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04-21-2006, 12:28 PM
The phone ran very early in the morning today. I knew what it was before I answered.
My grandmother was diagnosed with kidney cancer a little over a year ago. She immediately announced that she was gonna fight it. She was gonna live. It was great. We all rallyed around her, and even though she lost a lot of weight, she was still "grandma".
Last December, she stopped fighting. She had continued to deteriorate, and they told her that she had two to four months left.
I went and visited her for the last time just this last weekend. She was bedridden, on Morhpine for the pain, and unable to really talk at all. The docs said that she had at most 7-10 days left.
Now that she is gone, I feel like I should "do" something. But I'm not sure what. My parents are retired, and they have been pretty much taking care of Grandma and her estate for the last couple of months. They tell me that there is really nothing that I could do, and that they are taking care of things. Memorial service (no funeral) won't even be for another few weeks.
Her house is about 2.5 hours from here... so I can go if I need to, but I guess I should just figure out what I need to do. Any input is appreciated.
She lived a full life. She even outlived two husbands. I think that my greatest sadness is that my son will not be able to get to know her as he grows up. He's two. He came with me to visit her last weekend, but he will never even remeber that.
My grandmother was diagnosed with kidney cancer a little over a year ago. She immediately announced that she was gonna fight it. She was gonna live. It was great. We all rallyed around her, and even though she lost a lot of weight, she was still "grandma".
Last December, she stopped fighting. She had continued to deteriorate, and they told her that she had two to four months left.
I went and visited her for the last time just this last weekend. She was bedridden, on Morhpine for the pain, and unable to really talk at all. The docs said that she had at most 7-10 days left.
Now that she is gone, I feel like I should "do" something. But I'm not sure what. My parents are retired, and they have been pretty much taking care of Grandma and her estate for the last couple of months. They tell me that there is really nothing that I could do, and that they are taking care of things. Memorial service (no funeral) won't even be for another few weeks.
Her house is about 2.5 hours from here... so I can go if I need to, but I guess I should just figure out what I need to do. Any input is appreciated.
She lived a full life. She even outlived two husbands. I think that my greatest sadness is that my son will not be able to get to know her as he grows up. He's two. He came with me to visit her last weekend, but he will never even remeber that.