BFs are no different. We're just possessions to them. :P That and maybe mixed with girls wanting guys that aren't good for them. Lets face it... someone else's guy is probably not good for the first girl.

BTW: This is the opinion of a guy and therefore not really relevant. I would be very interested in what the female members of G|A think.

[whitak24]

Originally posted by molecularfire
I think it has to do with girls wanting something of someone else's that they don't have. Girls in general (I know... I'm being sexist) check out other girls and compare themselves to the other girls. If the other girl has something that the first girl doesn't have but seems cook, the first girl wants it. BFs are no different. We're just possessions to them. :P
yeah, i think that's a big part of it. i always here girls talking about how some girl is with some guy who is "totally out of her class". so if the first girl can steal the boy away, she proves (in her own mind) that she is way classier than the ex-girlfriend.

Originally posted by DaFunkyUnit
once you have a gf, its kinda like you've "proven" that you're "bf material" and so your "marketability" goes up
another good point. if you already have a GF, you prove that you are "domesticated" and it also gives you opportunities to talk to girls about what is up with you and your GF. if you're being nice to her, they know that you're well-trained :D

[joe52985]

haha...i am loving this "theory" my gf gets soooo mad tho because she keeps such good tabs on me i could talk to a girl at the mall and she would yell at me a week later! Being me, i couldnt get a date if my life depended on it unless i get about 16 ounces of vodka going by the iced tea bottles in me (i know i know im young) then i am the ladies man and get more daring! but not even trying now that i have a gf it seems alot easier to get another girl not even trying

[MJordanash]

Originally posted by DaFunkyUnit
my theory is this:

once you have a gf, its kinda like you've "proven" that you're "bf material" and so your "marketability" goes up

also,
women always want what they can't have.

my $0.02
Coming from the female perspective here, I must agree to an extent. It does show that a man is able to commit if he has a girlfriend. I cant say I agree with the woman want what they cant have sentence. It might be true for some, but at the same time, that goes both ways for men then.

[Lolita]

Just a sidenote: Guys go for the unavailable girl too.

[revil]

Originally posted by Lolita
Just a sidenote: Guys go for the unavailable girl too.
Well, ya. but the agency will usually send over a girl at a discounted price. that's why you ask for the unavailable one... I think i've said too much :dodgy:

[hapoo]

so why is it that when a girl who stole a guy in the first place gets cheated on will bitch till the cows come home?

[Hiro]

Originally posted by hapoo
so why is it that when a girl who stole a guy in the first place gets cheated on will bitch till the cows come home?
:stupid:

I like what he said. Same goes for guys though. If they steal a girl and she cheats on him, they bitch to high heaven as well.

[Jihforce]

I gotta agree with MJ.
I don't think its as much "wanting what they don't have" or the "domesticated" aspect of it. I think its got to do with what you have to offer, as a guy. Whether it be "commitment" or something else.
I've even had some women admit they like being the "the other woman". I don't know what that one is about, that's for sure. :shrug:

[Nanotech9]

Originally posted by Lolita
Just a sidenote: Guys go for the unavailable girl too.

yeha - i was gonna say - its a lto easier for me to be friends with the really hot girls that are already taken, and for them to hang with me if they're taken....

and yeah - when i had even a psycho GF a few months ago, all teh girls at the office started treating me differently... go figure (and they are either married or engaged).

heres a flaw in the system though - just cause a guy is with a girl doesnt mean he can commit, or that hes worth being interested in...

and on the other hand, guys like me that arent interested in anything superficial - just a real relationship - and dont have a girl hanging on their arm get sorta left out by the nice / hot girls. - all because were actually more seious than the average guy. The gals dont know what they're missing out on - if only they'd take the time to talk to us.

[CluelessSi]

hmmm.... maybe it is because the girl feels less intimidated by a guy that has a gf. and that she can be more friendly without fearing you would like her.... guys tend to be more aggressivly looking for girls when single thus might be a turn off to some... Or maybe you are just more sensitive when in that situation... or maybe the girl doesn't want commitment or responsiblilty. :shrug: just some food for thought and different POV

[jujubees]

Originally posted by Lolita
Just a sidenote: Guys go for the unavailable girl too. :stupid:

And puh-leez ... when did this become a strictly female psychosis? :rolleyes:

When you stop looking for something, you're bound to stumble upon it ... and a few extras, to boot. :P

[molecularfire]

Yeah, but I know why guys do it. I'm trying to figure out why girls do it. The answer doesn't necessarily have to be the same between genders. :)

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by jujubees
:stupid:

And puh-leez ... when did this become a strictly female psychosis? :rolleyes:

When you stop looking for something, you're bound to stumble upon it ... and a few extras, to boot. :P

Yeah I'm sure this could also happen to girls too. I guess a better way to phrase this would to by single people have a harder time finding someone then those who are already in a relationship.

I remember when I was single 3 years ago, I had the toughest time meeting someone interesting (I met people, but for some reason the chemistry wasn't there). Now that I finally found someone, all these incredible women keep popping out everywhere. I just makes you think.

[DaFunkyUnit]

i guess the grass i always greener on the other side... :hihi: