How did YOU do it?? (for those that are engaged and married)

[marchk]

How did you propose marriage to your g/f-b/f or wife-husband?
I need to get my mind back into creative mode and would like to hear your stories, whether they went over well or not at all. :love2:

[cheapie]

my proposal was a lot of work but worth the effort. it was in november and i made this large (7feet by 3 feet) sign with christmas lights that spelled out "will you marry me?" she and i had this place just outside of the city along a river where we, and probably the rest of the city, liked to go and hang out and listen to music. i took the sign out there and asked the nearest house, which was about 100 yards away, if we could run extension cords to their house to run the sign. they agreed. so....one evening i took her out to eat, nothing fancy, and had just a fun date. i didn't want to take her anywhere too elegant because she might have started wondering. i had my friends set everything up and let me know when to come. we had just finished dinner when i got a page (yeah, pagers were big back in the day=) letting me know that it would be another 1/2 hour before everything was in place. so, under the pretense of having to check my email, we went to my school and burned 30 minutes or so. then i suggested we go out to the river for a while. when we showed up, there was a small fire burning with a blanket, bottle of bubbly, chocolate, and some strawberries nearby. also, i had put together a tape with all of our favorite songs on it and it was playing softly on a boom box....we ate the stuff, cuddled, and then i asked her if she wanted to dance. we danced for a couple of songs until "our" song came on. while we were dancing to it, i pretended to stumble just a little on a rock and bent down to toss it in the river. that was my friends' (who were hiding across the small river) cue to plug the sign it. i made sure she was facing it and then got on one knee and asked her. she was very suprised! i don't think i gave her the ring there. i was too worried she'd drop it in the rocks with how excited she was.

[nickel]

that is so cool :)

how long have you been married now?
cause i know girl hadda say yes :P

[cheapie]

been married bout 5 years now. i'm a pretty creative person but i'm also lazy. which means that i don't do stuff like this for her often enough. i need to suprise her with a cool trip sometime soon.

[Jenny]

That is a GREAT story!!

I knew my hubby was going to ask me (I weasled it out of him when we were on the computer chatting one day that he was thinking of asking me soon. LOL) when he came down to visit just after Valentine's Day 1996. We were both in college (different states/schools) and I was working at a pizza place. So when he came down, we went to the pizza place, I made us a pizza, we picked up some pop & went to his hotel room. We were eating pizza and without saying anything, went down on one knee and asked me. He didn't have a ring yet, but it surprised me anyway, cause we weren't doing anything special. :)

[marchk]

There's a good chance I will "pop the question" one day during Christmas week while we're up in NY City this year. (about a week and a half from now :confused: )

On Christmas eve, the romantic setting should be set by the night alone, I think. And that should be a great time to ask her. Still need to work out where and how, which will be tough since I've never really spent time in NYC.

[WhiskeyPapa]

My gf woke me up one morning and said "the rabbit died". I replied "So I suppose we should get married, then."

We got married 3 months later. After 18 years and 9 children, we're still together!

[cheapie]

ooooh....you need to do it at the top of the empire state building like they did in that one old movie. and in sleepless in seattle.

[CornMonkey]

Originally posted by kb0wwp
My gf woke me up one morning and said "the rabbit died". I replied "So I suppose we should get married, then."

We got married 3 months later. After 18 years and 9 children, we're still together!
9 children?!?! wow... :eek:

[Jihforce]

I asked my gf at that time to pack her bags so we could go to Palm Springs. I said that I would like to go out of time because I need a vacation and I wanted her to come. So she said alright. We booked a hotel for two nice with a nice hottub and all that jazz. We cruise out there, hung out, dined, wined, got some sun and did all the tourist things and at night we went to a nice place for dinner. When we got back to our room that nite, I gave her a little box and said to her that is was a little gift from me to her. (I have the tendency of giving her little gifts for no reason, so she didnt' suspect anything) Inside, I wrote her a poem on the back of that sheet, I wrote "will you marry me?" and when she turned to read the back, I dropped to one knee and popped open the case (the case had a nice little spot light shinning down on ring, thanks to Leon for suggesting that).
At first I wanted to do it somewhere else, but since i didn't know Palm Springs very well, I didn't know where to go. :P

[cheapie]

Originally posted by DarkFury

Yeah... why else do you think that he needs that big green van. :D :hihi:

making love in my chevy van...and that's all right with me...

[whitak24]

Originally posted by cheapbast@rd
cheapbastard's story
damn dude.....you are GOOD! that is some excellent work there :thumbup:

i don't know what i'm going to do when i propose. of course, i don't know when i'm going to propose, either, so i'm still ok :hihi:

i suppose it will be sometime in the next couple years.....

i like to surprise my GF, and i like to do romantic things for her, but i am not really a big "production" person. so while i could probably work up some impressive show like cheapie came up with, i don't know if i will. it just seems like it would be so unnatural for me to do so, and i'm not sure if, when you are asking someone to spend the rest of their life with you, you should put yourself completely outside of your element.

i mean, when you look at the stories from various people here, and then look at their relationship with their husband/wife, i would guess that you'll find that in most cases, the style of the relationship parallels the style of the proposal. so it seems like it's wise for me to try to figure out what i want to do.....i just don't know what that is.

of course, my GF and i have talked about this (she knows she's getting a proposal eventually, but she WILL NOT EVER know when it's coming). but she fell asleep during the conversation (we were on the phone). i'm still harrassing her about that.... :heh:

[cheapie]

however, you need to remember that many girls have been looking forward to this event since they were little so you want it to live up to their expectation. and when they get engaged, all of their friends are going to want to know ALL of the details and you want to have them tell your woman, "awww, you are so lucky! my man just asked me at the...."

[marchk]

Originally posted by cheapbast@rd
however, you need to remember that many girls have been looking forward to this event since they were little so you want it to live up to their expectation. and when they get engaged, all of their friends are going to want to know ALL of the details and you want to have them tell your woman, "awww, you are so lucky! my man just asked me at the...."

I totally agree. It pays to go out of your way and do something uncharacteristic and suprising for her.

Thanks for sharing your stories so far.

[LPMiller]

every year we'd do lovelines to each other, which is putting an ad in the Star Tribune for their Valentines edition. One year, I proposed. Only they screwed it up; you guys know how I write, punctuation is very important and the newspaper decided I didn't need it in the particular spots I wanted it in, but where fate and god thought they should go.

So it was all f'ed up. didn't make a darn bit of sense. So I had to read it to her, over the phone, for her to understand. Didn't work out as planned at all but...eh, 8 years and going strong.

[welfareloser]

those stories - even when it got all effed up - are all really sweet!

we had been dating for about two weeks and we were talking... i think just about where we saw our lives going and what we thought was really important... and one of the things that came up was that living someplace not too urban, not too expensive, reasonably close to our families and a healthy environment for kids, and with some degree of natural beauty was important to both of us. and prm said good, he was glad we agreed, because he was going to marry me as soon as he could, and i said good, i was thinking the same thing. and that was that... we got married as soon as we could get all the paperwork together!

[hoey222]

ok - i helped out on this one for a friend

we were staying at a beach place on the boardwalk. a highrise. on the 8th floor. the "to be engaged" couple slept out on the balcony that night (it was summer). there were 3 of us that stayed up all night. just before sunrise we went out onto the beach and wrote "will you marry me" in the sand in 20ft letters. when the sun came up he woke and told her to look over the balcony at the sand and then handed her the ring.



:D

[blueindian]

we were at a big bluegrass festival in North Carolina. Probably around 60,000 folks there. a friend of my (future)mother-in-law smuggled my ring in for me so it wouldn't be in my possession, and my girl couldn't find it.

I was supposed to get on the main stage (there were about 15 differenct stages) on Friday night to propose. A buddy was working the festival and said it would be no problem. The plan was to get on stage during Alison Kraus's set break and pop the question. BUT...we didn't count on my POS Sprint phone not being able to get a signal. so, i never could get in touch with my friend.

MOTHER-IN-LAW to the rescue: After walking around for about 3 hours trying to convince any of the stage managers to let me on stage, I was begining to formulate other plans. I went back and told mother-in-law and her friend(the one that had the ring). they were like, bull****...you're getting on a stage. so they went up to another stage and the dude was just like....OK. He can do it at the set break. So we got my fiance' over to the stage, and just out of coincedence everyone we were at the festival was already at that stage. I called her up, got on my knee, asked the qustion...the rest is history. about 500 people saw it. here's a couple of pics. we wanted to video it, but they wouldn't let us in with a camcorder.

edit: for some reason the first link dosen't work. beats me.
you can cut and paste it and it might work.
http://www.geocities.com/blueindian1/images/prop1.jpg
http://www.geocities.com/blueindian1/images/prop2.jpg
http://www.geocities.com/blueindian1/images/prop3.jpg
http://www.geocities.com/blueindian1/images/prop4.jpg

[revil]

I haven't been married, but when i ask, it usually goes like this: "You have a nice rack, so you should be my wife." though, it hasn't worked yet. I can't figure out why.

[cheapie]

hmmm...don't see anything wrong with that. maybe you're just dating women with standards. that could be the problem.

[WhiskeyPapa]

Originally posted by blueindian
we wanted to video it, but they wouldn't let us in with a camcorder.Yeah, they got a big problem with all the pirate bluegrass videos on the internet... :rolleyes:

Anyway, good story. :thumbup:

[welfareloser]

Originally posted by revil
I haven't been married, but when i ask, it usually goes like this: "You have a nice rack, so you should be my wife." though, it hasn't worked yet. I can't figure out why.

dude, that's so crass. no wonder. tell em they have nice TITS, not a "nice rack." should get you much further.

[Hunny]

Originally posted by cheapbast@rd
my proposal was a lot of work but worth the effort.


Awwwwww....that was awesome !!

[Paymaster]

We were in vacation in Hawaii when I asked her to go for a walk with me along Waikiki beach. When we reached the end of our walk, I “found” a very beautiful shell on the beach (I had brought it with me and palmed it). When I gave it to her, she turned it over and found her diamond solitaire ring hidden inside! I got down on one knee, asked her to marry me, and she said “yes”.

We are still planning the wedding. :)

[GraingerGuy]

Originally posted by kb0wwp
Yeah, they got a big problem with all the pirate bluegrass videos on the internet... :rolleyes:

Anyway, good story. :thumbup:

Hey!! Bluegrass is awesome stuff!! (And yes...I'm being serious)


dude, that's so crass. no wonder. tell em they have nice TITS, not a "nice rack." should get you much further.

:heh: That's hilarious!