pre-nuptial agreement

[nickel]

so you have fallen madly, deeply in love with the girl or guy of your dreams and you've both reached the point where marriage is the next step. she/he is very wealthy, old money, and springs the idea of a pre-nuptial agreement on you. how do you feel about this?

[Jihforce]

If love isn't unconditional, then I don't want it.

[look_ma]

Ok fella's, try the shoe on the other foot. If YOU had lots of money would you do the same.

[WhiskeyPapa]

You ever hear Paul Harvey occassionally announce anniversaries of people who have been married 75 years? I guarantee you that you will NEVER see a marriage with a pre-nup reach that milestone.

Yes, divorce is a horrible fact of life, but no one should go into a marriage with an "exit strategy".

Now the only time I would agree that a pre-nup is ok is when two old people with money and grown kids get married, and the pre-nup simply specifies who gets what money when they die. I dont think the fully-grown step kids should have any claim to the dead person's money.

But a pre-nup isn't even necessary for that, since a good will would do the trick.

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by look_ma
Ok fella's, try the shoe on the other foot. If YOU had lots of money would you do the same.

I'm on the other foot. I have more money than my wife, you don't see me running around asking her to sign a prenup.

[revil]

I'm mad. where is the, "leave partner for that slut mojo" option?

[nickel]

the mojo slut option is getting lame :P

[johnnymk]

I went with a Jewish woman for five years. A year into the relationship, she said she wanted to get married. I said "Fine, only if you sign a prenuptial agreement".

She had been married twice before, was living with a guy when I met her, and had a 17 year old son.

I eventually got engaged to her (very reluctantly), but broke up with her after many heated battles about her rights, where we would live and BLAH BLAH BLAH. What a wasted five years of my life.

Thank God I never married her!!

Since then and the previous relationships with hardheaded self seeking women, I don't even date. They're not worth the aggravation, and they are definitely not worth getting married to.

[Pinkgirl36]

When I get married, I expect it to be when I am established in my career.
At that time the money that I make will be mine.
I would not sign one, because in my mind, it makes me feel that you already have a doubt that the marriage is going to fail.
And yeah people say get them so you don't get screwed, but regardless I would expect to walk away with what I went in to the marriage with.
And I think the same would be true for the other person.

[Kim]

I guess if I love him for his money, then the idea of a pre-nup would bother me. If I truly love him for him, then I don't think I would care so much.

[avlena]

nobody ever wants their marriage to end, but i've seen firsthand how vicious people get when they divorce. no matter how much you're in love at the start of the marrige, the statistics say there's a good chance of divorce! i doubt the divorcees out there all started their marriage thinking "oh, this is just a temporary thing!" they think they're in love, and then something happens. so might as well protect both halves of the marriage with a pre-nup.

i've encouraged my dad to get a pre-nup numerous times, and i wouldn't have a problem signing one myself.

[whitak24]

i guess this is a hard question for me to answer, because it's so far outside my current experience. i guess i wouldn't really want to be getting into a relationship where i was worried enough about the outcome (or thought my prospective partner was worried enought abou the outcome) to demand a prenup.

but on the other hand, i recognize it as being part of a realistic world view for many people.....

[Thesifer]

I wouldnt have a problem Signing one... Or asking for one.. depending on the amount of money involved from my side.. If she is rich.. since im not marrying her for money (hopefully) .. then it shouldnt matter if she asks... Its not a "Way out" .. But you dont keep money if you are stupid with it .. and HONESTLY you NEVER know what the other person is thinking .. What if THEY only love you because you have money.. then if you Ask for a Prenup.. they will get all angry.. Otherwise.. the other people shouldnt care..

[Kevster]

Originally posted by Jihforce


I'm on the other foot. I have more money than my wife, you don't see me running around asking her to sign a prenup.

:stupid:

Same here. I married for better or worse, richer or poorer, in good health and in bad.

[Ladogaboy]

Yeah, I wouldn't sign or ask my partner to sign one. Now maybe if I won the Lottery and some cute chick suddenly showed up... :eek:

[whitak24]

Originally posted by Ladogaboy
Yeah, I wouldn't sign or ask my partner to sign one. Now maybe if I won the Lottery and some cute chick suddenly showed up... :eek:
or if nija, dressed like a cute chick, showed up.... :eek: :eek:

:heh:

[Kevster]

Originally posted by Ladogaboy
Yeah, I wouldn't sign or ask my partner to sign one. Now maybe if I won the Lottery and some cute chick suddenly showed up... :eek:

That's called a golddigger. They deserve the boot (well maybe after some good nooky..... :) )

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by whitak24

or if nija, dressed like a cute chick, showed up.... :eek: :eek:

:heh:

As long as he brought the big bottle of KY. :hehehmm:

And golddiggers definitely deserve some nookie before they get kicked to the curb. ;)

[Tag]

In today's world anyone who would get married without a prenup is totally out of touch with reality. I have seen this time and time again where many of my friends and associates were not STRONG enough to insist on one. Even with an agreement ending a partnership ( marriage ) is ugly. I have seen this happen so often where she plays the loving wife to be for months or even years .......than guess what.

If anyone would like specific examples feel free to PM me.

[GilbertsGrape]

i dont have to worrie about both me and my girl dont make much $$$$ so if she took me for all i had i would not be out much

[molecularfire]

Deep down, I think I'm an idealist. If I am dumb enough to pick the wrong person... or too lazy to get it to work with the right one, I want to get screwed, so I wouldn't ask for a pre-nup. However, my GF's family is better off than mine... and while we've never talked about a pre-nup. I wouldn't have a problem if she asked for it. I mean... during a divorce when both sides are hurt/angry is not exactly the best time to decide what to do. I think of a pre-nup as a way of deciding what to do when you're angry before you get angry so you can do it with a clear mind. Of course, I'm a messed up dude. I plan ahead what to do should various things pop up during the relationship. I know that I can't plan everything, but you'd be amazed how many times planning stuff ahead helped me prevent myself and her from getting hurt. :)

[Cantacuzene]

It really depends on many a variable. Is she askign me? Am I askign her? Has one of us cheated on each other at any point during the dating period? Is one of us immensly more wealthy than the other? Are we getting married in a state like Texas in which marriage does not entitle you to estate? Its tough to call. In some sitiations I could be for it, in some against it.

[bachviet]

I am not marrying somebody just for the $$$ so why needs the pre-nup??? Both my fiancee and I are average pple with average income so nothing to loose or gain here in our marriage except our love.