Not looking forward to Thursday...

[ChIcKeN_HaWk]

http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=67797

I have a work party on Thursday that I know that I will be running into my ex-girlfriend. I have alot of anxiety built up about this and I'm not sure how I should handle myself. We have a work dinner then after they are giving us all some money to play some games at a bar in the MOA. I think I will just act like she is dead but if she shows up with her new boyfriend I'm not sure what I'll do...

Any suggestions?

[zenbooty]

Chill out. Avoid her if you have to. Be polite if you can't avoid her, even if it means swallowing your pride/anger/sadness and just grinning and bearing it. Try and focus on other people and don't let yourself be distracted by her.

All this is easier said than done, of course. I know that firsthand. But you will only embarass yourself and look bad in front of your coworkers if you lose your cool.

If worse come to worse and you can't handle it, get through dinner and skip the games. There's gotta be some decent excuse you can come up with to have to leave early.

[djradam]

bring your girl to make her jealous :)

but i guess try to stay cool and don't do anything stupid (fight). i'm sure it sucks. like i broke up with my ex probably 3 years ago. out of the blue she hated me after a year and a half. i still don't want to see her and don't know what i would do if i did see her...

goodluck. bring a girl ;) hehe

[revil]

Originally posted by djradam
bring your girl to make her jealous :)
Psh. if you're brave enough, bring a guy and make her think she turned you gay.

[RoniMan]

Originally posted by revil

Psh. if you're brave enough, bring a guy and make her think she turned you gay.
:heh: LOL!

good one...

but i also agree with zen. just be cool. don't let her see that she still gets to you. get on with your life, there's other fish in the sea.

[ChIcKeN_HaWk]

Everyone is right in some form or another. I would love to belittle her in public but it wouldn't solve anything. She literally has no friends so bringing this new guy is probably something that she will do just to try and show me up. I will take ya'll advise and just be the better person and pretend she is dead.

[Airencracken]

Belittling is fun. Destroy her. Be evil it's much more satisfying.

[ray]

Treat her like a regular person. No point in making a scene at a public event. Everything should be a learning experience and that's the way you should look at it, even if there was a bad outcome. Prove to yourself, and to her, that you can treat each other with respect and put aside your personal differences.

[Mike_N_Ike]

Just go and chill man. Put her completely out of your mind and have a good time.

With some girls, the best revenge you can get on the guy she gets with after you, is letting him have her.

[Butch]

For future . . . don't date girls you work with or see at work functions . . . don't mix business and pleasure and, as the saying goes, "don't sh*t where you eat."

Then you avoid these lovely scenarios

Just my 2c

[ChIcKeN_HaWk]

For future . . . don't date girls you work with or see at work functions . . . don't mix business and pleasure and, as the saying goes, "don't sh*t where you eat."

I got her the job in July because I thought at the time we were going to get married.


Just go and chill man. Put her completely out of your mind and have a good time.

Todays the day and I'm looking my best for tonight, pretty nervous but I think a couple of drinks and I will be fine.

[Kim]

Good luck!

[RoniMan]

so how did it go?

[ChIcKeN_HaWk]

Everything went really good...Alot better than expected. This was a pretty unformal bar type sales rally for the company that I work for so we all met at this bar and had a couple of cocktails before dinner, she shows up toteing her laptop trying to look all professional and sh.. anyways my friend says wow she looks like crap! I ended up pretending like she wasn't even there by never making eye contact at any point during the night. You know how you can feel someone burning their eyes looking at ya, sometimes you can just feel it and thats how I felt at different points. She made all attempts to subtlly make me notice her or something by walking past me and at one pont standing no more than 2 feet directly behind me talking with someone she doesn't even know.

She decided to have her new boy show up (Only person in the company that had a S.O. come with) and she tried to get to me by hanging on him and looking at me to see if she could get to me but I didn't give her one bit of satisfaction throughout the whole night and she ended up leaving pretty early. I talked to my friend at work today (Her husband works with my ex at a different office) and she made it clear that it appeared as though all she tried to do all night was put on a show for anyone that would give her the attention, pathetic.

In reality it truely was a direct slap in the face but I'm not insulted by the level at which she stooped, actually I find it pretty hilarous and I feel sorry for her.

By the way the guy that showed up was a complete loser and they deserve each other. Thanks for hearing me out guys and gals