chrissy
08-03-2003, 11:52 PM
So, I have been tossing in bed for about an hour now. Going back and forth between the two hot topics in my life. The situation with the kids and a situation at work.
THE KIDS
As you might have read in another post, my ex has filed for custody. Basically, he is stating to the court that there is abuse going on in the house, that we feed the kids candy for supper and they are scared of Donnie and me and don't want to come home. That doesn't bother me; I know my kids, I know what happens under my roof and none of that does. When I talk to them on the phone, they sound like they are holding back, like someone is listening in on the converstation. They tell me they love me and miss me and that they want to come home.
As per a verbal agreement (a mistake I will make no more of), the kids went to the ex's house a week early this summer so we could go back to IL for a visit with my family -- we haven't seen them in a year-- at the end of the summer. They are do back to me per the verbal agreement tomorrow (monday). My ex, after telling me all summer that plane tickets were bought and the time they were coming in has told me as of last week, he has been lying. There never was plane tickets. He isn't bringing them home tomorrow. So, I asked him if he was bringing them on the 11th (which would be according to our standing order) and he said no. That I should read the papers that was served to me and realize he gets them until we go to court. So now, instead of visiting my parents, I have to play games with the ex with getting my kids back. The kids are crying because they don't get to go to their Nanny's or get to come home. I am crying with them (well, not on the phone with them, because I want them to know that I am taking care of things :( ) They are crying because they don't get to come home and be with us. I think he has them scared... but they won't tell us over the phone. His new wife is some sort of councilor in CA. In school she specialized in kids. Last summer they sent home coloring books with the kids about abuse and I mean REAL abuse- things my kids have NEVER been exposed to. Audrey has stated to me that she asks her questions that make her feel weird. I am scared that they are playing with these kids! I feel very hopeless.
WORK
The four letter word. As if the kids weren't enough on my mind...
In claims, there is actually a lot of responsiblity. Well, the guy I was working with got himself fired -- rumored for stealing. And I got some chica from a transfer. She turns out to be another store's store mgr's GF. :rolleyes: Great. She comes in and apprarently has been told that the dept is a mess and I know nothing. I am sorry, but don't even go there when you haven't even asked me what I know and what I don't know.
She has no priorities. There are certain things that need to be done every day in the dept. But apparently she is above that or doesn't know how to do them herself. She has been here a week and so far, I am not impressed. I will admit, the dept is rough because of some things that have happened (a lot of missing merchandise) but take for instance this weekend. I had OT on Thursday (which is my Friday) and I had to leave early, right now the store mgr is not allowing it, so we have to "kill it". She complained that I left her early???
Then Friday and Saturday, she takes it upon herself to change bins in the office (which is actually a cage) from cardboard boxes (which has worked since the store opened) to HUGE plasic rubbermaid type bins. She had mentioned this earlier in the week and I told her that they sounded like a neat idea but that they would be too big. We barely had room for the boxes we use(d). So, the back oohh, 6 feet of the office, we can't walk through because of the stuff that won't fit on the shelves anymore because of her bins. People were coming up to me saying that she was taking hrs with the stenciling of the numbers for these dumb bins (why not just write the number?? they will get torn up anyway???!!!) and another told me how she was wondering around the toy dept looking for open merchandise!!!! She also went through and threw away a lot of instructions and papers that I needed for inspections and inventory. I am sorry, but if I was new to an office, I wouldn't just wait till everyone was on a day off and throw their crap away.
I worked 11 hours today plus an hour lunch to catch up on the things she didn't do in the past two days. How do I know she didn't do the daily crap?? because everything that was coming in on Thursday night when I left was still there this morning when I got there plus everything else new from the two days. Even the pallet I wrapped Thursday for her was still there. Even the half pallet I did before I left Thursday was still there unadded to. I finished that one and did another 2 and a half today. I mean, I had to do it. On Monday's -EVERY MONDAY, we close out the week. Which means the daily crap we do has to be finalized. Anything that comes in tonight after i left work, takes normally two people to do on monday morning (this should be heavier because it's the beginning of the month). But it's just me tomorrow too. So, I have to get it all done by lunch, by myself and do paperwork most of the afternoon. I had no choice. If I didn't stay today, tomorrow would have been terrible, no, worse than terrible.
I feel like I did something terrible and some really bad karma has come my way. I try to be the type of person that gets along with everyone, and I have been described as someone who is honest to a fault. As for my ex, there are a lot of assumptions going on within my circle of friends that are close to the situation. As for work, I don't know. I cried today, I cussed today, I threw fits today.
I don't want to be crapped on anymore. I mean, come on! I am supposed to be happy right now! It's offical, I have carried this baby longer than the last one -- and we heard the heartbeat on Friday! I don't want to stress out now. I can't.
Okay, gonna try to sleep. Niter.
THE KIDS
As you might have read in another post, my ex has filed for custody. Basically, he is stating to the court that there is abuse going on in the house, that we feed the kids candy for supper and they are scared of Donnie and me and don't want to come home. That doesn't bother me; I know my kids, I know what happens under my roof and none of that does. When I talk to them on the phone, they sound like they are holding back, like someone is listening in on the converstation. They tell me they love me and miss me and that they want to come home.
As per a verbal agreement (a mistake I will make no more of), the kids went to the ex's house a week early this summer so we could go back to IL for a visit with my family -- we haven't seen them in a year-- at the end of the summer. They are do back to me per the verbal agreement tomorrow (monday). My ex, after telling me all summer that plane tickets were bought and the time they were coming in has told me as of last week, he has been lying. There never was plane tickets. He isn't bringing them home tomorrow. So, I asked him if he was bringing them on the 11th (which would be according to our standing order) and he said no. That I should read the papers that was served to me and realize he gets them until we go to court. So now, instead of visiting my parents, I have to play games with the ex with getting my kids back. The kids are crying because they don't get to go to their Nanny's or get to come home. I am crying with them (well, not on the phone with them, because I want them to know that I am taking care of things :( ) They are crying because they don't get to come home and be with us. I think he has them scared... but they won't tell us over the phone. His new wife is some sort of councilor in CA. In school she specialized in kids. Last summer they sent home coloring books with the kids about abuse and I mean REAL abuse- things my kids have NEVER been exposed to. Audrey has stated to me that she asks her questions that make her feel weird. I am scared that they are playing with these kids! I feel very hopeless.
WORK
The four letter word. As if the kids weren't enough on my mind...
In claims, there is actually a lot of responsiblity. Well, the guy I was working with got himself fired -- rumored for stealing. And I got some chica from a transfer. She turns out to be another store's store mgr's GF. :rolleyes: Great. She comes in and apprarently has been told that the dept is a mess and I know nothing. I am sorry, but don't even go there when you haven't even asked me what I know and what I don't know.
She has no priorities. There are certain things that need to be done every day in the dept. But apparently she is above that or doesn't know how to do them herself. She has been here a week and so far, I am not impressed. I will admit, the dept is rough because of some things that have happened (a lot of missing merchandise) but take for instance this weekend. I had OT on Thursday (which is my Friday) and I had to leave early, right now the store mgr is not allowing it, so we have to "kill it". She complained that I left her early???
Then Friday and Saturday, she takes it upon herself to change bins in the office (which is actually a cage) from cardboard boxes (which has worked since the store opened) to HUGE plasic rubbermaid type bins. She had mentioned this earlier in the week and I told her that they sounded like a neat idea but that they would be too big. We barely had room for the boxes we use(d). So, the back oohh, 6 feet of the office, we can't walk through because of the stuff that won't fit on the shelves anymore because of her bins. People were coming up to me saying that she was taking hrs with the stenciling of the numbers for these dumb bins (why not just write the number?? they will get torn up anyway???!!!) and another told me how she was wondering around the toy dept looking for open merchandise!!!! She also went through and threw away a lot of instructions and papers that I needed for inspections and inventory. I am sorry, but if I was new to an office, I wouldn't just wait till everyone was on a day off and throw their crap away.
I worked 11 hours today plus an hour lunch to catch up on the things she didn't do in the past two days. How do I know she didn't do the daily crap?? because everything that was coming in on Thursday night when I left was still there this morning when I got there plus everything else new from the two days. Even the pallet I wrapped Thursday for her was still there. Even the half pallet I did before I left Thursday was still there unadded to. I finished that one and did another 2 and a half today. I mean, I had to do it. On Monday's -EVERY MONDAY, we close out the week. Which means the daily crap we do has to be finalized. Anything that comes in tonight after i left work, takes normally two people to do on monday morning (this should be heavier because it's the beginning of the month). But it's just me tomorrow too. So, I have to get it all done by lunch, by myself and do paperwork most of the afternoon. I had no choice. If I didn't stay today, tomorrow would have been terrible, no, worse than terrible.
I feel like I did something terrible and some really bad karma has come my way. I try to be the type of person that gets along with everyone, and I have been described as someone who is honest to a fault. As for my ex, there are a lot of assumptions going on within my circle of friends that are close to the situation. As for work, I don't know. I cried today, I cussed today, I threw fits today.
I don't want to be crapped on anymore. I mean, come on! I am supposed to be happy right now! It's offical, I have carried this baby longer than the last one -- and we heard the heartbeat on Friday! I don't want to stress out now. I can't.
Okay, gonna try to sleep. Niter.