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chrissy
12-08-2003, 10:07 PM
If you read before, you know I took in my SIL. We got off to a rough start

http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=64451

Well, we had the talk, we ended up telling her the week of Halloween that if she didn't straighten up, she would go home after school was done this fall. Well, it scared her enough that it worked for a couple weeks. Then she started getting headaches and sleeping all day -- staying up until 3 or 4 AM and then getting up 2ish in the afternoon. Not getting anything done. Falling asleep on the couch -- Damn it I want to sit down, go to your room!! Then after Thanksgiving she got sick. She never told us. We were on our way to pick up the kids from their dad's and we had to turn around in Baker (mind you traffic was terrible and took us forever to get that far) because her fever was 103.6!

We for the most part have been able to rely on her for being home when the kids get home -- but she cuts the clock close to when they are getting off the bus. Like she is daring us to get mad at her. Well, today she failed. She wasn't home. I was at work, and luckly one of Donnie's friends was here messing around and took care of them. When I got home, the kids were eating supper (I made homemade chicken noodle yesterday and they didn't like it -- guess what they ate tonight :hmm: ) and Audie was asking for diet coke. I told her no, juice or milk. There was none... I snapped. Long day at work, sore, contractions, and now Missy can't make juice so the kids can have a drink??? Hell no!

I love my kids... I had Audie make juice and she told me to go yell in a pillow because I was "taking it out on her". I told her well, I know you know how to make it, Missy, I don't know if she does or not, prob not so just do it. I then told Missy to get off of Donnie's computer, that she has one in her room and to use it instead.

Donnie called his mom tonight when he got to work. Missy called up there and talked to Dad... asked about addresses for Christmas cards (hello... she isn't workring!! Where the heck is she getting freaking money!!!??) and never said a word about what I did. Donnie layed it out, she's 19 and we can't count on her for squat. Mom then started a "mother guilt trip" on him. It's her fault, missy has lead a sheltered life. She's sorry that it has caused us so many issues ( really doesn't know the half of the issues and fallout that has occured, emotionally and financally)

She then layed it down... knowing how important it was to me and the kids, she cancelled christmas with us because "there is nothing to celebrate". She is going to come down here and pick missy up and then go back. I am floored. I am ready to tell his mom and sister to shove it.

ARRRG!

Jenny
12-09-2003, 08:05 AM
oh hon :(

I'm sorry... I know how much that has to suck. Know that the people that are MOST important that you spend Christmas with are right there with you. And that's all you need to worry about, ok? *hug* Love ya Chrissy. You know I'm here if you need to talk!

donnar
12-09-2003, 03:06 PM
I soo know how you feel, my own brother did some of the same things to me. He lived in my house for free, ate my food for free, used my car for free. Never said a word to him not to mention I bought his cigarettes. So one day my husband and I take our kids to Chuck E Chesse. When we get home he throws a fit because we didn't bring him back pizza! He countinuted to act like an azz all week. I stuck up for him but my husband said he's got to go. He took a greyhound all the way back to michigan 2 days later. Hopefully everything will work out the best for you.

Donna

Jihforce
12-09-2003, 03:57 PM
Wow, that's messed up...Sometimes, family just aren't meant to be under the same roof anymore.
Shoot, i was living with my sister and her husband when I returned to cali. I stayed with them a max of 2 months and I was screaming to get out of there. I don't see how they can they could stand living under someone else's roof and their rules.