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rajatQ2
05-12-2004, 11:55 AM
I chose an absolutely wrong room mate, I am thinking. I have been really mad about this all week. Warning, this is a huge rant.

The thing that really ticked me off was having to eat cold dinner. I had food that I made at my parents house, but got to the apartment, all ready to move in, to find that he forgot to bring the microwave, and no one thought to turn on the gas.

I need to vent a little bit about this guy. He has been a friend of mine for almost 9 years now, and we have always gotten along well and partied a lot, but been very different types of people.

Ok, my gripes. This kid is a total dreamer. He is a philosopher, and lives on a totally different planet. Examples.
We're not getting a land-line in our apartment, so he needed a cell phone. I went with him to go pick a new one. He lost it two days later, while walking his dog. He went back and got a new one, and has lost it again, since monday night. I haven't been able to reach him.

On our big move-in day, sunday, we were moving together. I filled my truck up, and he filled his mom's van up, and we drove down there and helped eachother move our stuff in. All he brought were 4 boxes of books, and a huge book case. He was supposed to bring a microwave. Hence, i've been eating cold dinner. He was supposed to get gas connected. Hence, our oven and stove do not work.

His family is moving to Colorado next month, so his parents are giving us a lot of the furniture which they don't want to take. He is supposed to get an inventory of stuff, so that we can buy now what we are lacking. We don't have any beds, dressers, desks, or couches in the living room, because his mom promised us some of those, but he hasn't gotten together with his mom to get a real inventory yet, or even a day which they are leaving.

He is physically incapable of waking up before 2pm, even with an alarm set. we were supposed to move stuff this weekend at 2, and also last weekend at 2, and both times he called me at 2:30 and apologized, because he'd just woken up.

Our other room mate is one of his college buddies. I haven't heard from that kid even once since he's signed the lease. He calmly cut a check fo $1300, then has been MIA.

So far, i have done all the work for this apartment. I found the place, made appointments to see it, i contacted the landlord, got the lease, sent the checks. I am not bitter about this, because I also was the first to move in, so i took the parking spot, and had my pick of rooms. The no-show guy requested the best room, and we gave it to him just because he really wanted it. I took the room that is almost comparable.

This guy, even though he is a complete space cadet, is a great guy, and will do anything for his friends. When you tell him something specific to do, he'll do a good job. He has redeeming qualities, but i think i've made a HORRIBLE mistake in picking a room mate. That's all.

I've got funny stories about him too. When we were in high school, i had a huge party at my parents house. He jumped into the pool, thinking it was full of water. We hadn't opened the pool yet, and what he thought was water was actually the green winter cover. Next thing i see is this dude, up to his waist in filthy leaves and water, at the bottom of the 9-foot deep pool. Many other funny things. Ok, [/rant]

mcs328
05-12-2004, 12:09 PM
Are all your names on the lease?? If it's just you on the lease, you are the sole person responsible for coming up with the rent in full. Hopefully your roommates won't bug out on you and leave you holding the bag. That's my understanding anyways...could be wrong.

Merlin
05-12-2004, 12:42 PM
He is physically incapable of waking up before 2pm, even with an alarm set.
Sounds like Kevster. :hehehmm:

Jihforce
05-12-2004, 12:46 PM
Best friends don't always make best rommates....i'm surprised that after 9 years you haven't gotten to know his character flaws.
Anyway, hope it works out. Roommate situations are a pain.

brainsmile
05-12-2004, 12:57 PM
do they have cute gf's? :P

TofuNinja
05-12-2004, 01:31 PM
yeah my friendship with one of my best friends was put to the test whenwe roomed for a year... it's tough. We are still th best of friends, but make horrid roomies.

DarkFury
05-12-2004, 02:00 PM
I chose an absolutely wrong room mate, I am thinking. I have been really mad about this all week. Warning, this is a huge rant.
Umm... "Suckage/Not-So-Suckage Forum"? :hmm:


(j/k)


Besides... friends are great, but roommates SUCK! I prefer to live alone, however we don't always get what we want I guess. :hmm:

I've only had one "good" roommate in my life, who was a college buddy.. however even that roommate relationship went sour once he started dating a true "bitch" of a woman (Like for instance, she must've thought that SHE lived there... the way she would raid our fridge, dirty up dishes, never clean after herself and wearing out her welcome...). Pretty much she spoiled the mix... so we had to end up going separate ways, and in the end he ended up breaking up with her anyways.

BTW... we are still good friends, however it just goes to show that you can't control the "X factors" with roomates.

Lolita
05-12-2004, 02:37 PM
Ok, my gripes. This kid is a total dreamer. He is a philosopher, and lives on a totally different planet.

He is physically incapable of waking up before 2pm, even with an alarm set. we were supposed to move stuff this weekend at 2, and also last weekend at 2, and both times he called me at 2:30 and apologized, because he'd just woken up. [/rant]

OMG, that is sooo my friend. We've been best friends for the past 13 years and I love her to death but she is such a spaceball. We're total oposites, I could just imagine how hard it would be for me to live with her so I feel for you dude.

...maybe the 2 of the should hook up...on the other hand, theyd probably move in together, forget to pay the bills and freeze to death in the dark :P

Kevster
05-12-2004, 02:42 PM
Sounds like Kevster. :hehehmm:

:smash:

Hey! Give me some credit - I've gotten it down to 7am Monday-Friday (thanks to the weiner dog). Weekends though it's a bit later - 9am usually.

look_ma
05-12-2004, 07:44 PM
MY roomate is so freaking lazy when it comes to getting around to getting something done. He puts it off as long as possible, our cable has been cut twice, gas once, phone once, he forgot to pay on his insurance twice. Our living arrangment is different, He bought the house and makes the payments, I just cut checks to him. No contract but I stay because he is getting better. And i only pay $300 a month all bills paid, small room, but I can keep my dog in the back yard. so w/e

nickel
05-13-2004, 05:24 AM
yeah my friendship with one of my best friends was put to the test whenwe roomed for a year... it's tough. We are still th best of friends, but make horrid roomies.
same here. we are still best friends, but have learned we can never again live together.

whitak24
05-13-2004, 07:26 AM
Are all your names on the lease?? If it's just you on the lease, you are the sole person responsible for coming up with the rent in full. Hopefully your roommates won't bug out on you and leave you holding the bag. That's my understanding anyways...could be wrong.
actually, most leases signed by two or more people have "joint and several liability" clauses. this essentially means that any one person who has signed the lease can be held liable for the entire rent. so if two of the three people flake out, the landlord can take tenant #3 to court and get all the money owed from him/her.

of course, tenant #3 can then pursue legal action against tenants #1 and #2, but if they're flakes and have disappeared from the face of the earth, then that's a little difficult.

Mommypooh
05-13-2004, 09:03 AM
I totally understand I lived in a three bedroom house with 6 people, many of them I was good friends with. One of my roomies had a bad habit of not showering, another slept all day and I had to go through her room to get to mine. We had 4 cats, 1 dog (Akita), hamsters, rabbits, the list goes on and on. I totally relate.

rajatQ2
05-13-2004, 09:48 AM
Things are working out a bit - I'm not sharing as much of my stuff anymore, and i've delegated some of the bills and stuff to the other dude. I had put a bunch of my carpets and furniture in the common area, but when i realized that i was the only contributor, i put all the good stuff in my room. Selfish, i know, but what is the point of giving your good stuff when people don't appreciate it, nor do they offer anything themselves.

All three of us are on the lease, but I'm not too worried about them paying rent. My friend is a space cadet, but when he realizes he's gotta do something, he'll take care of it.

rajatQ2
05-24-2004, 12:36 PM
Well, we're getting along so far. It has been almost comical. I am at work right now, and I just got a phone call to ask me what city we live in. My room mates were having an argument of what our mailing is, because one had all of his bills redirected, but they never showed up.

Just to give them a little credit, if anyone knows the Boston area, they were debating whether we live in Allston, or Brighton. They are both technically part of Boston proper.

Nija
05-24-2004, 12:54 PM
Well, we're getting along so far. It has been almost comical. I am at work right now, and I just got a phone call to ask me what city we live in. My room mates were having an argument of what our mailing is, because one had all of his bills redirected, but they never showed up.

Just to give them a little credit, if anyone knows the Boston area, they were debating whether we live in Allston, or Brighton. They are both technically part of Boston proper.

http://www.usps.com/zip4/citytown.htm

:)

ray
05-24-2004, 01:17 PM
Just to give them a little credit, if anyone knows the Boston area, they were debating whether we live in Allston, or Brighton. They are both technically part of Boston proper.

My vote goes to Brighton. That's where I lived when I was Bahston. Better yet, get Newton or Chestnut Hill $$$$

rajatQ2
05-25-2004, 06:46 AM
Oh, Thanks for the website, but we already live in Brighton. They were calling me from inside the apartment. :spock:

ramazank2
05-25-2004, 08:10 AM
It doesnt sound like you have it that bad... I have had much worse roomates.

brainsmile
05-25-2004, 08:46 AM
sounds like this guy needs to go into the military if he follows directions well