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cheapie
01-12-2005, 11:00 AM
my wife's grandma is getting old. mid-upper 80's. she crotchety but pretty cool. she's led an incredible life. lived in africa the majority of her life. nigeria, chad, niger, etc. she's developed some pulmonary/lung condition and is getting pretty weak. my wife's family is worried about her getting sick but i don't think they realize how soon she'll prolly be gone. they're hoping the new meds/O2 will fix stuff but i think it will be over soon. i tried hinting to my wife that they had better spend as much time as possible with her now before she's gone. i don't know how to tell her and her mom that it's pretty dire and to ready themselves for the inevitable. sigh. my wife's g'pa is in his early 70's and is doing great and it's probably going to be a tremendous to him. i hope he doesn't just shut down when it happens. :neartears

nickel
01-12-2005, 01:24 PM
so there is like 15 years age difference between gram and gramp?

my grandparents are both 80 and doing well, but i know that either one could be taken in an instant. i agree cheapie, everyone needs to spend as much time with gramma as possible, because you can't get that time back if you don't.

whitak24
01-12-2005, 02:26 PM
man, that sucks.

my condolences to you and your wife as you deal with the ongoing issues that this creates.

Kim
01-13-2005, 05:05 PM
Gosh, I feel for you. I'm facing the fading of my mom now, and it is so hard seeing her go downhill so fast!

cheapie
01-13-2005, 06:06 PM
well...she's led a great life, there are (to my knowledge) no unresolved issues. the family is all christian so they have the hope of seeing her again. but it's still going to suck.

Gothic Girl
01-13-2005, 06:15 PM
Man, sorry to hear about that Cheapie. I just lost my gma recently. It's very hard especially if your wife and her are close. Maybe you can video tape them together that way she can always watch the tape after her gma goes. That's what we did, that way my kids can see great gma.

My condolences. Take care.

cheapie
01-13-2005, 06:23 PM
that's a great idea. i should take a ton of pics of them.

oblongmelon
01-13-2005, 07:50 PM
Give G'ma a blank book. Ask her to start writing her life down it in..take pictures, take videos..document document document.

cheapie
02-24-2005, 06:30 AM
sigh...too late. she's in the hospital and fading quickly. my wife is gonna pick me up from work in an hour or so and we're going down to fort wayne to visit her, probably for the last time. she just can't get any oxygen in her lungs and is very weak.

we're going on vacation sat-wed in utah and i hope she doesn't pass while we're gone. and is it bad to hope if she does that they don't have the funeral until thursday so we won't have to come home early?

ski
02-24-2005, 09:14 AM
is it bad to hope if she does that they don't have the funeral until thursday so we won't have to come home early?
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Gothic Girl
02-24-2005, 09:44 AM
and is it bad to hope if she does that they don't have the funeral until thursday so we won't have to come home early?
I wouldn't think so. You'll need the time to relax before you have to go home and deal with the funeral. However, I just hope the whole time you're on vacation you're not dwelling on it.

cheapie
02-25-2005, 05:33 AM
sheesh. that was hard. showed up to the hospital and she was pretty much out of it. barely responded to anything. my wife had thought about calling her on wednesday when she was still talking but never got around to it. so we show up yesterday and my wife never got the chance to say goodbye :neartears: she did have her respond somewhat when she was talking but still....

sigh...it's sad to see her grandpa. they were planning their 50th wedding anniversary in a couple months after my SIL's wedding.

kinda strange being there with my 1yo son and watching an 87yo person die.

nickel
02-25-2005, 06:47 AM
kinda strange being there with my 1yo son and watching an 87yo person die.
that's the circle of life.

sad to see an 87 yo person leave us, but that's a good long life and one to rejoice in.
gotta hear grampa out as he will be missing her so bad, but in time he will turn to remembering the good times and not just be full of sadness.

times like these you really appreciate family, huh cheapie?

cheapie
02-25-2005, 06:54 AM
zactly!

Hypnotist
02-25-2005, 06:38 PM
Sorry Brother... these are the times when the rubber Really meets the road. Be as supportive as possible and allow feelings to be expressed.
Such is this wonderful life.
Blessings,
Brad

cheapie
02-25-2005, 06:40 PM
she died today. i think everyone but my wife's g'pa is relieved. he's understandably heart-broken.

well....vacation tomorrow and the funeral next week. thanks for all of the support!

Hypnotist
02-25-2005, 06:53 PM
I Am Sorry Cheapie... She's Free now... God Bless Her, God Bless You All...
Brad

gugnheim
02-26-2005, 03:18 PM
Sorry to hear that Cheapie. My grandmother is fading as well, since the death of my mother. She just dosen't want to be around anymore. Sad to see, she's 88(?) herself and used to walk 3 miles a day, and now is just a shadow of herself. She's serious when she talks about just wanting to see my mom again, and my grandfather her husband died in the 1960s, she never remarried, infact became a housekeeper for a parish of priests. Just be there for everyone and things will get better with time.
gug

nickel
02-26-2005, 03:39 PM
she died today. i think everyone but my wife's g'pa is relieved. he's understandably heart-broken.

well....vacation tomorrow and the funeral next week. thanks for all of the support!
condolences to you and yours cheapie.
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whitak24
02-26-2005, 06:04 PM
sorry to hear about that cheapie. hope you and your wife can be strong during this time. your family will be in my prayers.

ufcrusher
02-26-2005, 08:41 PM
Sorry for your families loss but at least she is not suffering anymore. Just remember her at her best and celebrate her life.