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ufcrusher
05-17-2005, 05:43 PM
My best friend and I were talking the other day and I happened to ask him what the reciprocity rules were in the state he lived. He asked me why I was interested and I answered honestly that we are looking into moving back to the east coast. However, that there were several road blocks which were causing problems and possibly delaying the move.

I explained that the roadblocks were making sure I could work while I was studying, determining whether to move back to Florida or Philly, and my wife's job and where she could transfer to.

Today, out of the blue my friend calls me and tells me that he talked to his boss about me and his boss is willing to hire me on immediately while I study for the bar exam. I would be doing legal work, but not working as a full attorney until I passed the bar there, but it would give me a job both while I was studying and after I passed. The only catch is I need to let him know by the end of the week and would have to start immediately. (Meaning, I would have to move to Philly immediately, leaving my wife in San Diego at her job with our apartment/condo and would probably need to live with one of my family members there for a bit while I found a place.)

In one sense, I think its great that I got an offer to start immediately while I study. The other side of the coin is the fact that I didnt ask my friend to do this for me and I worry what his boss would think if I choose NOT to take this offer. (We hadnt decided to move yet nor which state to move to, I was doing preliminary information and even told my friend this.) I feel like my friend went out of his way to help me (although it was partially for himself as he hates me living cross country and he has even said that) and if I dont take it, I could hurt him at his job.

Well, I guess this will be an interesting conversation when my wife gets off her plane tonight. :shrug:

speedracer120
05-17-2005, 07:06 PM
Well at least you have a couple of things to be thankful for out of this. A bonafide job offer and a friend that cares enough to be proactive in your life.

It sucks that you only have till the end of the week to resond though and that it will make another aspect of your life difficult.

Kim
05-17-2005, 07:07 PM
Good luck deciding!

ufcrusher
05-17-2005, 07:47 PM
This is my best friend....we have been best friends since we were 4. Our friendship is old enough that it could drink on its own and its driving insurance has been lowered because of hitting the old age reduced rate mark.

I have always looked out for him and vice versa. He always joked that I would have had one of his jobs over him because my father was friends with all the partners. Its this way with a number of firms in that area, but not the current one.

Yossarian
05-17-2005, 09:49 PM
if i was in your current situation, i'd probably take the offer. yeah it means moving again, but that was a given anyway. besides, being close to family and friends when attending school is a great plus. it allows you to be close toa good support group(if your family is one) and/or a good comfort area...you already know tha area you live/work in

DarkFury
05-17-2005, 10:04 PM
Man... I wish I had friends like that. :D

speedracer120
05-17-2005, 10:14 PM
:stupid:
I've moved around too much as a kid to really build any relationships that lasted that long.

Jeffbx
05-18-2005, 05:27 AM
Sounds like a good opportunity - jump on it!

But if you decide not to, don't worry about what the boss thinks - it's a very short timeframe to make such a major decision, and he can't expect you to make a life altering decision in a matter of a few days.

nickel
05-18-2005, 08:23 AM
sounds like they "made you an offer you can't refuse."

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/1/1a/180px-Brando_as_don_corleone.jpg

tupacboy
05-18-2005, 08:50 AM
seems like everthing is lining up for a reason....

welfareloser
05-18-2005, 02:57 PM
don't worry about what we think... ask your wife what she thinks. sounds like it's a sudden change that'll work out just fine IF she is happy with the options it offers her.

Showtime
05-18-2005, 03:27 PM
:stupid:

Do what is right for the 2 of you.

-j