I got the blues...

[Peachhead]

because of the two women who mean most to me in the world, one is 8000 miles away and the other one is married (not to me either dammit). I'm on my fourth night drunk this week and I've been listening to the same Govt Mule/Allman Bros CD's for a week.

Things are NOT looking up.

This sucks! :(

oh and I forgot to say..it's STORMING here which just helps so damn much...:mad:

[OC]

I can relate mang. Sometimes it seems like the end of the world. But it's not - and booze ain't the answer.

Lose yourself for a bit, sure, but be sure to find your way back, k?

Post in here. We're a supportive bunch. You're among friends, and it helps to talk. :)

[speedracer120]

Once upon a midnite dreary...

I feel the same way. It's raining in Socal and it's giving me a creapy lonely feeling.

[Peachhead]

Thanks OC..I know you've been going through a rough time yourself and I appreciate your post.

I guess what I don't understand is.. (well one thing anyway) why get married if your heart's not in it???? I've had numerous talks with this girl..she's obviously not very happy being married and didn't really want to get married to start with. I mean..damn...I may not be the best prize in the cracker jack box but still! I have a lot to offer and I think things could really be great. But she's still married.. I always thought being married was something you had to be positive about. Am I wrong??
And dammit why am I so worked up over a married woman anyway? Sheesh. Why do I always put myself in these impossible situations??

[sbp]

Are you sure this is what she truly feels or are your feelings being projected into what you want to hear?

You want someone you can't have and if you do get her its trouble man.
pining after a married woman like this is playing with fire. And its not good for you either.

There are various reasons why people get married when they may not have wanted to. Sometimes people feel or are pressured to get hitched. Other times they hit a certain time of life and think well its time to get married. For a few others the ticking of the biological clock gets louder and can be a factor. And for others they may not be sure but they go ahead and do it anyways {it would be a shame to let this preparation go to waste and disappoint everyone no?}.

It may or not be surprising to you that not everyone who gets married is absolutely, positively, 100% sure they wanted to get married. :eek:

"I always thought being married was something you had to be positive about. Am I wrong??" Don't take this the wrong way but who sold you on that crap? :heh:

Just like other close relationships marriage has its good and bad times, but everything is more magnified.

Cut the losses and move forward. You deserve it and some woman out there would love a prize like you. :)

[ApltnHkyMutt]

My girlfriend just left the house... im feeling pretty damn good right now!

[hapoo]

I won't go into detail but lets just say I know what your going through Peachhead. Sometimes I find it amazing how there are 3+ billion people of the opposite sex and yet we have the ability to fixate on one.

[nickel]

hope you are feeling better this morning Peachhead. i am not going to tell you to just stop having feelings for this married woman. how do you just "stop"? it is not that easy. but you have to have an open mind and look to reality. if she is not going to get unmarried soon then you are wasting your time, your life, and THAT is who you should always look out for first -- YOU.
why not get a bunch of your boys together tonight and go out? getting out in the action is good for the soul. and who knows, m'be someone will cross paths with you that will make you forget about those who are impossible for you at the moment. life is a game of chances. chances are there is someone waiting for a guy like you to come by and say "hi". :)

[Peachhead]

Welll to top it all off, my ISP went out Sat am :angry: so, I took the time to run off to the country and do some tractor work. I just got back...and dammit, I appreciate all the posts! Choked me up a bit even :)

I guess I feel a bit better today... at the same time though I'm a bit pessimistic that feeling will last. I know I'll see her tomorrow, and probably will start the whole thing over again (hopefully a bit more sober though :P ). And yes, sbp, I'm pretty sure what she's telling me is true: she really didn't want to get married. But, how much of that translates into "I want to get unmarried and concentrate on you", I dunno...when we have those discussions, I can feel positive. Later, when I'm alone, thinking about the discussion we had, I'm not quite as sure. Maybe that's due to my own insecurities too. I do seem to have the ability to have a good thing and to "think it to death." :( I know the most rational thing to do is, leave it alone, cut my losses and move forward. But like Nickel pointed out..you can't just stop having feelings for someone. Getting past it is going to take a long time and a very strong heart. :( (which I don't seem to have lately.)

[Peachhead]

good news and bad news.
Bad news: it still sucks, I'm still way hung up on her and it ain't gettin no better. :(

Good news: I aint drunk........



......yet :P

I reckon its wrong but I'll have to be happy with whatever time I can steal with her. Eventually I'll have to move along. Til then, there's always now.