ufcrusher
10-06-2003, 03:56 PM
Just like every other engaged couple we were told that we had to register a long time ago. In fact we were brow beaten every week by my mother that her friends were all chewing at the bit to go shopping for us. So we completed this arduous task months ago, although we occassionally still add things that we think of as time progresses and keep an eye on it to check that there are still sufficient items left.
Of course, after all the brow beating, one month after the initial registering only 2 items had been taken off the registry list. We of course found this funny, sort of like, "Hurry up and wait". And of course, even though these were supposdely bought as engagement gifts we had only received 2 engagement gifts and those were both before the registry was even up. One was cash, the other was a nice Orrefors vase.
So yesterday we find that there are two gifts waiting for us. This took us a little bit by suprise. Nice. When we open them up, we find that its a set of knives and candlesticks. Neither of the ones from our lists, but no matter. Its the thought that counts. Now, we just have to figure out how to handle the knives since the people who gave them to us are REALLY GOOD family friends and really observant and would notice that they arent the same ones that they bought if we exchanged them for a different pair. Its not that they didnt buy us quality gifts or we are ungrateful or anything...just that we are really particular about which knives we wanted to cook with. I had this set picked out for years and even picked out the individual items, rather than a set.
So now I feel bad, because my initial reaction was, what are we going to do....what are we going to tell them...I dont want to hurt their feelings but this has to go back. As for right now, its just going to be put in a pile that is going to be dealt with after the wedding. I am sure we will have lots of gifts that fall into such category.
And yes, I do realize that just because we have a registry does not mean that you will get gifts from the registry. But at the same point, if people realize you do have a registry, why would they buy you something that was not on the registry when you specifically have a conflicting item on the registry? Just doesnt make sense to me. Enough of me complaining.
Of course, after all the brow beating, one month after the initial registering only 2 items had been taken off the registry list. We of course found this funny, sort of like, "Hurry up and wait". And of course, even though these were supposdely bought as engagement gifts we had only received 2 engagement gifts and those were both before the registry was even up. One was cash, the other was a nice Orrefors vase.
So yesterday we find that there are two gifts waiting for us. This took us a little bit by suprise. Nice. When we open them up, we find that its a set of knives and candlesticks. Neither of the ones from our lists, but no matter. Its the thought that counts. Now, we just have to figure out how to handle the knives since the people who gave them to us are REALLY GOOD family friends and really observant and would notice that they arent the same ones that they bought if we exchanged them for a different pair. Its not that they didnt buy us quality gifts or we are ungrateful or anything...just that we are really particular about which knives we wanted to cook with. I had this set picked out for years and even picked out the individual items, rather than a set.
So now I feel bad, because my initial reaction was, what are we going to do....what are we going to tell them...I dont want to hurt their feelings but this has to go back. As for right now, its just going to be put in a pile that is going to be dealt with after the wedding. I am sure we will have lots of gifts that fall into such category.
And yes, I do realize that just because we have a registry does not mean that you will get gifts from the registry. But at the same point, if people realize you do have a registry, why would they buy you something that was not on the registry when you specifically have a conflicting item on the registry? Just doesnt make sense to me. Enough of me complaining.