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[tweeteresa]

if you accidently found out some information that is damaging to a relationship, would you confront the person about it? that person didn't tell you about it, and you would have never known either, if not for the occasion that occured and you accidently stumbled upon the news.

and what if you came across the information in an accidental way, yet you shouldn't have been in that situation to find out that information in the 1st place?

i have no idea if any of that made ANY sense. sorry i'm just feeling very frustrated right now. :( :mad:

[zenbooty]

Sounds like you may have been snooping around for something and found it? In situations like this, trust has been blown away, and there's not much chance of the relationship getting healthy again.

[nickel]

i agree with zen. i would confront the person because it would eat at me if i didn't.

[Ladogaboy]

What kind of situation should you not be in? I mean, unless you were actually doing something that would compromise the relationship yourself, it's not as though you couldn't or shouldn't be doing it. Either way, though, I'm with nickel and zen. It sounds like a lack of trust from both sides, so unless both people can talk through it, there isn't much hope for reconciliation.

Good luck.

[nickel]

purple people eater? :confused:



:nono:

[ray]

Originally posted by tweeteresa
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If you accidentally chanced upon the information, then you shouldn't feel guilty for finding out. If you were specifically digging for information, that's a whole different story because it essentially means there is already a lack of trust in the relationship and that just leads to terrible things.

Since you are aware of this information now, I think the best thing to do is speak with the other person about it. Confront is such an aggrestive word, but I think a heart-to-heart chat about this information is a good approach to coming to some kind of resolution.

[kei2]

Originally posted by lilbigblue
If you accidentally chanced upon the information, then you shouldn't feel guilty for finding out. If you were specifically digging for information, that's a whole different story because it essentially means there is already a lack of trust in the relationship and that just leads to terrible things.

Since you are aware of this information now, I think the best thing to do is speak with the other person about it. Confront is such an aggrestive word, but I think a heart-to-heart chat about this information is a good approach to coming to some kind of resolution. I'm in complete agreement. If you and this other person are close and there's mutual trust, he/she will understand that your intentions are clean. It's worth talking it out. (I'm assuming, of course, that this information pertains to your relationship with another person. If the information you came across doesn't involve you but rather two other people... it's less cut-and-dry.)

[molecularfire]

If it bothers you, confront the person about it. If it doesn't, then don't. The question is this... is it better to be broken up, or to be around that person knowing this information... feeling this way... Whichever you think you'd prefer, I'd go with that. Personally, I think trust is over-rated. People do not trust each other... they just secretely don't want to know or they are scared about how it would look to the other person so they don't explore things that worry them. JMO.

[RoniMan]

:stupid: (that's all the "stupids" above)