How to deal?

[esme]

xactly one week before Xmas and my grandmother passed away ....her favorite time of the year (besides mother's day) and she's gone (10/18/30-12/18/05) ...how can one deal with this? i'm having a hard time keeping my thoughts straight ....

[thresher]

Esme -
My grandmother passed last year. Christmas with her family was her favorite time of the year. She was born and lived in the Texas Hill Country her entire life. We (the family and I) deal with her passing by carrying on her traditions. From singing to my dad on his birthday (something she did his entire life) to making homemade German noodles the night before Christmas eve dinner. Grandmothers hold on to traditions so that we can pass them down intact to our families when we're grandparents. Their legacy and their love is what we hold onto when we care and share our familiy values. With tears I am typing this because I am thinking of my wonderful Werner and Esther Klier. Together together in heaven and together in all our hearts in my family for generations to come.
Thanks for letting me share.
Thresher

[Jenny]

So sorry. :( *hugs*

[esme]

makes it harder to deal w/because of what caused her death ......she had a fall last monday while picking up wood so that we had enough @ xmas time, that caused a blood clot that traveled up to her lungs and her heart was so overworked that she couldn't go on .....she was thinking of us ....makes it harder to know that this could've been prevented!!

[zero2dash]

:hug: I'm really sorry for you & your family...you'll be in our prayers. :hug:
I guess...just try and cope and try to have as good a time as possible...I'm sure she would want it that way.

[DarkFury]

xactly one week before Xmas and my grandmother passed away ....her favorite time of the year (besides mother's day) and she's gone (10/18/30-12/18/05) ...how can one deal with this? i'm having a hard time keeping my thoughts straight ....
I've been through this several times myself.... My Grandfather died right before Christmas years ago... and currently I have no Grandparents at all (all are now deceased.)

Being together with your family is most important right now. Realizing that your Grandparents lead a full, whole life somewhat adds to the comfort in dealing with their loss. We all realize that all of us must eventually pass on, however remembering the "good times" and realizing all of the wonderful things you shared with your grandparents is part of the healing process... and allows you to move on with your life.

My Grandpa was very special to me.... I spent a good part of my youth hanging out with him, therefore it really was a sad time when he passed... however, he lived to a ripe age of 88, therefore there were no regrets when he passed.

And the cycle of life continues... hopefully you will find some comfort in your time of sorrow.

[nickel]

xactly one week before Xmas and my grandmother passed away ....her favorite time of the year (besides mother's day) and she's gone (10/18/30-12/18/05) ...how can one deal with this? i'm having a hard time keeping my thoughts straight ....
:hug: esme.

if it's any consolation, i think we all think of our deceased loved ones at Christmastime whether that was their time of passing or not.

remember the good times... the happy times... and let that bring a smile to your heart.

[Grimm]

Ask yourself how your grandmother would have wanted to die.
Would she have wanted to die alone in in a nursing home away from family, bored to death?

Or would she have rather died preparing for the best time of the year with her family, enjoying the Christmas season?

Yes, it would have been nice if she has gotten to spend another Christmas with her family. But she did get to enjoy the season leading up to it. Seventy five years is a full life. She left her life knowing that she loved and was loved in return. Don't mourn her death, celebrate her life.

[ShawnLee]

I'm really sorry to hear about this. Words must seem so trite but please know that we care.

I'm local and if you want to meet up with some of us just to hang out, I'm sure we could have an impromptu get-together to just spend time together.

[nickel]

I'm really sorry to hear about this. Words must seem so trite but please know that we care.

I'm local and if you want to meet up with some of us just to hang out, I'm sure we could have an impromptu get-together to just spend time together.
what a nice gesture :)

[molecularfire]

makes it harder to deal w/because of what caused her death ......she had a fall last monday while picking up wood so that we had enough @ xmas time, that caused a blood clot that traveled up to her lungs and her heart was so overworked that she couldn't go on .....she was thinking of us ....makes it harder to know that this could've been prevented!!
Let me state this very clearly, what happened to her could not have been prevented. It was an unfortunate accident and the blood clot going to her lungs has most likely been in her legs for a long time growing and it was not a matter of if but when it would go to her lungs. The fall might not have even been the cause of it. We are all going to die, it's not a matter of if but when and how. She was doing what she wanted to be doing, living her life (at a ripe age of 75 years old) when she fell, and from the sounds of it she left behind people who love her. I hope that when my time comes, I'm that lucky. You and your family are in no way responsible and you guys shouldn't feel that you are. Don't let the grief tell you that there was anything you could've done to stop it. She would not have wanted that. I am sorry to hear that she passed along, and I am not going to pretend to understand that pain. All I can say is that from an outsider's prespective I am envious of her.

[KIISQueen]

I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband lost his Nana back in February. She fell in the bathroom. She was 84. My prayers go out to you and your Family

[esme]

I'm really sorry to hear about this. Words must seem so trite but please know that we care.

I'm local and if you want to meet up with some of us just to hang out, I'm sure we could have an impromptu get-together to just spend time together.


thank you for the offer

right now i'm not sure how this xmas is going to go .....we'll see .....it's hard

thank you everyone for your words