20's and Immature

[TERRIBLETOM]

I know there are exceptions to every rule. At age 18 you are considered an adult. You are invited to vote and have the privilege of serving in our Armed Forces, but society finds that you are not mature and responsible enough to accommodate alcohol into your agenda's. By the time you reach 21, you may have had 2/3 years of college, and by age 24, most will have fit in 4 years . While college assists you to some maturity level and in the findings of improving your spelling and grammar skills, your outlook on life is still pretty much immature. You have still been living in a sheltered life and many decisions made at this time will be of an immaturity and in negligence to others. It takes years of exposure and actual hands-on to mature you into the person you will become some day. So if you're in your early 20's and think you just know it all, just wait until your 35 and look back on how foolish you were.

[WhiskeyPapa]

:stupid:

I clearly remember thinking I knew it all. I remember thinking that all the "older people" I worked with were idiots, and that I should be promoted to the president of the company. I also made sure I told anyone and everyone how smart I was. I couldn't understand why the promotions didn't come fast and furious.

Now that I look back, I realize that I had no clue how much there is to know! The true measure of wisdom is not how much you know, but how much you realize you don't know!

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Here's another thing I've noticed about people in their early to mid 20's: They all say "There's nothing for us to do!" How many times have you heard (or said) that? Heck, I used to say it too. Kind of like the ages 22-29 were the most boring years.

Now I know why...

You just spent the first 18 years of your life having all of your activities planned for you. Everything from playtime to naptime, sporting events, homecomming, prom, graduation, etc. Then in college you get more of the same - events and activities handed to you on a silver platter, just waiting for you to come and enjoy.

Then you enter the "real world" - and no one is going to plan anything for you. If you want to do something fun, you do it yourself. By the time you're 30 you realize that planning it yourself isn't really worth the trouble, so you end up like the rest of us - watching TV! :P

[Jihforce]

Quite true I have to say. When I graduated from school, I didn't know what to do with myself. You work, then you come home, eat, then what? The are no roommates asking you to go somewhere or any "activities" that doesn't require you to spend tons of cash.
I never really thought of myself "knowing it all" during my younger years. Every year, I'm proven wrong on something I thought I knew. Even know. I don't realyl think there's a specific age where you are considered "mature". I think maturity is progressive, you become more mature as you grow older, but you never quite reach that mature stage.

[Freelance Superhero]

don't take this question the wrong way, but was there any particular reason behind this thread?

[revil]

Originally posted by Freelance Superhero
don't take this question the wrong way, but was there any particular reason behind this thread?
old farts reminiscing about days lost.

[TERRIBLETOM]

Originally posted by Freelance Superhero
don't take this question the wrong way, but was there any particular reason behind this thread? It's something that I see in some younger generation groups, I'm sure that everyone has walked through the mall and said to themselves as they looked at a younger group "I wonder if I acted like that when I was there age" The real kicker is that some may appear mature on the outside until they open there mouth, then you see how immature they really are and don't have a clue of what's going on. Another example may be that they are quick to point out mistakes in your grammar or punctuation because they learned a little something but then cant apply it to read directions to set the clock on a VCR or to change a flat tire.

[Hunny]

Originally posted by Freelance Superhero
don't take this question the wrong way, but was there any particular reason behind this thread?

Is there a reason for any topic? ...
This forum definately has a variety for sure...from the Military, the Death Penalty, Malaysia hates Brad, P3rsians neighbor :P , to....Pubic hair pizza :shake:
You have to laugh...and hey, I thought this was a pretty good topic...

I'm in my 20's and I am very mature :D ...ok..actually...when I was in my 20's I thought I was grown & I knew it all too...still do :bonk:

...Jihforce, I liked what you said, and I agree...


I think maturity is progressive, you become more mature as you grow older, but you never quite reach that mature stage.

Its a continuous growth...

Btw kb0wwp, nice quote about wisdom...
:)

[Blu]

Not directed at anyone in particular, but I think "maturity" is just an excuse for older generations to express their jealousy in condecending ways. They say "I'm old and wise, you are young and dumb," while what they should say is "I wish I did what you're doing when I was your age."

[zenbooty]

The wisdom of life cannot be taught. It can only be learned, and usually the hard way.

Why older people resent the youthful naivete of the young these days is beyond me. Insecurity, I guess.

Why young people today bristle at the advice of their elders, and get offended when reminded of their youthful naivete is beyond me. Insecurity, I guess.

If everyone would just relax, smoke up, and accept the simple truths in life without bitterness or regret, the generations would go much further in getting along.

[Hunny]

Originally posted by zenbooty
The wisdom of life cannot be taught. It can only be learned, and usually the hard way.

Why older people resent the youthful naivete of the young these days is beyond me. Insecurity, I guess.

If everyone would just relax, smoke up, and accept the simple truths in life without bitterness or regret, the generations would go much further in getting along.


Who said anything about resentment?.... and what are the simple truths in life?..that 20 year olds are immature? :eek:
I thought so ... :wavesmilie:
I'd like to think of myself as being seasoned :P
Here...I think you need a candybar :bonk:
:P :poke:

[zenbooty]

Originally posted by Hunny
Who said anything about resentment?....
Terrible Tom's initial post seemed a little caustic to me. And don't tell me you've never heard somebody whining about "kids today!"
and what are the simple truths in life?..that 20 year olds are immature? That's certainly one of them. More to the point, there is no fast and easy way to become more mature. Even people who are mature for their age (like me) have a long way to go. People never stop growing. That should be a source of strength and inspiration. Not a cause for insecurity and defensiveness.
I'd like to think of myself as being seasoned :P And I like to believe that I am weathered
I think you need a candybar :bonk: :P :poke: Ouch!

[TERRIBLETOM]

Originally posted by zenbooty
Terrible Tom's initial post seemed a little caustic to me. And don't tell me you've never heard somebody whining about "kids today I basically dislike whiners and complainers, I usually just walk away. I remember when i was in my 20's and I never acted the way some do after graduating college. I was always the type to keep my ear open for a chance to learn rather than thinking I knew it all.

[Blu]

Originally posted by TERRIBLETOM
I basically dislike whiners and complainers, I usually just walk away. I remember when i was in my 20's and I never acted the way some do after graduating college. I was always the type to keep my ear open for a chance to learn rather than thinking I knew it all.

Well then, I see that this thread has gone from "Damn those young whippersnappers," to "I never did that when I was your age." Great!

[TERRIBLETOM]

I'm glad you agree.:poke:

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by Blu


Well then, I see that this thread has gone from "Damn those young whippersnappers," to "I never did that when I was your age." Great!

Hahaha you sound bitter. :heh:
Remember, you too will become older and will start seeing things about younger generations that you may or may not agree with.
I think younger generations can benefit from older generations telling their side of the story. Not all of it is irrelevant. I think younger generations need to be more receptive of advice while older generations need to avoid turning advice into nagging.

[Blu]

Originally posted by Jihforce


Hahaha you sound bitter. :heh:
Remember, you too will become older and will start seeing things about younger generations that you may or may not agree with.
I think younger generations can benefit from older generations telling their side of the story. Not all of it is irrelevant. I think younger generations need to be more receptive of advice while older generations need to avoid turning advice into nagging.

That'll happen when Satan takes a winter vacation. I just think as people get older, the tend to "remember advantageously." And! I also think that the older generation perpetually expects thier offspring to "grow up" at light speed.

[zenbooty]

Your painting with VERY broad strokes here.

[Hunny]

Originally posted by Blu


That'll happen when Satan takes a winter vacation. I just think as people get older, the tend to "remember advantageously." And! I also think that the older generation perpetually expects thier offspring to "grow up" at light speed.


Would that be like selective memory?....and I don't think Terrible Toms original post sounded caustic......as Tom also stated in his first sentence...

I know there are exceptions to every rule.
Are you that exception?...I think not !!
I think its the way you read it...possibly with a "tude" or was that just your defense mechanism kicking in :eek: :P



Where's my candybar :bonk:

..noone here expects anyone to "grow up" at light speed...by all means..take your time... just don't act like "Mr Know it all Jack A*" while doing it...:eek: :poke:

[zenbooty]

Originally posted by TERRIBLETOM
So if you're in your early 20's and think you just know it all, just wait until your 35 and look back on how foolish you were. I dunno, I think that's pretty caustic, even if he said exceptions to every rule. Sure, he's got a point, but his tone has a certain mean spirited "Just you wait!" feel to it.

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by Blu


That'll happen when Satan takes a winter vacation. I just think as people get older, the tend to "remember advantageously." And! I also think that the older generation perpetually expects thier offspring to "grow up" at light speed.

True, that won't happen overnight. But everyone will benefit from reminding themselves that we shouldn't treat older and younger generations with disrespect.
You ARE aweare that you will eventually grow old. No one stays young forever, so essentially you are being resentful of people that you'll eventually become. Kinda ironic if you ask me.

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by zenbooty
I dunno, I think that's pretty caustic, even if he said exceptions to every rule. Sure, he's got a point, but his tone has a certain mean spirited "Just you wait!" feel to it.
Yeah it does sound like that. But he does have a point. I have to say that every 5 years, I've found myself say "wow, I can't believe I did that back then". You make mistakes, you learn and you move on. I can say that in my life, I've had older folks telling me things that I did listen and benefited from. While there have been times when I wanted to kick myself for not listening to advice that was given to me. Then, there's also bad advice too...

[Hunny]

Originally posted by zenbooty
I dunno, I think that's pretty caustic, even if he said exceptions to every rule. Sure, he's got a point, but his tone has a certain mean spirited "Just you wait!" feel to it.


I think this goes under the thread " First Impressions"...:P
and in Terrible Toms defense....
I really believe you have to know someone in person before you can actually judge someones personality or how they come across...
...and without losing the topic here...ok...how about we put it another way....20 yr olds don't act like Jack A* & know it alls....

They are the belly button of the universe
:rolleyes: ....:amidala:


Now give me my candybar :bonk:

[elf]

Turned 24 a few months ago....I suppose I would fall into this irresponsible bracket...:bigmouth: