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I want to do it this weekend, I do want to break up, but how can I say it? I'll try to stay as positive as I can, i don't want to lose her friendship. You guys hav helped me greatly, now just this last thing.

Blu

Who says that gay couples have to have anal sex? Don't pull out that stuff if you don't know what you're talking about.

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Jihforce

If and when it happens, you're gonna have to give her some space and stuff. Regardless, she'll be pissed. I can't see why she wouldn't. Just be considerate and give her some time. Then be friends. It takes two to make friends and if she doesn't want to be your friend after this, she reserves that right.

Lolita

i didnt say they have to have it!

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Blu

No, but you implied that having a gay, loving relationship requires anal sex.

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welfareloser

she did not. leave her alone. she said that loving gay couples have anal sex... NOT that they ALL do. some do. some don't. get the chip off your shoulder. if you must bitch, at least find something worth bitching about.

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Memo

You're going to have to give it to her straight. Don't try to make excuses about it. You feel how you feel and she'll have to accept it. Of course she's going to be angry and hurt. You'll have to give her some time but if you guys truly are friends then you'll be able to stay friends. This might take a few days or weeks, depends on the girl. It seems hard to say, I know, but once you do you'll have a huge amount of weight off your chest. The most important thing is to NOT GET SUCKED BACK IN. After you break up sometimes people have a tendency to REALLY REALLY tell each other how they felt and get back together but it lasts only so long and that's not going to change the reasons you broke up with her.

Blu

I think it's worth bitching about. People have terrible misconseptions about homosexuals. It's important to me that they be clarified. If they aren't clarified, it gives justification for people to harbor feelings of hate and mistrust that are horribly misplaced.

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welfareloser

i agree, EXCEPT for the part where this was a misconception. the point was made that any sex other than "tab a in slot a" is not loving, and lolita gave the EXAMPLE of "tab a in slot b" as something loving between two homosexual men - the point being that, since neither of them possess a slot a, they cannot engage in that particular sexual act, but their relationship can still be loving. she only gave one example, she could have given any of a dozen other examples. she was not even saying what you implied she said, which is that ALL homosexuals have anal sex (and so what if they did?????)

since the woman clearly feels that homosexuals can have loving relationships, i just think that your hounding her for "misconceptions" is grossly misplaced.

Lolita

thanks welfare, i couldnt have put it better myself

Anck Su Namun

But if you have too much "fun", the right woman might not like that. Personally I don't want a guy who has whored around.