SS: It's another Friday night...

[IrishSS]

"..and I aint got nobody... I got some money cause I just got paid... oh how I wish I had someone to talk to... in an awful way."

Ya I know it's actually Saturday in the song... but damnit, it could be any day of the week lately.

Met the girl of my dreams a few months back. Spent a lot of time with her, even met her family over New Years. Got back home and she decided to just break it off and now she wont even talk to me. Says she didn't met somebody else or anything, just didnt want a relationship right now...

Uh-huh.

For the average person, they would just say ok and life would go forth. Not I. I don't deal well with this kind of thing, especially when I've invested so much emotionally into a situation like this. I get super-depressed (as I am now and have been for a month almost) and it takes me a long time to climb out of it. When I last dealt with this situation, It took me nearly 18 months to fully recover and I had family and friends readily available... Now that I'm here in BFE West Virginia with no friends, no family and nothing to do, I'm finding this situation to be infinitely harder to cope with.

I like to say that God just didn't mean for this to work out and something better will come along. Sure, it's easy to say when things are goin ok, but it's so hard to believe when you feel so bad.

I don't eat.. sleep... do things I need to do. I come home and sit in the dark until its time to go to bed.

I ****ing hate this. I ****ing hate WV!

[GracieBayb]

Hi Irish,
You've heard that saying, "if you love something, let it go and if it comes back then you know its for real," I think maybe you might find some comfort in those words...

I know what its like to jump in a relationship and be a little scared of committment and sometimes a little bit of time and experience can help people come around. I'm guessing that if you met the family, things were/are pretty serious and trust your girl to know what she needs right now. Who knows, in a while, she may realize that you are the guy of her dreams and come back and be able to be more to you than you ever imagined.

I'm sorry that you're feeling a little low, try to start making friends or get to know the people that you work with. Things will start to look up :) Good luck!!

[Kim]

I know it's hard to be alone. When I get depressed about stuff, I make myself do something nice for someone else. It always makes me feel better, it makes someone else happy, and that makes me happy. I've met a lot of people this way, and made some great new friends.


Anyway, I hope things look up, and you can always PM me if you want to talk.

[nickel]

how are you doing IrishSS? West Virginia can't be that bad. how'd you like to be up in Siberia, aka the frozen tundra, aka upstate NY? :P

[IrishSS]

how are you doing IrishSS? West Virginia can't be that bad. how'd you like to be up in Siberia, aka the frozen tundra, aka upstate NY? :P

Eh... mornings and evenings are by far the worst. I keep expecting her to call... to IM... something. And another day goes by where I don't hear from her. We used to talk upwards of 10-15 times a day. There wasnt a day between Halloween and New Years that we did not talk or see each other. And now nothing? For weeks at a time? It hurts. Badly. To share something so special with somebody like that and to have it all taken away at a moments notice... I'm completely at a loss for words. The things I used to enjoy doing I no longer have a desire to even think about. I don't laugh, I don't smile.

And I think aside from North Dakota, WV is the worst place in the continental US for a person of my age and marital status. It truly does suck that much...

[johnnymk]

Wow, maybe the bad rap that WV gets is well deserving. I was in Huntington(sp?) 20 years ago and remember it to be very pretty, but that's all I can recall about WV.

[Gothic Girl]

And I think aside from North Dakota, WV is the worst place in the continental US for a person of my age and marital status. It truly does suck that much...
Yeah, you're pretty young too. You need to move to San Diego! Land-o-lust! Perfect for a man of your age.

Seriously though, I know how it is. I've been there a few times. Right after I got divorced, I moved to Albuquerque. I had no friends, no family, and worst of all, no husband. I wound up throwing myself into my work so hard that now I'm paying for it with carpul tunnel and a few herniated disks. So don't do that! Do you have any hobbies like bowling or what-not? I joined a co-ed softball team and met a lot of new people, people that I'm still friends with 4 years later.

I know it doesn't seem like it, but there is a reason why this didn't work out for you. 2 years after I moved to Albuquerque, I met my current husband and we moved back to San Diego together. I now have a great life, and that couldn't have happened if I was still with my ex. I think I would have shot myself if that were the case!

[cheapie]

why are you in WV? work? if so, being lonely and depressed isn't worth having a sucky life. also, talk to guissepvw. he's from wv and can prolly give you some advice on what to do to have fun w/peers.

how far are you from baltimore or hagerstown, md? if it's less than 4 hours or so we should hook up for dinner or something.

[IrishSS]

Yeah, you're pretty young too. You need to move to San Diego! Land-o-lust! Perfect for a man of your age.

Ya... I wish I was in SD. I know a couple of people down there and it is soooooooo much nicer than WV. If a transfer spot opens up down there, I'm so applying for it.

[guiseppewv]

Wow, maybe the bad rap that WV gets is well deserving. I was in Huntington(sp?) 20 years ago and remember it to be very pretty, but that's all I can recall about WV.

Huntington is very dirty. Yuk. But most of the rest of WV is beautiful. Morgantown, Wheeling, Charleston (3 of the 4 largest cities in the state) are great places to live. Morgantown was rated as the best small city in America in '03. WV does get a bad rap and it isn't deserved. Some of the nicest and friendliest people in the country live in WV. In MD/NOVA good luck trying to get someone to let you into traffic or to pull over and help you out when you break down but WV someone will pull over within minutes to help you out.

[johnnymk]

Huntington is very dirty. Yuk. But most of the rest of WV is beautiful. Morgantown, Wheeling, Charleston (3 of the 4 largest cities in the state) are great places to live. Morgantown was rated as the best small city in America in '03. WV does get a bad rap and it isn't deserved. Some of the nicest and friendliest people in the country live in WV. In MD/NOVA good luck trying to get someone to let you into traffic or to pull over and help you out when you break down but WV someone will pull over within minutes to help you out.

You know, maybe it was Morgantown I visited. It was a college town, that's mainly what I remembered.

The reason Huntington came up is that a friend of mine was into UFO's at the time. He heard that there were spottings every night in Huntington. So he talked me into going down there at the time. I just went for the ride since I never believed in them.

Anyway, we get there and within a few hours find that the UFO spottings were in Huntington, North Carolina. Yikes :disa: Sorry, wrong trip. So we decided to tour part of West Virginia.
I was impressed with the beauty and the pace of living of that general area.