Them cheatin hearts

[djnick702]

How did these things evr start? They come from all different angles. It happens alot at work. One example would be when co-workers joke around with each other (sometimes with sexual innuendos, just bcuz it's more hilarious). Next, guy walks girl to her car to make sure she gets there safe. Next time, he (innocently) puts his hand on her shoulder as they walk, in a friendly way, of course. Next next time, he has his arms around her, if it's okay with her. Then again, it's ok cuz they know they're just friends (wink wink..so they think). Plus they're so comfortable talking together. Next next time, "Tough day huh? Wanna go have a drink before u head home? It'll only take 15-20minutes. Ok, let's go. no harm in that?" And there it is.. That's the thing in life..we spend more time at work with ppl we don't love than with ppl we love at home or wherever. How could u not fall for someone at work. They don't judge u. They don't stress u out, yell at you, question u. Heck, they're even okay looking and make u laugh all the time.

[djnick702]

Coming from a guys pov, guys will try anything and hope that they get away with it if you let them. Women on the other hand, if they are stressed out in their relationships will fantasize about being wisped away or being saved by anyone, anything (calgon, take me away). You wish something exciting would happen in ur lives. Relationships get monotinous becuz we take each other for granted. So maybe u think you'll just have a fling to see if it will help ur relationship; spark that romance back into ur lives. Men stop being romanctic when they think they've done enough. Men need to never stop being romantics.

Damn that Tiger Woods. He's the best at what he does, but does he stop there? No. He keeps on practicing. Trying to improve on his game. Doesn't care what anyone else is doing. Eventhough he's #1, he still continues to try to improve himself. He practices in the rain, at night, and in the wind. He wants to be ready for all conditions of the game. He doesn't rest on his laurels (like some of us). He knows that sooner or later someone else is gonna come take out #1. You can never let up. You can never give up on ur relationships. What made u fall for each other in the first place? How can u not work it out? The romance burnt out. Since none of u are working on the romance, someone out there is workin their magic on ur man or woman. So how ya like them apples?:heh:

[nickel]

so what is it you are really trying to say? :shrug:

[molecularfire]

I dunno... I kinda like it when my GF takes me for granted. IMO, isn't that's what you should be gunning for in a relationship? To get to where you guys are so comfortable with each other that you know no matter what happens, they'll still be there? I mean... romance is all fine and nice for fun, but... in the long run, it's not romance that keeps two people together. With all the couples that I've know that have been together for >30 years... the one thing they have in common is that they take each other completely for granted.

[Johnnymac]

Originally posted by djnick702
Coming from a guys pov, guys will try anything and hope that they get away with it if you let them.

Well that is a sweeping generalization. Some guys may be like that but I can't agree that all do. I think that has more to do with your level of commitment rather than your gender.

-C

[Merlin]

Yikes! :eek: Is it just me or does this thread sound like a desperate call for help.

[djnick702]

This was written in the hopes that it would help a blind friend see. If u guys want to put in ur .02 cents or tell us ur stories or stories you've heard about them cheatin hearts, feel free. Them cheatin hearts pop up everywhere, sometimes even in perfect relationships. You never know.

[molecularfire]

I disagree. Cheating can't happen in a perfect relationship because it doesn't exist. Something can't happen if it's contingent on the impossible. In the relationships that I know of that have worked, neither involved has the illusion that it is perfect.

[djnick702]

Of course no two ppl will act the same. That goes to show of course, that know two guys will act the same. Even twins have a mind of their own. However, men share common characteristics; just as women sometimes behave alike.
It's nice if u can get to the point where u don't have to try any harder; that's like friendship. But what happens when during courtship you've conditioned ur girl or guy a certain way and they are accustomed to the special treatment you've given them? Say for example u always give her flowers on the first of every month and now you don't. She's gonna wonder why you stopped. It would feel weird to her not to receive those flowers. It would seem to her that you stopped being romantic. Every woman wants to be romanced, swept off her feet, or treated like a woman every now and then, even tom boys.
It would nice to be able to take each other for granted, but I'm sure ur not gonna do it all the time or get away with it all the time.