Friends that can't read....

[RoniMan]

i like hosting events, so every once in a while i get something together and send out an evite. however, what i've noticed is that if the first person to reply says no, it kinda sets the tone for every one else. so i asked nicely that if ppl choose to decline, then to do so through my email, and NOT on the website.

i sent it out to 20 ppl, the first 3 replies i got...you guessed it...NO

:throw: :censored:

[Airencracken]

And how come I'm not invited? :heh: j/k That sucks. Most people are just rude, and probalby though they didn't want to go so why bother reading the evite.

[nickel]

i'd accept :)

[kimchicowboy]

i hate it when you send an e-mail and explicitely ask for a reply..... and they don't.

[kei2]

Stupid though it may be, some people only want to go to a function if they know that certain other parameters... er... people will be in attendance. I mean if it's just going to be a bunch of people I don't like, I don't think I'd have a very good time. Not saying it's justified in this case, just trying to shed some light on the other point of view. Hope you get a good turnout for your get-together Roniman.

[RoniMan]

i know exactly what you mean kei2. however, i'm not asking everyone to say yes...what i want, is for the ppl that say "no", to do it privately, so it doesn't affect the general atmosphere of the other attendees. that's all.

[kei2]

Yeah that's definitely reasonable. When people make it public that they're not going (or that they are going for that matter) it definitely sways some people's decisions. Unfortunately, the nay-sayers are usually more vocal when it comes to RSVP's.