If you could spy on your significant other, would you?

[pennyFX]

Strange question here but I'm just wondering if anyone would ever set up a key logger on their significant other’s computer, if you knew that there is no way that they would find out?

[Hiro]

no. i trust my girlfriend.

why would you have a reason to?

[jase71]

Nope. I wouldn't bother.

I trust my wife completely. But violating her privacy like that would give her good reason to be suspicious of me if I did do it.

I'd never be able to live with myself if I did something like that to her.

I'll pass, thanks.

[CornMonkey]

if you spy on her, you don't trust her. if you lose trust, you lose the relationship. then you'd have no one to spy on.

[pennyFX]

I just came up with the idea today of how to make a program and secretly deploy it on a remote computer. So part of the reason is just see if I could do it…. And the rest would be curiosity.
Well I guess I should go into the full story .. Well I’ve been in this long distance relationship sometime now and in a few months I’m finally going to get to see her again. I guess I’m just wondering if she has doubts about the relationship and if she’s just to afraid to tell me… I just get that feeling sometimes. Call it insecurity or whatever, but long distance relationships are hard no matter what. And if you say that you never have doubts then you’re just lying to yourself. Soo anyway.. My plan.. or idea was to make this key logger and have it collect data for hmmm.. a few months or something.. then once I get there to visit .. I can check it..
But I also have the option of deleting it at that time too.
It’s just strange to think about.. .Having the opportunity to peer into some ones life...
And I’m not even sure if I would check it once I get there anyway…

I’m still just pondering the idea…..

I like your replies though...

[Pinkgirl36]

Nope, I trust Dopey and he's told me that he would never do that to me cuz he trusts me too :)

[jase71]

Originally posted by pennyFX
And if you say that you never have doubts then you’re just lying to yourself.

Nope. I have no doubts about my wife. I never would have believed it before I met her... never would have thought it was possible to have NO doubts about someone. But I have none about her.

I actually trust her more than I trust myself. The fears I have are all about my own potential behavior, not hers.

[sbp]

pennyFX: Trust and good communication are essential to a solid relationship.

If this plan was done and she found out, she would be hurt and the relationship would end.

[sbp]

Originally posted by jase71
I actually trust her more than I trust myself. The fears I have are all about my own potential behavior, not hers. Yep guys once you get married you just can't rush out to buy a GF4 Ti4600 card. Otherwise its the doghouse. :eek:

[jase71]

Originally posted by sbp
Yep guys once you get married you just can't rush out to buy a GF4 Ti4600 card. Otherwise its the doghouse. :eek:

:heh:

Been there. It's amazing how intolerant wives can be about computer/car parts purchases when they want new bedroom furniture. :P

[pennyFX]

yeah i agree with everyone.. It was just an idea.. The more I think about it the less I would want to do it.
We do have great communication.. but it's just not quite as good as it used to be. It's hard to keep a long distance relationship going... and it becomes hard to have fresh funny and enjoyable things to say. SAying the same old good bye's and hello's and how are you..just begins to get old.

[CornMonkey]

Originally posted by jase71


:heh:

Been there. It's amazing how intolerant wives can be about computer/car parts purchases when they want new bedroom furniture. :P
note taken, oh wise and experienced one. :D

[brainsmile]

Originally posted by Pinkgirl36
Nope, I trust Dopey and he's told me that he would never do that to me cuz he trusts me too :) hmmm but I spy on both of you :P

[NuTs62]

Originally posted by pennyFX
yeah i agree with everyone.. It was just an idea.. The more I think about it the less I would want to do it.
We do have great communication.. but it's just not quite as good as it used to be. It's hard to keep a long distance relationship going... and it becomes hard to have fresh funny and enjoyable things to say. SAying the same old good bye's and hello's and how are you..just begins to get old.

in relationships, a couple isn't always together in the same place.. sometimes people go away for a bit.. if you have great communication, that wouldn't be a problem. many of my conversations with friends involve "hello" "goodbye" and "how are you".. thats not the whole conversation in itself, but its a conversation starter (except for goodbye :P) .. its not the issue of a long-distance relationship i think.. because i've seen many relationships, ones that are close, go through the same problem..

no offense, but i'm totally against the idea of keeping tabs on your gf. if you question the relationship, perhaps you and her need to have a talk? maybe she can reassure you. :shrug:

[Nija]

Simple enough question.
Simple enough answer. Do what you feel you should.

I say if I don't trust the wench, why stay in a relationship with her?

[Hiro]

Originally posted by Nija
I say if I don't trust the wench, why stay in a relationship with her?
Trust goes very far.

You know, for being Nija, I have seen a lot of nuggets of wisdom outta you today. :P stuff i actually agree with! :D

[Nija]

Originally posted by Corsec

Trust goes very far.

You know, for being Nija, I have seen a lot of nuggets of wisdom outta you today. :P stuff i actually agree with! :D

I'm always full of nuggets... just most of them aren't gold :D

A lot of people agree with me. Too bad no one wants to actually admit it... they can't hang... too many misconceptions, or sumthing....

*yawn*

[Kevster]

Originally posted by jase71


:heh:

Been there. It's amazing how intolerant wives can be about computer/car parts purchases when they want new bedroom furniture. :P

:laugh:

Wow - You just described my situation! :heh: The only problem is we can't agree on anything when we go furniture shopping. I'm sure we'll find something if we look around long enough, it's just that right now there's a lot of stuff that we marginally like and don't feel like spending $3000 on furniture we might end up wanting to get rid of later.

My wife and I have a strong mutual trust - and like you Jase I also trust my wife more than I trust myself. ;) We also go through the bills together so that we have a good idea of what our cash flow is after all the bills are paid and 401k/Roth/Investment money has been debited away for safekeeping.