bubba

Please take my sincere condolences for your loss. It is a difficult time, but know that you can make it through. Live on, for yourself, for your other son, for your family, and also for the loving memory of Brian. Keep him in your heart and he will never be lost.

Take care

w_boodle

I know you are in the greatest pain. But I see in your own words, that you are strong enough to survive it. As you say -- your other son needs you now.

He is the reason you must and will continue He is the reason you will heal and live again
I know it seems as if nothing on earth can ease your pain right now. But God and your son will help you through it.

You are in my prayers
God Bless and Keep You.

wicky7777

Please accept my most heartfelt condolences!
I am not married nor have i ever had a child, but hearing what has happened has definitely impacted my life. Stay strong!

God Bless!

lance

This is my first attempt to post at gotapex. I hope this email reaches the person who has just lost his younger son. The reason I am writing. I too lost a son in 1992. He was 22 months old. In a space of literally 2 minutes he fell into the swimming pool in the backyard and died a few hours later as a result. I was at work, my wife and oldest son, then 9, were at home. I remember coming home at 3am from the hospital the night he died. I do not know how we made it home. I could not see through the tears. I know that knowone can know how another will feel at a time like this. One thing I do know despite the current attitudes in society at this time: The Lord Jesus Christ was able to uphold us through this time of grief. It has caused my wife and I and our children to think a little more of what Heaven will be like and a little less of this world. The promises in the Bible that we found were of great comfort. This verse in particular has meant much to us.

Isaiah 40:11 - He shall feed his flock like a shepherd: he shall gather the lambs with his arm, and carry them in his bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young.

Call me if you like: 858-651-1486. We can talk and pray if you like maybe over lunch?

Lance.


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I don't know what to say, except, I offer my condolences. I'm not married, so I can't even imagine what you would be feeling.



May your son rest in peace.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>

Webster

I know I can't understand how you feel, but I do know that Jesus does understand, and He does care. I also know that the sadness I feel for you cannot even be compared to the anguish you are going through. I will be in prayer, trusting in Him who understands to comfort and give you peace in this terrible time. God bless.

HAKIWI

IAM VERY SORRY!

kstandridge

words cannot express the sadness i feel in my heart for you and your family and all that knew and loved your baby. all i can do is pray that you can find the strength to make it through each new day and to be able to pass this strength on to your other child.

i have two children (12 & 15) and i can't imagine my life without them. i lost my mother when i was 25, my brother in 1994 (he was 32), and my father this past june. in all my loss and pain, it can never compare to the pain a parent goes through losing a child, regardless of the age. i'm thankful my mother did not have to live though my brother's death...but it broke my heart to see my father's spirit broken when my brother died. it is something that a parent should never have to live through.

you are in my prayers...

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

mrm

Brian,

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss. This world can sure be a terribly unmerciful place. I don't think death is ever God's will, but it most certianly is the will of our enemy. God doesn't delight in taking life away, only Satan does. I don't have the answers, I just know that God cares immensely for every one of us, especially you and your family right now. Even though things don't make sense don't forget that all our questions will be answered in the soon coming of the Lord. Where we'll all be reunited with loved ones who have been taken away from us.

May the peace of God be upon you and your family. For only in Him, have we hope.

DARTH

Dearest Stephen,
I just read of your loss and I fear that even Shakespeare's eloquent tongue could not form words to express the grief that you are feeling. I am 24 and married, so the world is still quite new to me. In a word, immortal would describe my self observations. That is until I read your post. Often times when we are young we do not see death at all. It only happens to others who are older. When something like this happens it throws your whole belief system off kilter. I truly believe that this earthly world is a trying ground where we endure all the sufferring that we read in the bible that is equated with hell. When we have proven ourselves or when Jesus and God see fit they allow us passage into a world where there is no sufferring. My wife and I will keep you in our prayers and will rejoice because we know that Brian is with God in heaven now watching over you. I beg of you not to shoulder this yourself. Because you are a man and must comfort your wife does not mean that you are alone my friend.
May God bless and keep you close,
DARTH

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Bloodymess

Although I feel I've had all the support and love from my friends and relatives and this is why I am able to reply to all of you at this time ..
I believe that those at apex and the comunity of this forum have have done a wonderful job at expressing themselves at a level that is impossible in a one on one situation !
I will live for more than Brian from this day forward, I will continue with my life with the thought that I have sooooo much more to live for, My Wife, "Manals@iwon.com"
my friends and most of all my other son "Jonathan"
Thank you all,
And bless you all as well !
Stephen Bacon
Brian Will always be in our hearts !


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Philtrey

I offer condolences also... it seems so senseless, but don't blame yourself.

Toni

Steve,
I am in tears. I can't beleave it. I know you must be going through HELL! I wouldn't be able to go on My son is 7 and he is my life. I fell sooo bad for you and your family. I don't know how you are able to go on. But for as long as I have known you, I know you will go on because you are a good guy and dad. My prayers are with you. And with Brian. He may be gone but never forgotten.
My deepest sympathy to you,
Toni

*TLV*Negative

Dear Bloodymess

I first "heard" of this accident when I checked out your clansite. Then later I checked on it again I noticed the link to this forum. I of course checked it out too see what happened and how others have reacted on this. It warms my heart to see that there are so many people showing you that they care and pray for you.

I myself am not a religious man, but I must just as much show how much I am sorry for what has happened. You do not know me but please believe me when I say I am very sorry for what has happened., and I hope you and your family finds the strength you need to continue.

ShawnLee

This is my first post, because I first wanted to offer my condolences. My dream is to be a loving father and husband, and to lose a child is something I cannot even begin to comprehend. As with many others, I offer my prayers.

Bloodymess

One VERY Important thing I forgot to mention :
Apex,
Thank you for your generous memorial to my son Brian and community awareness day !
Apex Community,
Sorry you had to miss out on deals that day!
gotapex? is by far the best group of people on the internet !
OOPS ! Team Finest "My Quake 2 Clan" and The Force "Our Quake 2 German Friends" are an incredible group of people as well )
Thank you all for your support !

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Bloodymess

Today marks one month to the day and I feel the need to say that Brian is missed and loved 10 times more with each passing day.
GOD I NEED HIS HUG RIGHT NOW !

Jenny

BloodyMess, just close your eyes, wrap your arms around your wife and other children and know that Brian is looking down on you from heaven and is holding all of you in his arms. I wish you well, my friend.

StarvingCollegeStudent

Sorry for the late post... but I'm sorry for the incident with your son. I lost many friends to car accidents but nothing can compare to losing family. My condolences go out to you.

Nancy

Jenny has the best answer I've seen. Take and give strength to those who love you.

Bloodymess

Thank you all,
This evening at 6:00 my wife and I will have our first meeting with a counselor and I'm pretty optimistic that this will somehow help us get through this
I must say it really seems to be getting tougher every day but I'm trying with all my heart to be strong as I can be.

StarvingCollegeStudent

We're here for you if u ever need support.

Nancy

Bloodymess, I've been thinking about you and wondering how you are doing?

Nancy

Bloodymess

I'm doing as well as could be expected these days , Thank you !
At my wifes' request I just got my 96' Kawi Vulcon 1500cc Bike back up and running. I had originally told her I wanted to sell it because Brian was the only one who got on it for the last 2 years and we could use the money but she told me it was best I get it back on the road because that was my favorite past time before he was born and that it was something we could do together that we both used to love doing. She was right ! we went out for a ride yesterday after church and a visit to Brian and it was nice to be doing something together beside grieving.
The Psychiatrist we've begun meeting with has also been quite helpful. She has made it clear that whether or not we feel like we will be able to go on with life after this terrible tragedy, we will for our other son Jonathan and for each other
I believe she is correct but the guilt factor I deal with will take a long time to overcome

Rynn

Bloodymess. I haven't said anything to you yet, 'cause I'm a stranger to you, and in those kind of cicumstances strangers often show up more out of curiosity and whatever, then out of sympathy. And that's something I hate.
But I do want to say something now.
First of all, I work as a nurse on an intensive care unit for children. So I see things like what happened to Brian to often. And you know what often hurts me most? That atleast one of the parents feels responsible for what happened. And there is no one that can take the feeling of guilt away for them.
Through the years I learned to understand why parents feel that way. I can't say I know what you feel, but I can say that I understand. Now, the sad thing is that these things happen without any reason. And there is no way in the world you can stop them from happening. So no one should be blamed. I do know that this doesn't help you much, and maybe it even makes you angry.
But I really hope that one day you will be able to forgive yourself, 'cause I can't imagine any greater torture then feeling responsible for your childs dead.

One last thing, I would like to offer you my late condolences.

Rynn

Yeah well, that's what I was trying to say. I understand that you can't help feeling that way and no matter what anyone says to you it doesn't go away.
Doh, me and my bad English.

Nancy

I am so glad you are able to share with us. For everyone that posts, there are hundreds of others with empathy in their eyes as they read. Thanks.