Do you take "guy" or "girl trips w/o your SO?

[cheapie]

I typically take 1-2 guys trips/year. usually biking trips to UT or NC or ski trips to UT or CO. i try to get my wife to go places w/her sisters or family and she does, albeit not as often as i do.

in fact, i'm trying to arrange a ski trip for my wife and two of her friends. i've got a ****load of miles and can hook them up. and then maybe i'll get the 4-way i've been dreaming of....errr, oops. back on topic.

anyhow, i was talking to a buddy last weekend and he was planning on going to indy w/me for a colts MNF game. his wife is due a little over a month after the game. she was sort of bitchy and said there's no way he's going. ok. that's pretty unreasonable but whatever.

so i say, that's cool. we were talking later about going skiing in the early spring. i would fly him out there and we'd stay w/a friend in CO. she just went ape. NO. he's not going skiing w/o me. and since i won't be able to ski by then, he can't go. we don't take seperate trips. i couldn't believe it. he told me later that i should have worked my way up to it instead of springing it on her. wtf?

i've had other people express surprise that i go on trips w/o my wife and that she does the same. do you always take joint trips or do you have an understanding that some trips are just honestly better with a group of guys/girls?

[Airencracken]

Usually I like to take my girlfriend with me, not that I go so many places.... but if ever she or I wants to go somewhere with just friends, we both respect that.

[mcs328]

Well wonder if the baby comes a month early and hubby is no where around. There would be hell to pay. I think that's reasonable...maybe going crazy psycho for just suggesting a guy nights out seems unreasonable but the reason behind isn't.

I don't get much or any 'guys' night out. I get some 'girls' night our and I stay home, lock the door, play with the dog, take out the trash, cook for yourself until I return home all by myself nights. :) I play video games anyways so I don't mind at all. I don't think I'm missing anything.

[Mike_N_Ike]

I think it's important to do both. I wouldn't want to give up trips that I take excusively with my s/o or trips that I take with the boys.

[Grubbie]

I am going to vegas with some of my guy friends. Mostly I go with my S/O but since we are across country and I am going to be gambling for 40hrs its just the guys.

[BrewMaster]

i take guy trips without my finacee and she does the same. in fact she's leaving today for a girls trip with her sister and friends. no big deal to me. she needs to have fun without me. i need to have fun without her. we take our fair share of trips together, so we get a nice balance. i can see why your buddies wife is not so keen on it the month before the birth, but afterwards, assuming it is a few months after the birth, I think she's in the wrong. if it is their first child (i have no idea if it is) she may be greaking out about being left along. gotta be sensitive to that.

and a work of advice, NEVER MESS WITH A PREGNANT WOMAN. she'll tear your eyeballs out and shove them up your ass.

[cheapie]

it's her 2nd kid and she's kind of a, ummm, spirited person anyhow.

and my wife doesn't really get cranky when she's pregnant. maybe it's because we're pretty excited about the kid or because the pregnancies have gone well. :shrug: i guess i'm pretty lucky.

[chrissy]

it's her 2nd kid and she's kind of a, ummm, spirited person anyhow.

and my wife doesn't really get cranky when she's pregnant. maybe it's because we're pretty excited about the kid or because the pregnancies have gone well. :shrug: i guess i'm pretty lucky.

eh, some women are just born to nag. Honestly.

I wish Donnie would take a trip without me! I mean, it's fun to go places with him, but he really needs to get out with friends (besides the movies). The guys go camping, he doesn't go (he is right, I would get mad cuz he won't go with me but he would with them, but I would get over it!), they go to the lake, he doesn't go... He wants to be able to see those things with me. I can see them later!!!! Just get out of the HOUSE!!!!

[nickel]

errrm, have you told him you feel this way? i cannot imagine someone passing up a camping trip with the guys like that.

[chrissy]

Yeah, I have. He knows.

He is a great friend, a great man and a wonderful husband. And he wants to see the world with me. It took a while for me to get him to go to the movies without me. It's babysteps... that's all. He doesn't see it as fair that he gets to go and I don't. If we spend money on an outing, it needs to be on both of us, not just one of us. He's sweet, just attached

[LPMiller]

I would. I don't go anyplace with out electricity, broadband and plumbing. Personal rule.

[Ladogaboy]

Wow, I could never be with anyone as controlling as cheapie described... I like my freedom far too much. Now, as far as Brewmaster letting his fiance have a guys' night out... I'm not sure if I could handle that. :P

[Yossarian]

i leki boobbies

[oblongmelon]

i leki boobbiesHijacker.

[LPMiller]

no, that's someone who self pleasures while smoking a blunt.

[nickel]

no, that's someone who self pleasures while smoking a blunt.
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[welfareloser]

some people do it a lot, some people never do it at all... so long as the guy and girl are both on the same wavelength, it's all good...

cheapie, it sounds like the problem is that your friend and his wife don't have a very strong relationship... if he wants to do stuff, she doesn't "let" him, and he's talking about presenting things in a certain way to, like, "trick" her into getting his way... doesn't sound like a good scene at all. (and, being the person i am, i'd call her a controlling nag and him a victim, but i don't know, of course...)

for us, we pretty much do everything together, not really so much as a matter of policy, but becuase we have the same interests, and the same friends (most of my friends are guys, more than half of his close friends are girls, and we've both made friends with each others' friends...) and a boysnightout or girlsnightout would be arbitrary and stupid. i have gone to a concert with a girlfriend while he watched both our kids because babysitting two spaz toddlers sounded like, hands-down, more fun than an erasure concert to him :P and he works out several times a week with one of our friends while i stay with the kids because i have no interest in lifting weights... while he was studying one night, i went out with the guys and he stayed as the responsible adult while the kids slept... i stayed with the kids so he could go to our friends thesis defense (i would have gone too but someone had to stay with the kids...) and that's really it, ever. we fly-fish and camp together, go to the titty bar together, go to bars together, etc, same as we did for the 8 years before we were married :shrug:

anyway. in our generation, it seems like about half the people do a lot of gender-divided stuff, and the other half never really pay much attention to who is what gender, only who wants to engage in the activity in question and who has no interest... again, so long as both are fine with it, it's all good. sometimes people give me crap about not "letting" josh go out... they just can't see that he'd go out without me if he wanted, with no crap from me, he just doesn't wanna. anybody giving you crap for doing stuff without your wife, when it's obviously equitable and agreeable to both of you, is just as silly.

[cheapie]

the stuff i tend to do w/o her is mountain bike and snowboard. altho, she's a very good skier now. very fast and great form. she usually impresses my friends w/how fast and in-control she is.

her stuff is antique shopping and scrapbooking.

[WhiskeyPapa]

We very seldom do separate overnight type stuff (unless it's a business trip.) There have been some isolated events, but as I recollect, they were all church-related things (Promise Keepers for me, women's retreat type stuff for her.) I guess I'd never do a pure vacation kind of thing without her.

[Jihforce]

rarely. happened once this year. my wife went to visit her folks.

[yippiekiyeh]

She's always invited, and she has the option to back out if she'd like. Yeah she'd like to go to Vegas, but she knows when I go I'll be hitting the tables and sleeping like ZERO. So sometimes she'll say: "have fun." Other times it will be reversed. She's going to Australia for vacation with her girl friends, she asked if I wanted to come, but with school and work scheduling conficts I had to decline, so I said to her "have fun!"

In the end it's all about the flexibilty.

[molecularfire]

I probably do more stuff without her than with her and vice versa even when we saw each other on a regular basis. We both have friends that we knew before we knew each other and they don't exactly mix. Also, I don't fit in with her friends and I think she's kinda scared of mine.

[ufcrusher]

I would have to say that there are definite times where I do the guys only things and she does her things. For the most part though, we do things together. I have taken 3 trips to vegas without her and 1 trip to mexico...although that was my bachelor party so that doesnt count. As for more local things, there have been a few times when I have gone out without her, such as when she isnt feeling up to it, but otherwise she comes along (and is welcome).