View Full Version : Guys/Gals. How do I get my significant other to go down on me?
Pemolis
08-18-2005, 02:07 PM
I've been dating my girl for 1.5 years. She's sweet, honest, cute and a bit nieve (this is purely on her part cause I am her first main squeeze). Either/or, here's my issue.
I go down on her willingly (and repeatedly) till she passes out, yet she rarely if ever reciprocates (when she is awake). So how do I get her to... well do that deed?
I've already expressed my desire for that, and we even joke about it but still... nada.
So is it wrong to expect her to... well perform? And how do I get her to... perform?
irwin
08-18-2005, 02:15 PM
My friend said he just slowly pushes down on his girl's head when they're kissing upright. If she resists, he uses both hands for more leverage.
mcs328
08-18-2005, 02:26 PM
69? Some girls just don't do that. Is your junk clean? Maybe she think's bacterially nasty and a shower beforehand might help change her mind.
Hmm...got any spare diamond rings laying around? I hear that works all the time. :)
MrGreg
08-18-2005, 02:28 PM
Hmm...got any spare diamond rings laying around? I hear that works all the time. :)
I thought that's when they STOP doing it.
BigJon
08-18-2005, 02:29 PM
Wait until she's sleeping...then... :shifty:
cadetevon
08-18-2005, 02:35 PM
yet she rarely if ever reciprocates (when she is awake).
WTF? :eek3:
Explain this to me?
Jenny
08-18-2005, 02:50 PM
WTF? :eek3:
Explain this to me?
Yeah, I'm hoping he was kidding. This thread just gives me the creeps...
cadetevon
08-18-2005, 02:56 PM
Yeah, I'm hoping he was kidding. This thread just gives me the creeps...
:stupid:
doolittle
08-18-2005, 03:08 PM
A bottle of booze and some chocolate sauce may help. You may end up alone, drunk, and covered in chocolate syrup , but hey, you can still have a satisfying shower.
Kevster
08-18-2005, 03:18 PM
Is it clean down there? Does it smell ok? Does she like lollipops?
Does she like lollipops?
Yes.
Thesifer
08-18-2005, 04:04 PM
I can't help here.. because I had an ex that just wouldn't do it .. while we were together.. then we broke up.. and she turned into everything she didn't used to be .. Doing WHATEVER .. a guy wanted.. pretty much litterally.. And currently her new thing is "Swinger Dating"
ialsohaveadream
08-18-2005, 04:14 PM
Here's an idea: Tell her that's what you want, only say it seriously. If she still won't do it, break up with her. Maybe she can find a guy who isn't into oral....tell her good luck with that. ;)
And I'm with all the stupids that were wondering about the "while she's awake" part. You can't possibly mean you've tried it when she's asleep. First of all, it wouldn't feel nearly as good. Second of all, she'll bite your junk (and I don't think anyone would blame her).
BigJon
08-18-2005, 04:17 PM
I can't help here.. because I had an ex that just wouldn't do it .. while we were together.. then we broke up.. and she turned into everything she didn't used to be .. Doing WHATEVER .. a guy wanted.. pretty much litterally.. And currently her new thing is "Swinger Dating"
Hehehe...Thesifer...go rent a hooker for the night and take her to the "swinger date", when it's time to switch partners you can show that ex whats what!
:hihi:
Hehehe...Thesifer...go rent a hooker for the night and take her to the "swinger date", when it's time to switch partners you can show that ex whats what!
:hihi:
Yeah, you can totally show her the difference's between syphillis & gential warts, that'd be awesome!
nickel
08-18-2005, 05:17 PM
Is it clean down there? Does it smell ok? Does she like lollipops?
:lmfao:
Pemolis
08-18-2005, 06:41 PM
yet she rarely if ever reciprocates (when she is awake).
Oh gees I did not even realize how that sounded. I linked the two sentences very awkwardly.
I go down on her willingly (and repeatedly) till she passes out, yet she rarely if ever reciprocates (when she is awake). So how do I get her to... well do that deed?
I'll rephrase
-----I go down on her willingly and repeatedly till she passes out. But when she wakes up, she rarely if ever reciprocates.-----
I was never an english major for a reason.
Yet I am VERY serious in this thread people. Strangely enough my drunken friend talked about that today... and basically said "I haven't Lived!!!!".
So some serious feedback people.
BigJon
08-18-2005, 06:58 PM
We have. Either she's a prude or your junk smells. :shrug:
Jenny
08-18-2005, 07:14 PM
Eh, I wouldn't say it has to be either of those. I don't like doing it. I just don't like the way it tastes and my jaw gets sore cause I have a small mouth. lol :shrug: :blush:
ialsohaveadream
08-18-2005, 07:15 PM
We have. Either she's a prude or your junk smells. :shrug:
Yup. And if it's the former, dump her. If it's the latter, take a freakin shower. :)
LegendKiller
08-18-2005, 07:18 PM
Sometimes chicks just don't want to do it. Just like some guys can't stand doing it the other way due to certain issues.
You can try to say you won't do it to her unless she reciprocates. She might say it is a tit-for-tat childish thing, but you should look at it more of a quid pro quo. Everybody gets what they want and everybody is happy in the end.
Although, in the end, does it matter all *that* much? A BJ isn't the end all and be all of sexual existence. I would disagree with "you aren't living if you don't get them". There are much more enjoyable things that you can do that that.
I have never understood the emphasis placed up them myself. I take a much more external outlook, if she's happy I am happy.
GracieBayb
08-18-2005, 07:34 PM
maybe you should shave/trim? in the words of samantha from sex in the city, "everytime i blow you, i feel like i'm flossing"
brainsmile
08-18-2005, 08:08 PM
maybe she can't find it :P
Yeah. If she doesn't want to orally gratify you, next time you are doing her doggy-style, stick it in her butt.
Then give her this:
http://www.nijaizkewl.com/images/personal/fun/anal_card.jpg
Pemolis
08-18-2005, 08:52 PM
Yeah. If she doesn't want to orally gratify you, next time you are doing her doggy-style, stick it in her butt.
Then give her this:
http://www.nijaizkewl.com/images/personal/fun/anal_card.jpg
Been there, done that.
Some actual help would be nice :rolleyes:
Some actual help would be nice :rolleyes:
You gave her the card, too?
The card makes the whole thing.
And if she is not sexually satisfying you, I see no reason to stay with her.
brainsmile
08-18-2005, 08:56 PM
hehehe... nice Nija :P
hapoo
08-18-2005, 09:14 PM
I have never understood the emphasis placed up them myself. I take a much more external outlook, if she's happy I am happy.
I agree, but personally i think a "if she's happy i'm happy" situation only works when i know she feels the same way.
BigJon
08-18-2005, 09:34 PM
Yet I am VERY serious in this thread people. Strangely enough my drunken friend talked about that today... and basically said "I haven't Lived!!!!"
Besides...why are you listening to a drunken friend anyways? We've told you over and over in this thread.
It's either a problem with HER or YOU. You can't force her to give you head. You can't guilt trip her to do it. If you want head so bad, go find another girl. If head is the only important thing that your relationship has to offer...then you need to get your priorities straight.
Want head? Go get it. Otherwise, learn to live with her and without head.
Sorry to break the bad news.
brainsmile
08-18-2005, 09:48 PM
ha ha ha... why don't you just draw a face on her belly
ufcrusher
08-18-2005, 10:15 PM
ha ha ha... why don't you just draw a face on her belly
And buy a special set of dentures.
Seriously though, some women dont like to give fellatio. As some of the females on the board already said, it can be simply that their mouth/jaw gets tired/hurts. It can be an issue with your hygiene. It could be a mental thing...such as she doesnt want to get a mouth full of your essence.
If its a hygiene or mental issue, you can work on it. Simply put, both of you hop in the shower and make sure that you are quite clean. Same way most people prepare for Nijas postcard. For the issue of getting shot in the back of the throat.....promise her that you will warn her AND keep your promise. After a few times, she might begin to become more comfortable with the idea of swallowing.
If its a physical issue with the size of her mouth, jaw issue (TMJ), or gag reflex...well that is a bit tougher. The jaw/size issue generally would mean that you play by her rules. If her jaw is feeling fine, well then she can suck away for as long as she can take it. If her jaw is hurting, sucks to be you. Gag reflex, can be trained to get over. Same way that some women can learn to deep throat.
The ONLY way you will find out what is really wrong is by sitting down and talking with her. If she says that she just doesnt like to perform fellatio....explain your perspective and state that sometimes you dont like to do somethings but you do them for her anyway. She will most likely say, well then dont do them. At this point, you can stop the cunnilingus to see how she likes being on the other side of the equation. If she says that she doesnt care, well then you have to decide if you can live in a relationship where your sex life isnt what you want. If she says that you have to go down on her to get her wet enough....break out the lube. Does the same thing without providing her the pleasure. If she breaks up with you over this...well you know where you stand. She figured she could get what she wants without having to reciprocate.
Honestly though, why bother to be in a relationship that you arent satisifed in? If the lack of fellatio is the only thing bringing you down but you are otherwise happy, you need to decide whether its enough to break up over. From what you said in response to Nijas "Thanks for the Anal" post, it sounds like she is willing to do other things. You have to realize that alot of women are unwilling to even try the backdoor, so the fact that she is but doesnt like to fellate you does seem odd...but you might look at it that you had to choose.
chrissy
08-18-2005, 10:35 PM
Communication.
Is it the taste? Eat pineapple.
Is it the OMG thought of it? ask if there is a way to help her along (lubed hand job by her with belly kisses and whatever makes her comfy having her face near your personal regions.)
Is it uncomfortable for her? she might have had a bad experience where the guy forced his manhood down her throat and she knows no other way. There are several techniques, maybe she just doesn't have the experience.
Talk to her, not us. If you can't talk about what you need and want and like and dislike in bed like adults, then one (or both) of you isn't mature enough to be there.
You can't guilt trip her to do it.
So says the guy without the forced oral copulation arrest on his records....
wait... d'oh ;)
brainsmile
08-18-2005, 11:09 PM
maybe you should have her best friend show her http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?t=90860
Kevster
08-19-2005, 02:07 AM
Is it the taste? Eat pineapple.
That really works. It takes about a day to 'work through'. You should also cut back on dairy and smoking (smoking apparently makes it really nasty).
Communication. Talk to her, not us. If you can't talk about what you need and want and like and dislike in bed like adults, then one (or both) of you isn't mature enough to be there.
:stupid: Well said, Chrissy!
Also, Pemolis you may just want to write the Playboy Advisor - they would be quite willing to take this up and probably give you the same advice that Chrissy just did but they'll make it immortalized in print for all time.
Merlin
08-19-2005, 04:50 AM
The women I've known who have been reluctant was always for the same reason - they didn't want jiz shot into the mouth or eye. If I were to venture a guess I would say that's why she doesn't do it. Or maybe she just doesn't want to suck on the thing you pee with. I think you need to let her know that she will be safe if she tries. Work up to the freaky stuff later.
Has she ever done it before? Has she ever done it to you? Or did she try it once and decide never again?
Pemolis
08-19-2005, 05:25 AM
About 4 times in 1.5 years. I never "" in her mouth :spock:
She is VERY inexperienced (as in practically no experience except from watching Clockwork Orange).
Here's the issue. She knows nothing sexually. When I mean nothing.. I DO MEAN NOTHING. I've never quite seen a girl who lived in such a sexual vacuum.. but she has. Its been 1.5 years.. She's never gotten me off (not once). She's a good girl, but the intimacy is so unsatisfying. Basically I need to know HOW to improve her.
ialsohaveadream
08-19-2005, 05:35 AM
OH....MY....GOD. She hasn't gotten you off in over a year, and you're still with her? What the hell is wrong with you!?
Merlin
08-19-2005, 06:26 AM
So what you really need to do is learn how to unleash her inner freak. Start small with things like talking dirty etc. and go from there. Push the boundries a little further each time. Ease her into it so to speak.
nickel
08-19-2005, 07:11 AM
Sometimes chicks just don't want to do it. Just like some guys can't stand doing it the other way due to certain issues.
You can try to say you won't do it to her unless she reciprocates. She might say it is a tit-for-tat childish thing, but you should look at it more of a quid pro quo. Everybody gets what they want and everybody is happy in the end.
Although, in the end, does it matter all *that* much? A BJ isn't the end all and be all of sexual existence. I would disagree with "you aren't living if you don't get them". There are much more enjoyable things that you can do that that.
I have never understood the emphasis placed up them myself. I take a much more external outlook, if she's happy I am happy.
it's official: LK is ready for marriage :)
About 4 times in 1.5 years. I never "" in her mouth :spock:
She is VERY inexperienced (as in practically no experience except from watching Clockwork Orange).
Here's the issue. She knows nothing sexually. When I mean nothing.. I DO MEAN NOTHING. I've never quite seen a girl who lived in such a sexual vacuum.. but she has. Its been 1.5 years.. She's never gotten me off (not once). She's a good girl, but the intimacy is so unsatisfying. Basically I need to know HOW to improve her.
my you have been patient.
is she adverse to watching some porn with you? kinda as a teaching aid?
Thesifer
08-19-2005, 07:16 AM
Again.. Sounds just like my Ex.. She turned into a freak.. course after we broke up.. but she started sort of opening up while we were together.. The only problem that arises next is the "Maybe its better with someone else" .. thing.. that people tend to go through
mcs328
08-19-2005, 07:47 AM
That's so strange that she can't get you off. Is there no friction going inside...are you too small or is she too big? Sorry I know that's personal but that is strange.
If she's worried about the taste or load how about flavored condoms (I avoid the mint ones myself). Yes I know...for some of the G|A ppl it's like wearing a poofy jacket and you can't feel anything but for some of us (not me of course :shifty: ) you can feel enough to feel good. There's some discussion here mint and other flavors (http://www.gotapex.com/forums/showthread.php?t=87220)
Oooh...another vote for eating a whole thing of pineapples all day.
hoey222
08-19-2005, 07:51 AM
flavor it - mebbe some fun dip, or something so it may not seem as graphic to her.
she could also be afraid of the "happy ending" what to do with all that stuff - she just may not be ready to deal with that "mess"
Mommypooh
08-19-2005, 07:55 AM
get over it. deal with it inside your relationship.
I don't care to go down. I don't care if it is reciprocated or not.
le_stick
08-19-2005, 07:58 AM
If you want BJ that bad, I suggest you to go to the professional.
They will do whatever you tell them to and I mean they will do it with a smile.
You just have to spend a few hundred clams that's all.
chrissy
08-19-2005, 08:05 AM
Pemolis, how old are you and how old is your girl?
mcs328
08-19-2005, 08:13 AM
Pemolis, how old are you and how old is your girl?
:stupid: Doh...I guess I should have asked that question first. That would have been the adult responsible thing to do. :dead:
avlena
08-19-2005, 09:38 AM
About 4 times in 1.5 years. I never "" in her mouth :spock:
She is VERY inexperienced (as in practically no experience except from watching Clockwork Orange).
Here's the issue. She knows nothing sexually. When I mean nothing.. I DO MEAN NOTHING. I've never quite seen a girl who lived in such a sexual vacuum.. but she has. Its been 1.5 years.. She's never gotten me off (not once). She's a good girl, but the intimacy is so unsatisfying. Basically I need to know HOW to improve her.
have you gotten her off? maybe the issue isn't how to get her to give blowjobs, but rather how to get her to open up sexually. How long have you been having sex? Do you both communicate to each other what your desires are, what needs to be done to make the other person feel good, etc? It could be that she's uncomfortable with certain sexual acts because she IS so naive. Maybe she just needs instructions on what to do. So, as everyone else has said, go talk to her!
Pemolis
08-19-2005, 09:44 AM
I'm 25, she's 20.
I'm her first also (meaning she hasn't been with another).
Friction... it ain't a problem :gle:
...are you too small or is she too big?
Swap Small and Big and you've hit one of our previous issues which lasted two or so months.
And yes.. I am VERY patient.
I'll try to eleviate some issues. I do not like to go to "professionals" because I have too big of a subconcious to go down that road (though it has been offered on more than one occasion). The other thing is that.. I like her. I would like to keep her. I just... well freaking need that!!!.
It is strange because I was listening to George Carlin and he stated "There is not one man who is satisfied with the oral sex in their relationship". That does not bode very well in my situation
Note: I thought I should clarify "well freaking need that!!!" Because I am sure someone will flip it around and twist its meaning. Everything is baby-steps with this girl and if she would open up to that road, I am sure she would open up to more roads (I am not talking about strange perversions). I am speaking about freedom with a persons sexuality and sexual acts.
I am genuine when I made this post (it was not a hoax or a joke, but something serious which probably plagues more than a few people on this forum).
mcs328
08-19-2005, 10:21 AM
Well we like to joke and kid a lot on this forum. So don't take it as insulting or to heart. We have a few gems now and then. Hmmm...I don't how you can tactfully talk to her about it but once you do you can see if the flavored condoms is a realistic solution if the issue is indeed swallowing or taste. So get the conversation going to see if it's one of those things you can gradually ease into just not now or there's just no way in hell she'll do it. Some rather do BJ vs Anal and some do the opposite and some neither. I'm sure if you talk to her you can explore what the boundaries are and which ones are boundaries now but are options later.
nickel
08-19-2005, 10:25 AM
sounds like your sexual compatiblity is really in question.
if you can deal with that the rest of your life and not feel resentful then things will still be ok.
didn't like my watching porn suggestion?
MrGreg
08-19-2005, 10:58 AM
didn't like my watching porn suggestion?
I, for one, loved it and have been doing so nonstop.
cadetevon
08-19-2005, 11:06 AM
maybe you should shave/trim? in the words of samantha from sex in the city, "everytime i blow you, i feel like i'm flossing"
:lmfao:
chrissy
08-19-2005, 11:14 AM
Don't get frustrated with her. You need to be relaxed around her. Don't make this an everytime issue (which it sounds like it is becoming).
Let her know it's natural to be curious and adventuresome in bed.
This is really all I am going to say about this, because I will not walk you and her through learning. There isn't a way for anyone to do that. It's a personal experience and there isn't anything anyone here can say or suggest that is going to be the "magic key" to get you blown. You need to talk and explore with her to see what she is comfortable with. If you have talked to her about this in any fashion sutable, and you have listened to her, you would have clues and answers for yourself. Find out from her what she thinks about it. Give suggestions (kissing, hand job, etc) see if she would be comfortable with these steps and get her used to being around your little friend. That's about as close to an answer you can get from strangers online.
Kevster
08-19-2005, 11:55 AM
Pemolis - what region of the US are you in? Have you ever listened to the radio show Loveline with Adam Corrolla and Dr. Drew Pinsky? This would be a good question for them. Seriously.
Loveline info: http://www.westwoodone.com/talk_loveline.htm
brainsmile
08-19-2005, 01:42 PM
are they still on?
cheapie
08-19-2005, 01:52 PM
I do not like to go to "professionals" because I have too big of a subconcious to go...
:heh: too big of a what???
mebbe you're thinking of the word conscience? ;)
It is strange because I was listening to George Carlin and he stated "There is not one man who is satisfied with the oral sex in their relationship".
cheapie = :)
ufcrusher
08-19-2005, 02:14 PM
You can always go get some honey dust or flavored "heating" oils. Might make it more palatable to her....plus they can be fun when used in other areas.
Kevster
08-19-2005, 02:39 PM
are they still on?
Oh hell yeah. I have been a semi-regular listener since the 'Poorman' days.
ialsohaveadream
08-19-2005, 02:59 PM
sounds like your sexual compatiblity is really in question.
if you can deal with that the rest of your life and not feel resentful then things will still be ok
What I can't understand is how you can allow it to go on for a year and a half. It can't just be excused with "she's young and naive". I've been the first for two young and naive girls (before you freak out, I was young too :)), and things were great.
And if it's a question of size, there's a certain way you can position yourselves that will give you an awesome power trip while also making it easier for your woman to satisfy you...
Jane83
08-20-2005, 02:34 AM
puahahhaha this thread cracks me up...
omg.
yea you must either be really disgusting, or your girl is a total retard.
in this day in age, and she wont give head, youve got yourself a serious problem...and this is comiing from a girl
i mean, are you gross down there or what?
or does your penis scare her?
if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head.
some other guy is getting or gonna get it..
poor you.
if shes really into you, she should and would be doing it willingly.
yea, shes just NOT THAT into you.
sorry.
the truth
Pemolis
08-20-2005, 04:28 AM
puahahhaha this thread cracks me up...
omg.
yea you must either be really disgusting, or your girl is a total retard.
in this day in age, and she wont give head, youve got yourself a serious problem...and this is comiing from a girl
i mean, are you gross down there or what?
or does your penis scare her?
if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head.
some other guy is getting or gonna get it..
poor you.
if shes really into you, she should and would be doing it willingly.
yea, shes just NOT THAT into you.
sorry.
the truth
ROFL.... that was great :neartears
OK I think I have enough Idea's from this thread to proceed the way I want to. Thanks again for the advice :wavey2:
Now let this thread die :throw:
MikeD
08-20-2005, 04:58 AM
My friend said he just slowly pushes down on his girl's head when they're kissing upright. If she resists, he uses both hands for more leverage.
You should try this move. Hopefully you've got some upper body strength, and her resistance won't be great...
:)
hapoo
08-20-2005, 10:50 AM
puahahhaha this thread cracks me up...
omg.
yea you must either be really disgusting, or your girl is a total retard.
in this day in age, and she wont give head, youve got yourself a serious problem...and this is comiing from a girl
i mean, are you gross down there or what?
or does your penis scare her?
if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head.
some other guy is getting or gonna get it..
poor you.
if shes really into you, she should and would be doing it willingly.
yea, shes just NOT THAT into you.
sorry.
the truth
I'm nominating this for the insensitive post of the week award.
Did you guys ever think that maybe she doesn't do it because she doesn't know how and is afraid? If she's that inexperienced then i'm sure she's terrified of putting herself in such a vulnerable situation. The only way to fix it is to talk to her openly about it.
LegendKiller
08-20-2005, 11:15 AM
puahahhaha this thread cracks me up...
omg.
yea you must either be really disgusting, or your girl is a total retard.
in this day in age, and she wont give head, youve got yourself a serious problem...and this is comiing from a girl
i mean, are you gross down there or what?
or does your penis scare her?
if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head.
some other guy is getting or gonna get it..
poor you.
if shes really into you, she should and would be doing it willingly.
yea, shes just NOT THAT into you.
sorry.
the truth
Seriously, that was pretty mean. People wonder why others don't open up, it's because crap like this. "Total retard", you are "really disgusting". Blah blah blah. You = A++ arse.
Some chicks just don't want to do it, just deal with that fact and move on. If you aren't getting it and you *HAVE* to in order to make a relationship work, then you are the one with a problem.
Kevster
08-20-2005, 11:41 AM
Some chicks just don't want to do it...
But if you find that special someone that likes to, NEVER let them go. :hihi:
brainsmile
08-20-2005, 11:59 AM
Oh hell yeah. I have been a semi-regular listener since the 'Poorman' days.
tv or radio? are they on in sd? I haven't seen them for years.
ialsohaveadream
08-20-2005, 12:10 PM
But if you find that special someone that likes to, NEVER let them go. :hihi:
Special? I don't think I've met a girl yet that doesn't do it. Now someone who will let you send them Nija's favorite card? Those are more special.
gear02
08-20-2005, 01:02 PM
I haven't read the second page yet so I don't know if someone suggested this...
Why don't you dip your d*ck in chocolate? Or maybe peanut butter or grape jam?
Jane83
08-20-2005, 08:27 PM
hey, i wasnt trying to be mean, but when people ask for advice or ask questions, i tell it like it is.
if i made you cry and curl up fetal position in your bathroom, i apologize, and if you took it like a man, congratulations and hope you find a girl who doesnt have a problem with head.
Jenny
08-20-2005, 08:38 PM
There's a difference between telling it like it is and knowing what you are talking about and coming off sounding wrong AND stupid.
I do not like going down on a guy. ANY guy. My mouth is too small to make it comfortable at all. I have done it for Scott & will do it, but only VERY occasionally. Like once a year. It hurts and he knows that. So when you said, "if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head. some other guy is getting or gonna get it.." you may have been completely off-base.
Don't be a **** to people on here. Others don't take kindly to it. :shrug:
riskykougra
08-20-2005, 09:08 PM
I agree with ialsohaveadream, you should talk to her seriously about it. Find out once and for all why she wont do it. Her answer may surprise you. You may just find out its because she really doesnt know what to do or how to please you and if she can tell you honestly then you can teach her how to do it right.....so when you two break up the next guy doesnt have the same problem.... :gle:...sorry was kidding...Also part of her problem could be the way she was raised. If in her family anything remotely sexual was thought to be regarded as dirty or shameful she may have feelings of guilt that she isnt even aware of. So the very best advice is to talk to her...and not when you are in bed but just alone somewhere that way she wont feel like you are disappointed or complaining...ok ...im gonna shup now.
MikeD
08-20-2005, 09:29 PM
There's a difference between telling it like it is and knowing what you are talking about and coming off sounding wrong AND stupid.
I do not like going down on a guy. ANY guy. My mouth is too small to make it comfortable at all. I have done it for Scott & will do it, but only VERY occasionally. Like once a year. It hurts and he knows that. So when you said, "if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head. some other guy is getting or gonna get it.." you may have been completely off-base.
Don't be a **** to people on here. Others don't take kindly to it. :shrug:
:stupid:
Speak on, sister!
LegendKiller
08-20-2005, 09:39 PM
hey, i wasnt trying to be mean, but when people ask for advice or ask questions, i tell it like it is.
if i made you cry and curl up fetal position in your bathroom, i apologize, and if you took it like a man, congratulations and hope you find a girl who doesnt have a problem with head.
Again, there is a huge difference between giving advice and being an outright ass about it, especially about a topic like this.
There are a lot of topics people could own eachother on, but doesn't mean they should. Sounds strange coming from me but it is true.
If you wanna be the bully who tells it like it is, then perhaps you should do it somewhere else.
brainsmile
08-20-2005, 10:45 PM
ok now everyone calm down. Stick to the topic... man needs more.
InfiniteNothing
08-20-2005, 11:36 PM
puahahhaha this thread cracks me up...
omg.
yea you must either be really disgusting, or your girl is a total retard.
in this day in age, and she wont give head, youve got yourself a serious problem...and this is comiing from a girl
i mean, are you gross down there or what?
or does your penis scare her?
if some girl doesnt give you head, it doesnt mean she doesnt give head. TRUST ME...it just means she wont give YOU head.
some other guy is getting or gonna get it..
poor you.
if shes really into you, she should and would be doing it willingly.
yea, shes just NOT THAT into you.
sorry.
the truth
LOL got a bit of an oral fixation there? :o
My best advice is just to uhhh put it there. Your girl will get the hint.
Gothic Girl
08-21-2005, 01:45 AM
You could have Andy Dick come over and teach her how to perform fellatio....
Kevster
08-21-2005, 02:57 AM
Special? I don't think I've met a girl yet that doesn't do it.
Yes, but did they do it well? That is what I'm really talking about.
ialsohaveadream
08-21-2005, 06:22 AM
Yes, but did they do it well? That is what I'm really talking about.
Ah. Well amen to that, brother. Some girls have the gift. :)
MikeD
08-21-2005, 06:52 AM
Ah. Well amen to that, brother. Some girls have the gift. :)
Along those lines, an ode to an ex (http://washingtondc.craigslist.org/about/best/wdc/83255649.html) (not by me, though)... :)
avlena
08-21-2005, 11:24 AM
Seriously, that was pretty mean. People wonder why others don't open up, it's because crap like this. "Total retard", you are "really disgusting". Blah blah blah. You = A++ arse.
Some chicks just don't want to do it, just deal with that fact and move on. If you aren't getting it and you *HAVE* to in order to make a relationship work, then you are the one with a problem.
:stupid:
Every person has some type of sexual act they do not like to perform, and I think BJ's are a fairly common issue. To say that there's something wrong with a girl who won't give head... that's ridiculous. "in this day and age"?? what, because we live in the "modern" times, women are supposed to be amenable to every single form of sex there is? everyone has sexual preferences... For instance, some girls like bondage. From the large selection at the sex shop, I would say it's a common fantasy to be tied up while your guy has your way with you. But if someone doesn't like it, no biggie - they just don't like it!
Markel
08-21-2005, 03:45 PM
http://www.littleboyinc.com/uploader/uploads/pic06617.gif
GracieBayb
08-21-2005, 03:48 PM
:heh: some guys really have to bend over backwards for a bj!! it almost looks like when a dog has to do a trick in order to get a treat
TofuNinja
08-21-2005, 05:29 PM
I do not like going down on a guy. ANY guy. My mouth is too small to make it comfortable at all. I have done it for Scott & will do it, but only VERY occasionally. :
Is it that your mouth is too small or that Scott is just hung like a horse ;)
You lucky girl Jenny hahaha.
brainsmile
08-21-2005, 05:54 PM
might as well make the hubby's head swell on this one Jenny. Not literally people.
Jenny
08-21-2005, 06:12 PM
Yes, yes, his nickname is Sea Biscuit. *grin*
Burzhui
08-21-2005, 08:53 PM
Yes, yes, his nickname is Sea Biscuit. *grin*
Foamy and soggy?
:hehe:
nickel
08-21-2005, 08:55 PM
Yes, yes, his nickname is Sea Biscuit. *grin*
:wow:
he isn't with Motley Crew, is he? :P :sing: :guitar: :drums:
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