Appropriate amount to give at a wedding

[Nija]

The girl and I are attending her brothers wedding next weekend. They aren't really close.

What would be a respectable amount to give them? They aren't registered anywhere ("We don't need anything" Is what I'm told they said, to which I responded, "Give them a handshake & drink their free booze").

I told her $50 and taking/developing some pictures for them should be nice.

TIA

[oblongmelon]

Give what you can afford-and no more..Why put yourself in hock for someone who isn't that close to you..alot of people say that you should give at least as much as the dinner costs..but that is bull...you didn't ASK someone to spend 50 dollars a plate (example) on your dinner-that was their choice..If I were you-I'd go to Bed,Bath and Beyond and find a very cool gift for under 50. What are they going to do-tell you it's awful and try and return it for the cash???? Sometimes actual packages are nice to open up too remember! If they are ungrateful and complain that you didn't give them cash then I'd take back the gift, return it for the cash and buy myself a nice lunch with it and screw 'em.

[CrystalDuck]

I think your plan is good, Nija. Maybe tell them in the card what you would have gotten for them had you spent the 50 bucks to give them some ideas for gifts for themselves. They'll be sorry if they spend all the cash on bills and don't have any wedding presents to commemorate the event.

[tupacboy]

i thought the new amount was now $100....

[MikeD]

i thought the new amount was now $100....

:stupid:

Ehh, do what you think is right / comfortable with. If the lady isn't close to her brother, than $50 may be OK. I think $100 sounds more in line, though.

Cousin got married a few weeks ago, wife and I did $200. They're just starting out, though, and needed some help.

[Grimm]

Wait... you are Nija, the gift should reflect that. Give them a case of KY and call it done.

[cheapie]

thank God i live in the midwest. $50 is high unless you are very close to the person.

[avlena]

we go by the rule $50/person. If it's someone I'm not very close to, then I'll drop that to around $35/person (so when Graf & I go, we give $75-100, but if it's just me I give ~$50). it's a rule that seems to be pretty well accepted in my social circles, but it depends on you individual situation. If you can't afford it, give what you can. Plus, if you're providing a service for the wedding like taking pics, then that can count as your "gift". for example, I didn't really expect a gift out of any of my bridal party, since they were already giving so much by just being in my wedding. I think you have a good idea about taking pics - get some really nice shots, have them framed, and voila, a very nice & relatively inexpensive gift.

[OremuS]

The wife and I usually stick to around $40-50 per person, however a wedding we are going to this weekend we are dipping a little below that because of other reasons.

a. Not really close with the couple, but we are friends enough that we will hang out when we are in the same town. we don't always know when we are in the same town though since we don't talk. I am sure you get the picture.

b. when we got married, just over a year ago, they did nothing for us. Was actually a pain just to get the RSVP card back from them.

c. I already spent several hundred $$$ pitching in for the bachelor party weekend even though I was not there for the whole thing.

[Nija]

Thanks ya'll, this should put her mind to rest.

[Grimm]

Thanks ya'll, this should put her mind to rest.
So, you going with the case of KY?