another other S.O. thread

[joe52985]

Ok, well i guess it goes both ways eh? heres the question

In my school we have a week-about shop system, shop every other week. our once big class got unevenly divided, 28 students in one week, and me and a girl named daisy in the next week. My girlfriend is in my shop, but in another room of it (information tech and shes over at digital imaging next door). I used to like daisy about a year ago, way before me and my gf started going out, but my girlfriend was my bestfriend then so i told her i liked daisy, a year and a half ago . Me and daisy are in shop together without any other students periods 3 thru 7 every day. my gf was pissed at the idea thinking i was gonna cheat right away. she would pull me aside every day at lunch or inbetween classes in a pissy mood cause i was talking to daisy. It gets pretty lonly for 4 periods straight, so who wouldnt talk to the only person in class, who happens to be a girl u used to like (which doesnt even matter)

I AM NOT a person who would ever cheat on a girl, EVER.

My girlfriend is convinced daisy is a threat, which indeed, if i pursued, she would be. but im not gonna!

i tell her this all the time, but she still seems to think it.

i have a dillema in a fact that daisy is a girl that is always all over you, especailly me for some odd reason. always sittin on my lap, or at least trying to, grinding, ya know, the works in that respect. which kinda pisses me off cause she knows i have a gf, but i dont wanna mess things up in the beginning of the year and have to sit with daisy being a b*tch all year.

how can i convince my gf that daisy is not a threat. I tell her how annoying daisy is and it seems to help (cause daisy is a bug and a half) but she goes back to being scared of daisy trying anything, or me trying anything, which i really resent because i have done nothing but love her and respect her, and all i get in return is accusations of cheating!

what do i do!!!!

women....sheesh
wow, im sorry about the spelling, and or sentence structure or lack of any. read the sig.

[DaFunkyUnit]

Originally posted by joe52985
Ok, well i guess it goes both ways eh? heres the question

In my school we have a week-about shop system, shop every other week. our once big class got unevenly divided, 28 students in one week, and me and a girl named daisy in the next week. My girlfriend is in my shop, but in another room of it (information tech and shes over at digital imaging next door). I used to like daisy about a year ago, way before me and my gf started going out, but my girlfriend was my bestfriend then so i told her i liked daisy, a year and a half ago . Me and daisy are in shop together without any other students periods 3 thru 7 every day. my gf was pissed at the idea thinking i was gonna cheat right away. she would pull me aside every day at lunch or inbetween classes in a pissy mood cause i was talking to daisy. It gets pretty lonly for 4 periods straight, so who wouldnt talk to the only person in class, who happens to be a girl u used to like (which doesnt even matter)

I AM NOT a person who would ever cheat on a girl, EVER.

My girlfriend is convinced daisy is a threat, which indeed, if i pursued, she would be. but im not gonna!

i tell her this all the time, but she still seems to think it.

i have a dillema in a fact that daisy is a girl that is always all over you, especailly me for some odd reason. always sittin on my lap, or at least trying to, grinding, ya know, the works in that respect. which kinda pisses me off cause she knows i have a gf, but i dont wanna mess things up in the beginning of the year and have to sit with daisy being a b*tch all year.

how can i convince my gf that daisy is not a threat. I tell her how annoying daisy is and it seems to help (cause daisy is a bug and a half) but she goes back to being scared of daisy trying anything, or me trying anything, which i really resent because i have done nothing but love her and respect her, and all i get in return is accusations of cheating!

what do i do!!!!

women....sheesh
wow, im sorry about the spelling, and or sentence structure or lack of any. read the sig.

all three of you should spend some "quality time" together :naughty:

[NuTs62]

how long have you and your gf been going out? think she just needs some reassurance.. many people in a relationship would feel jealous or a bit uneasy if their partner spent so much time with the person he/she used to like. before she even questions you or pulls you aside, go spend time with her, if possible? :shrug:

[DaFunkyUnit]

Originally posted by NuTs62
how long have you and your gf been going out? think she just needs some reassurance.. many people in a relationship would feel jealous or a bit uneasy if their partner spent so much time with the person he/she used to like. before she even questions you or pulls you aside, go spend time with her, if possible? :shrug:


girls absolutely LOVE it when their bf's have to "defend his claim." go fig... :rolleyes:

[joe52985]

Originally posted by NuTs62
how long have you and your gf been going out? think she just needs some reassurance.. many people in a relationship would feel jealous or a bit uneasy if their partner spent so much time with the person he/she used to like. before she even questions you or pulls you aside, go spend time with her, if possible? :shrug:

6 months, on tuesday! :), shes in florida until sunday so no go on the spending time

[Cantacuzene]

tell her something like this when she grinds on your lap...
http://www.theforumisdown.com/uploadfiles/0802/backoff.jpg

[DaFunkyUnit]

Originally posted by Cantacuzene
http://www.theforumisdown.com/uploadfiles/0802/backoff.jpg

what the hell? Max Headroom on 'shrooms?

[latingirl]

#1 I think you should be totally honest with Daisy and tell her what you think of her being all up on you (but keep the gf being jealous part to yourself...if she's the competitive type, she might use that info to her advantage...girls can be sneaky). Cause what will happen is that your gf will come in just in time to catch Daisy rubbin all over you or something. If you value the relationship with your girl and are not at all interested in Daisy anymore, pissing her off shouldn't matter much.

As far as your gf is concerned...be honest with her too. Tell her about how Daisy is and that you told her to back off. I know it gets lonely in class, but since Daisy gets all touchy/feely...your best bet is to stay away from her.

If she was more mature, then I would say to conversate but just be a little careful. And when your gf is around, be sure to include her in the conversations so she knows this girl is not a threat. Also, be obvious that you and your gf are an "item" in front of the other girl (when guys are interested in someone else, they tend to "back off" from their gf's to signal that its "not all that" a la "say my name"...lil do they know that their vibe is sooo obvious).

That's how I would want my man to handle it, anyway.

[DaFunkyUnit]

Originally posted by latingirl
That's how I would want my man to handle it, anyway.

yea, but would you still be saying that if you were the one who was "clingy"?

[latingirl]

Originally posted by DaFunkyUnit


yea, but would you still be saying that if you were the one who was "clingy"?

Um, I don't know what you mean?

If you were referring to me, I don't think that's being clingy. I just like honesty. Shoot, if you'd wanna be with someone else...

Just let me know and I can move on.

If you were referring to his gf...hopefully she's just acting this way cause she's young. Maybe through experience (and with the help of her bf if he's willing), she'll grow and learn how to handle the situation where she's not only representin' herself but also being fair to him.

[irwin]

Dude, just transfer.

[Freelance Superhero]

again, i have to agree with everything latingirl said...

and DUDE, don't let that daisy chick be all up on you, grindin and whatnot! of COURSE your gf is gonna think something's up if she happens to see that! you gotta put that girl back in her place, or she might be led to act up even more... and, all jokes aside, if you value your relationship with your gf, i think it's better to have daisy be bitchy to you all year than to have her rubbin up on your testiculars...

[chrissy]

Sounds like your threads are related. Is she playing the boy thing because of Daisy? Keeping someone around to get your jealous because Daisy is making her jealous sounds about right.

And of course that other guy has faults... She just doesn't let you know it.

As for what to say to your GF, heck, communication, assurance and remind her that you are with her and not Daisy and you don't see that changing.

As for Daisy, tell her she had her chance and to stop making a fool of herself. She is prob better than that.

[joe52985]

ehhh, no relation in the threads, she just started talking to him this year, b4 i was even near daisy so much