Would you Date Someone Who is "Separated"?

[johnnymk]

I know I wouldn't and I could care less about their story.

[nickel]

separated and getting a divorce or just separated?

[BigJon]

I have a friend who is not legally separated and "getting divorced" soon. She's dating already.

But I think it is a mutual thing between her and her "ex" hubby. They just haven't gotten around to the paperwork but date other people.

:shrug:

IMHO, I would wait until they are "legal" :hihi:

[mcs328]

I'd wait for the paperwork to go through.

[johnnymk]

separated and getting a divorce or just separated?

Both

[GracieBayb]

nope, i wouldn't... maybe if i was 40 and desperate... but i'm 22 and can afford to be picky

[cadetevon]

Why is seperated in quotes?

I think that's a tell of how you really feel.

[ray]

this thread is worthless without pictures.

[Merlin]

I don't see why not.

[nickel]

Both
it would make a difference though for me.

if someone were just separated i would tend to be more wary of getting involved compared to someone who was separated and in the middle of divorce proceedings.

either way though, i would never say never, but it would be nicer to date someone without the baggage.

reminds me of my mother who is dating now since my father died. she is 58 y/o, and the only men out there for her seem to be divorced, and a very few are widowed. she hasn't run across anyone who is "separated".

[cheapie]

I know I wouldn't and I could care less about their story.


*cough* couldn't care less *cough*

[johnnymk]

*cough* couldn't care less *cough*

could not care less is a double negative, which means could care more..right?

[cheapie]

nope. less just indicates its ranking on your caring list. so if you say you could care less, that means it's not the lowest. if you say you couldn't care less, that means you don't care in the least about their story. which is what i believe you meant.


/threadjacking

[johnnymk]

nope. less just indicates its ranking on your caring list. so if you say you could care less, that means it's not the lowest. if you say you couldn't care less, that means you don't care in the least about their story. which is what i believe you meant.


/threadjacking

OK, so I don't care :)

The reason I put separated in quotes is that a woman living in the same house as her husband is not really separated.

[cheapie]

would you date her if her husband hadn't taken a crap in a really, REALLY long time and might die?


:heh: sorry. whatever happened to that guy?

[surfer]

would you date her if her husband hadn't taken a crap in a really, REALLY long time and might die?


:heh: sorry. whatever happened to that guy?


I need a picture of her first.

[Grimm]

I would if they were legaly seperated. If she was "seperated" without a filing in progress, hell no.

[MrGreg]

What exactly does "legally separated" mean, anyway?
How is that technically different from married?

[johnnymk]

would you date her if her husband hadn't taken a crap in a really, REALLY long time and might die?


:heh: sorry. whatever happened to that guy?

I saw him last night at Karaoke with the woman friend. I do not dare ask him because it's a touchy subject. So every time I see her, I ask her what's going on. It's been 9 or 10 weeks.

She claims he is taking laxatives by the handful, and still hasn't had a significant BM. Everyone I talk to says that it isn't possible for someone to go that long.

But I can't think of a good reason that he would lie about this. He is a straight up kinda guy with hardly a sense of humor. I keep on waiting for the moment he will explode.

[MikeD]

I saw him last night at Karaoke with the woman friend. I do not dare ask him because it's a touchy subject. So every time I see her, I ask her what's going on. It's been 9 or 10 weeks.

She claims he is taking laxatives by the handful, and still hasn't had a significant BM. Everyone I talk to says that it isn't possible for someone to go that long.

But I can't think of a good reason that he would lie about this. He is a straight up kinda guy with hardly a sense of humor. I keep on waiting for the moment he will explode.

I just have a hard time believing her story. That guy would be dead. 9 or 10 weeks? Come on, logic has to come into play at some point...he would be :dead: .

[zenbooty]

Separated from what? Hip joint? Reality?

[johnnymk]

I just have a hard time believing her story. That guy would be dead. 9 or 10 weeks? Come on, logic has to come into play at some point...he would be :dead: .

I don't know why I didn't consider her fabricating the story. I have caught her stretching the truth a couple of times since I have known her. Maybe I should just ask him the next time I see him.

[WhiskeyPapa]

Maybe I should just ask him the next time I see him.Man, I don't even know how you'd broach the subject...

Back on topic: No, I would not date someone who's separated. I would not even date anyone who's divorced.

[Grimm]

What exactly does "legally separated" mean, anyway?
How is that technically different from married?
To be legaly seperated you have to file a document with the courts. If you just move out you are not "seperated".

[DarkFury]

But I can't think of a good reason that he would lie about this. He is a straight up kinda guy with hardly a sense of humor. I keep on waiting for the moment he will explode.
I sure hope you aren't around when he does.... that could be a REALLY messy situation.

[ufcrusher]

I sure hope you aren't around when he does.... that could be a REALLY messy situation.

Or, for an easy way to broach the subject and make sure that you stay clean...where a slicker everytime you are around him. Make a show of putting it on indoors when you come near him.

When he asks you why the f*ck you are putting it on, explain that you were told that he is severely backed up and you dont want to have to worry about throwing out your clothes. Even without a sense of humor, it has to make him smile.

[Kim]

I would have to know that there was no chance of a reconciliation.

[raimin]

i was seeing a girl seperated, and filing for divorce, i think i was the rebound guy...

[ialsohaveadream]

I know I wouldn't and I could care less about their story.
I would definitely date someone who was filing for a divorce...though probably not exclusively.

I'd probably be less interested in dating someone who's just "separated".

[CrystalDuck]

I wouldn't. Unless you're the type of person who can date for fun without getting attached. If you're really interested in this woman, wait until she cuts off her existing romantic ties. You don't want to be competing for her attention with more important matters.

[oblongmelon]

I know I wouldn't and I could care less about their story.

my god, I'm agreeing with you? *feels forehead*, *faints* *falls out of chair*..
Unless those papers are signed-NoooOOo way. Too much baggage. Period.

[kgsilvas]

You're looking for trouble if someone still married. Separated, legally or not, still makes it adultery and usually very messy.

[LPMiller]

I wouldn't date 'em, but I'd be available for a booty call.

[riskykougra]

You're looking for trouble if someone still married. Separated, legally or not, still makes it adultery and usually very messy.
If you are legally separated there is no grounds for adultery, which is why it is called "legally separated".

When a person is legally separated everything is divided as it would be with a divorce..only it is much cheaper and quicker to do. Some people can be legally separated for years and not file for divorce only because they cannot afford to do it and not because there is any baggage or attachment involved.
Also they probably never want to go back to the SO but are waiting for them to want a divorce so bad that they will pay for it themselves, especially if you never plan on getting married again...it really makes no difference.
So I guess I would date someone who has been separated for a significant amount of time and I am sure there is no chance they would get back with the ex...which means they would have to be separated atleast a year and care so little about the ex that they no longer feel the need to even trash them. :|