So I just told the girl I liked...that I liked her!

[Cheesypuff]

Even though there have been massive topics of orgasims and webcams. I've decided to pipe down the softer side of Gotapex a little by tell you guys what I just did this morning.

I was running with this one chick, who I've been really interested in pretty much this whole year. And I finally broke down and told her I was interested in her. Yes...there was massive uncomfortable quietness. And she finally broke the silence with, I don't know what to say. I then said, "well, I just wanted to let you know where I was standing in this relationship". And honestly from there, I have no idea what happened, and we went to our respective dorms! DUDE!!! WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? So freaking confussed! I really like her...geezzz.

Ready...advice!

[DaFunkyUnit]

are you guys good friends? do you guys hang out a lot?

imho, the best way to go about it is ask her out to dinner, take her out, go to parties, take her out, go see movies together, take her out, get the drift?

and by taking her out, you will create opportunities to "pop your move" on her. Be casual about it, and HAVE NO FEAR!

NOW GO GET 'EM TIGER!!!

[ray]

Looks like you shocked her into running away from the awkward situation. If she doesn't call you in the next few days, that's probably not a good sign, but that doesn't mean your friendship is ruined. I would just treat her as a friend and if she decides to take the next step in the relationship she'll be the first to tell you. If you don't get any positive signs that she's interested, that most likely means she's not or she's just at a loss for words because she feels the same way.

[nickel]

do ask her out on a date next. if she is hesitant or full of excuses she is telling you she is not ready to be more than friends.

and GOOD FOR YOU for telling her how you feel! grab the moment - don't live in the "what ifs" of life.

[tweeteresa]

if u've known her for that long and she never expressed any interest in you...most likely she only thinks of u as a friend. so by u telling her that, it took her off guard and left her in an awkward position.

hopefully all works out but big props for dishing out your heart! :)

[Merlin]

Originally posted by Cheesypuff
..."well, I just wanted to let you know where I was standing in this relationship"...

Is that what you actually said? It can be scary when someone makes a statement about a relationship when none exists. We'll definately need to work on your choice of words/carisma in the future.

[revil]

you f*cked.

[mcs328]

Originally posted by revil
you f*cked.

:heh: I don't know why but that made me chuckle.

[Cheesypuff]

no I didn't say relationship...I was paraphrasing what I said...I guess

anwyho, I guess it all in her hands now...I sucked it up and told her how I felt. Now I'll just let God do the work. I'll keep you guys updated.

[Kevster]

Originally posted by revil
you f*cked.

Coming from the same guy who asked, "Not that I'm socially inept or anything, but does anyone know of any articles or whatnot on how to hit on the girlies?"

:heh:

[ray]

Originally posted by Kevster


Coming from the same guy who asked, "Not that I'm socially inept or anything, but does anyone know of any articles or whatnot on how to hit on the girlies?"

:heh:

I was speaking with the Revileader earlier and he was telling me he was cleaning his place up because women were visiting...does this mean our advice to him a month ago actually worked????????

[Nija]

Originally posted by ray


I was speaking with the Revileader earlier and he was telling me he was cleaning his place up because women were visiting...does this mean our advice to him a month ago actually worked????????

you have to clean up when girls come over. They think the blood is overwelming.

Unless he is hitting them on the head with his club :naughty:

[revil]

Originally posted by ray
I was speaking with the Revileader earlier and he was telling me he was cleaning his place up because women were visiting...does this mean our advice to him a month ago actually worked????????
You guys gave advice? :hmm:

[DaFunkyUnit]

i don't think his mom counts

:D

[kimchicowboy]

Originally posted by revil
you f*cked.
hahahahhahahaha. shoots.

sorry cheesy. from what my female buddy was telling me today, "guys shouldn't mention anything until they hear from the girl 'i like you.'"

[Nija]

Originally posted by kimchicowboy
sorry cheesy. from what my female buddy was telling me today, "guys shouldn't mention anything until they hear from the girl 'i like you.'"

then we would never get anywhere.

I've had sex with girls before they ever said they had feelings for me...

:D

[Cantacuzene]

Originally posted by kimchicowboy
"guys shouldn't mention anything until they hear from the girl 'i like you.'"

And since girls are taught from day one not to be assertive and tell guys their feelings we would be left with two people staring at each other waiting for the other to talk.

[Cheesypuff]

I guess I should have made this a poll

So do you peeps think that it was a good thing to do to tell her how I felt?

I personally think it was good...but we'll see where this leads.

[kimchicowboy]

i'm as confused about women as can be. i hate lack of communication. i'm all about quit playing games and just spill it. but it never turns out too well for me. so what i posted before was what a girl told me. :shrug: hehe.

[zenbooty]

Originally posted by Cantacuzene
And since girls are taught from day one not to be assertive and tell guys their feelings we would be left with two people staring at each other waiting for the other to talk. I had a brief dating spree with a girl once that went very much like that, actually. Didn't last very long, if you hadn't guessed :D .


Originally posted by Cheesypuff
I guess I should have made this a poll

So do you peeps think that it was a good thing to do to tell her how I felt?

I personally think it was good...but we'll see where this leads. Better to show her than to tell her.

Show Me Don't Tell Me!

Actions Not Words!


Originally posted by Nija
then we would never get anywhere.

I've had sex with girls before they ever said they had feelings for me...And then there were those who never had feelings for me whatever, spoken or not!

[djradam]

yeah, you should have just kissed her. cause if she gets wierded out, you got something. if she likes it, you'll probably get more.



i hung out with this girl from high school, but i started talking to her a few years after we graduated. she looked fine and all that, and i kept telling her i liked her. but she "couldn't ruin our friendship". we still hung out, and whenever i made a slight advance, she would say similar things and stuff like, "you'd be the best boyfriend ever, BUT..." blah blah blah. she would always talk about me to this guy she was "seeing" (about 4 times a year) when she wanted to piss him off. so no, we haven't talked the past year and a half. she's dumb.

[DaFunkyUnit]

Originally posted by djradam
yeah, you should have just kissed her. cause if she gets wierded out, you got something. if she likes it, you'll probably get more.



i hung out with this girl from high school, but i started talking to her a few years after we graduated. she looked fine and all that, and i kept telling her i liked her. but she "couldn't ruin our friendship". we still hung out, and whenever i made a slight advance, she would say similar things and stuff like, "you'd be the best boyfriend ever, BUT..." blah blah blah. she would always talk about me to this guy she was "seeing" (about 4 times a year) when she wanted to piss him off. so no, we haven't talked the past year and a half. she's dumb.

thats the difference between guys and girls. Girls say "I just want to be friends." Guys say "I just want to f*ck you."

[Kevster]

Taking a cue from L'Amour in this post, (http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70466) you should tell her you just inherited a ton of money. She will definitely want to be with you then!

[Grubbie]

I have been late to jump in the discussion. But put it this way, if you don't take a chance you get nothing in return...

You did the right thing, you put yourself out there, you might get shot down, or she will say hey I feel the same way. If she does say no, oh well. You gave it a shot. Just see if she wants to go out to a movie or a party with friends or something...

[mcs328]

It's like the lottery. You can't win if you don't play and there's a winner almost everyday. YMMV, sometimes you win a dollar and sometimes a million dollars and sometimes you can trade in 5 or 10 losing tickets for another chance.

So when are you going to see her again?

[Cheesypuff]

I see her around school every once in awhile. But so far, when we see each other. She acts as if nothing happened...and I feel a little awkward.

[kimchicowboy]

just be chill about it. it's better to at least stay friends right? if it gets all awkward for her, she may just avoid you completely.

[Peachhead]

Originally posted by nickelback
do ask her out on a date next. if she is hesitant or full of excuses she is telling you she is not ready to be more than friends.

and GOOD FOR YOU for telling her how you feel! grab the moment - don't live in the "what ifs" of life.

damn good advice :thumbup:

[Grimm]

You could do like Revil and Nija. Stalk her until she gives in or gets a restraining order.

But if that's not your style ask her to lunch. You need to talk to her and spend time with her to make her more comfortable with you again. You don't have to talk about your feelings for her. You already said how you feel. You need to let her have the opertunity to express how she feels. Even if it is not comfortable.

[mcs328]

Originally posted by Cheesypuff
I see her around school every once in awhile. But so far, when we see each other. She acts as if nothing happened...and I feel a little awkward.

If she acts like nothing happened don't feel awkward. Just keep on doing whatever you did before I guess.

If you want to make it an issue again I suggest you spend every waking moment doing so and give up online gaming *cough cough* gunbound.net *cough cough*. :angel:

[revil]

Originally posted by Grimm
You could do like Revil and Nija. Stalk her until she gives in or gets a restraining order.
Hey now, you know you found the right one when she doesn't file a restraining order. twee... come to daddy :neartears

[Cheesypuff]

Originally posted by mcs328


and give up online gaming *cough cough* gunbound.net *cough cough*. :angel:

you just want me not to pass you up again!!!

I will...mark my words...I will


Anywho...still haven't heard a word from the girl...but I wrote her a letter asking for a little chat.

not my exact words I mind you...but I was asking non chalantly for a chat.

[Cheesypuff]

well...her and I went jogging this morning, and we had our "talk" it went really good, and the final decision was that we sees me as a friend.

And I'm down with that...I'm totally down with that. I'm just glad happy that she talked to me about it. Much pointos for her. Anywho...that is the update on my situation!

discuss!

[revil]

alright, next time do it the right way. you'll have to hide the bat somehow so she doesn't see it coming.

[ray]

Originally posted by revil
alright, next time do it the right way. you'll have to hide the bat somehow so she doesn't see it coming.

I wasn't expecting you to suggest physical violence. Try this one instead:

ice, fruit punch, triple sec, bacardi o, puckers apple. she won't taste a darned thing.

[attgig]

should've tried to kiss her when you had the chance....

gotta make her believe :P

[Grimm]

Originally posted by Cheesypuff
well...her and I went jogging this morning, and we had our "talk" it went really good, and the final decision was that we sees me as a friend.

And I'm down with that...I'm totally down with that. I'm just glad happy that she talked to me about it. Much pointos for her. Anywho...that is the update on my situation!

discuss!
So, now that she has stated that she is not interested in being anything more than platonic friends, where do you see the relationship going? Can you be happy with that arrangement? Or are yo going to be secretly carrying a torch for her for the next couple of decades?

Start dating other women. Ask your friend to hook you up with available women that she knows.

[revil]

Originally posted by Grimm
Start dating other women. Ask your friend to hook you up with available women that she knows.
no no no! that is wrong wrong wrong! "date" other men and insist she turned you gay. she'll go in to a jealous rage and f*ck your brains out. trust me.

[Cheesypuff]

I'm sure I'm going to carry a "torch" for her for a few, still try to impress when I can I guess. But I'm not gonna all out try like I previously did. I've liked her for awhile now...I can't just say bye, my feelings for you are blown away by you telling me we're gonna be just friends. But it's all good, I'm glad things ended the way it did...hey...it could have been worse! I respect her much for telling me, instead of giving me the cold sholder. Well...I gotta go now...time to find me self more women!

[kimchicowboy]

i just had a DTR-type talk with a friend last night. of course i had to initiate the talk. dah. but it turns out we're both interested in each other, but find it futile to do anything since i'm moving FAR away in 2 weeks. boo.

[Cheesypuff]

do tell what a dtr talk is...mucho confused!

[ray]

Is this the girl you said it to????? :confused:

http://www.littleboyinc.com/uploader/uploads/gapic.JPG

[Cheesypuff]

no...this isn't the chicka I told. It's another girl, i'd post her picture, but I have to find one first...

in due time

[attgig]

dtr = definte the relationship


Originally posted by kimchicowboy
i just had a DTR-type talk with a friend last night. of course i had to initiate the talk. dah. but it turns out we're both interested in each other, but find it futile to do anything since i'm moving FAR away in 2 weeks. boo.

:(

[brainsmile]

awww... man... you didn't have the ring ready when you told her???

[wxtwiztidxc]

Dude, dont give up, if you really like her just ask her out for a beer has "friends" and then get her drunk and then show her how much of a man you are, then she will fall inlove with you and then you can break her heart and dump her. hahahahahah

[mcs328]

Originally posted by Cheesypuff
no...this isn't the chicka I told. It's another girl, i'd post her picture, but I have to find one first...

in due time

Make sure to use a good telephoto lens ya peepin' tom!! :P
So where's the pic?