EMERGENCY - I need blind date help....

[Nanotech9]

goign on a blind date at 9:30... the friends that are hooking us up are going to be there with her before i get there...

am i supposed to pay on a blind date?

what about even if she cancelled last week 3hrs before the date and we're trying again this week?

Just wondering. Never done the blind date thing.

[donnar]

go dutch but take enough to pay if your feeling her

[DankNstickY]

Originally posted by donnar
but take enough to pay if your feeling her boobies

:hmm: wouldnt that be prostitution?

[TofuNinja]

Just play it cool and what donnar said :) If it works cool if not there is more fish in the sea.

[The Happy Squirrel]

you should pay, ifs its a true date, and your hopes are that it eventually will lead to a possible romantic interlude on that or a future date.

if your intentions are merely for friendship, then go dutch.

if your really good make her pay for the dinner, the drinks afterwards, the hotel, and her cab home.
j/k hehehehe

[ufcrusher]

Never been on a blind date per se, so my suggestion is more speculation and common sense.

I would just figure that you are going to end up paying. However, when the bill comes see if she reaches for it or asks how much she owes. In which case, you get off with just paying for yourself. The big problem that you are going to have is that since you friends are there you cant use the old cell phone call with an emergency trick.

[blueindian]

you should pay.

[oblongmelon]

Don't be a cheap ass-make your friends pay! they set you up! ..ok you pay..you'll look good in her eyes.

[Freelance Superhero]

maybe i'm just old-fashioned, but i would go with the expectation of paying for the girl. even if you're not feelin her boobies by the end of the date, i'd say offer to pay anyway, just as a nice gesture. never hurts.

[donnar]

Some girls don't like the guy assuming she can't pay or won't pay, some owmen perfer dutch

[Nanotech9]

yeah i figure on paying... although i do have a girl from work (the one in my avatar) thats going to call me about an hour into it... I can fake and pretend its my sister in law and that her cars broke down, and she needs to take the baby to teh hospital or something (my brother works nights).

bad part is shes meeting us at a country bar / dance floor... i dont dig country :(

but i used to listen to it a lot hehehe... so i'm all set on that.

[blueindian]

Originally posted by donnar
Some girls don't like the guy assuming she can't pay or won't pay, some owmen perfer dutch


nano don't date any ow-men. he's straight.

[Nanotech9]

hehehe good one :)

[donnar]

I know my typing sucks I should just go back to hunt N peck

[Ladogaboy]

I'd say bring enough to pay for her too. When the bill comes, pay it, and if she makes a comment or wants to chip in, let her. Either that, or let her pay you back by buying you drinks, etc. I think the most important thing is to not make a big deal out of it. If you go on a date and the biggest concern in your mind is who foots the bill, you're missing something.

[Mrs. Happy Squirrel]

mmk.. from a lady's perspective... Whoever asks the other out on the date pays. Or if it's a blind date, go dutch. Of course, be prepared to pay for both, some people are just cheap, but.. although it is enjoyable when a man treats a lady to a nice meal and drinks at his squirrel nest...:winkie: :blush:

[Nanotech9]

yeah well that was a bust...

i meet the chick, she shakes my hand, and the turns and ignores me...

so were sitting in this country music club, and my friends have beers... so i offer to buy her a drink... well she doesnt, but only cause of a weak stomach or something... so at least i didnt waste any money on her.

i tried to make conversation - basically ask her questions about herself to get her to open up and talk... didnt happen. every answer was just an answer and then nothing.

I mustave tried 20 times to start a conversation....

she did however make an effort and showed me how to two-step.

theres a reason this white-boy dont dance hehe...

anyway, she had to leave early and pick up her sister from work... whatever.

there was another chick there (another friend) - a little older, and not afraid to start up a conversation. She was really cool, made me get up on the dance floor again... i think she was just having some fun thats all... i'de be more interested, but my limited little brain refuses to be more open. (She was a little on the large-and-in-charge side).

but, SHE got the hug at the end of the day, and not just a handshake like the first chick. (i dont ever give out hugs)

[cheapchinese]

make you friend ask for the money... cause he/she knows her..
don't open your mouth and ask for the money on your blind date

[Dirty Sanchez]

Blind date? You should have brought a seeing eye dog.

[nickel]

sorry to hear it didn't work of Nano. she sounds like a drag.

[LPMiller]

Originally posted by Nanotech9
(She was a little on the large-and-in-charge side).

but, SHE got the hug at the end of the day, and not just a handshake like the first chick. (i dont ever give out hugs)

Don't be so limiting. The bigger the cushion, the sweeter the pushin'.

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by nickelback
sorry to hear it didn't work of Nano. she sounds like a drag.

To me, she sounds very superficial. Either that or, she resents being taken out on a blind date. It could be that her sister/family require a lot of her time, and she had to be strongarmed into going out on a blind date in the first place. Either way, she needs to learn a bit of grace. You are probably better off that the date went sour.

As for the other woman, don't feel bad. Your standards are your standards, and if you do anything less than stick to them, you cheat both her and yourself. The important thing is to just be upfront and honest about it, and that way, nobody has their feelings get hurt. I have several close friends that are absolutely gorgeous, and, though I was initially very attracted to them, I can't look at them as anything other than a sister now. Besides, think of it this way: she could be one of your new best friends, and all women have at least ONE hot girlfriend. ;)

[ArkiStan]

Unless she's a friend that you have casual meals with very often, or unless she's really ugly and you completely want to lose her ASAP, going dutch is just a very sorry, CHEAP-ASS thing to do when your on a date with a lady. Somebody tell me. How do you even go about asking a lady on a date to pay for her portion of the meal??? :confused: ... mind boggling, seriously. Whether you fancy her or not just be a gentleman and pay for her meal. If it's the commitment you're afraid of, don't worry. She's not gonna feel like she owes you her life over a single meal anyway.


* edit: oops didn't read the whole thread. Guess you're already back from the date. Pick up her sister from work??? Gimme a brrrreak!! Judging from your description of her, sounds like you should have gone dutch~ ;) better luck next time man.

[bachviet]

Never been on a blind date so can't help you ther but a gentleman should pay for the first date.

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by ArkiStan
Unless she's a friend that you have casual meals with very often, or unless she's really ugly and you completely want to lose her ASAP, going dutch is just a very sorry, CHEAP-ASS thing to do when your on a date with a lady. Somebody tell me. How do you even go about asking a lady on a date to pay for her portion of the meal???... mind boggling, seriously. Whether you fancy her or not just be a gentleman and pay for her meal. If it's the commitment you're afraid of, don't worry. She's not gonna feel like she owes you her life over a single meal anyway.

Really, I do think it is a situational thing. I go in planning on paying, but a lot--and I mean A LOT--of the women I know do not like to be indebted to someone they barely know and like to be able to pay their own way. Hell, a lot of women I know use this very thing as a test to see how the guy reacts. The only big thing to remember is to not overreact. If you are gracious about letting her pay or even offering to go tit for tat (let her buy drinks or something later), then you should be all good. Of course, these are the women that I pursue and find attractive, and I tend not to go for attention-whores, gold-diggers, or high-maintenance b1tches. But to each his own. :shrug:

[brainsmile]

well if you don't dig her... 3 words

















Dine and Dash :P

[johnnymk]

Go to McDonalds and make sure you get the Monopoly stickers from her.

[Nanotech9]

ohhhhhhhhhhhh you're BAD hahahahhahahahahaha. :D :D :D :D :D

[K2]

was she even cute?

[welfareloser]

well, maybe she was superficial (but nano's cute, so that shouldn't have gotten in the way of her digging him...) then again, maybe she was shy, socially inept, just had a really bad day, or was really turned off by something about nano. who knows?

anyway, at least you dint drop a chunk o change on a dead end. better luck next time!

[Nanotech9]

yah - pretty cute... whats funny is, on the two-step (which is really three steps - damn hicks dont know how to count hehe) i only really had to take one step for her two... :hmm:

the girls went to the bathroom, and i later found that she thought i was cute, so i guess that wasnt the problem. I donno. Maybe she just wasnt feeling up to it.

Its all goo though really. I still had fun - i gurantee you it was more fun than she was having.

whats funny is even though the other girl who is kinda big wasnt "my type" i didnt even think about that when we were dancing (ok, SHE was dancing, i was trying to not die laughing at how bad i can't dance :) ) All i saw in front of me was someone having a good time. (oh, that, and some BIG-Ole ta-tas bumpin into me :dodgy: LMAO)

[K2]

dude.. she must've been shy or nervous to talk to u then....


i think u should ask her out again.. if she thinks ur cute

:)

[Burzhui]

Originally posted by donnar
Some girls don't like the guy assuming she can't pay or won't pay, some owmen perfer dutch

how about going greek? :naughty:

[donnar]

I'll go geek but not greek and you have to be paying :P

Donna