View Full Version : Am I being to pushy?
08-14-2004, 10:03 AM
I met this girl about 3 weeks ago. We have spent almost everyday together since, spending time and having alot of fun...I think I may have feelings for her but she has mentioned that she is planning on moving to FL in April. So with all the time that we have spent together I have asked a couple of times about what would happen if she met someone special? She claims that it's to early to have any "talks" so I have gotten kind of frustrated. Day before yesterday we were hanging around at her place talking and I casually asked her when she was planning on moving. She said "I thought we weren't going to have this conversation yet?" Basically skirting my questions which is 'If your planning on moving where do fit in'.
Is it too soon for me to ask that where she thinks this may be going, taken into account the amount of time I have spent with her? I'm not asking for a commitment or anything but don't ya think it is logical to be able to talk about how we feel about each other?
08-14-2004, 10:24 AM
heh There is a LOT of time between now & April. Yes, after 3 weeks, you're pushing too much. If you are still together & close in February, THEN bring it up. ;)
08-14-2004, 01:23 PM
she's just trying to get you to put out
08-14-2004, 10:01 PM
I think it is a bit early as well. Are you sure you're even in an exclusive relationship? If you think you're investing too much time, then make yourself less available. If you're having fun spending time with her, then take it for what its worth and worry about her leaving closer to April. If a guy asks me about our future 3 weeks into a relationship, I think I would be a bit intimidated.
08-15-2004, 11:56 AM
I have a history of becoming serious with people really quickly and I've often told the woman I start dating that I'm not a very good casual dater which Is totally true in my own opinion so to be casual with someone really isn't my style but I also realize that I have to learn how to be more relaxed about things. Anyways thanks for the input ladies and gents...
08-15-2004, 12:33 PM
dating needs to be kinda like that cold mountin movie. diner is over. hike the dress up and bend over the table.
08-16-2004, 10:06 PM
CH, give her a day off now and then. Give her a chance to remember what it is she likes about you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder and familiarity breeds contempt. (Try not to think of "Out of sight, out of mind.") Don't ask her any probing relationship-related questions for a while. Just let her get comfortable with you for a couple months.
08-17-2004, 04:36 AM
Am I being to pushy?
If you gotta ask then the answer is YES!
08-17-2004, 04:43 AM
I have a history of becoming serious with people really quickly ...
08-17-2004, 10:04 AM
Yeah i'd backoff too. 3 weeks is a bit too short. Might wanna work on the whole "don't suffocate potential girlfriends" thing. It'll probably help you out in the long run.
08-17-2004, 10:29 AM
wait till 30 days :P
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