Blu

Alright, here goes. Relationship issues. The cast of players are...

Blu: Me
Chick: Her
Dude :Her current bf

So here's the story...

Chick is cool. Chick likes all the same music that Blu does, which is weird, b/c Blu has really weird taste. Blu and Chick chill from time to time, nothing big, and neither has feelings about the other. Blu and Chick lose touch, just drift apart, and don't talk for a few months. Last summer, Blu see Chick, and they start hangin with each other. Chick is sorta talkin about Dude, but not in any big way. Chick goes to another country. While the Chick is in the other country, Dude decides it's time to get serious and sends snail mails to prove it. At this time, Blu is just chillin, not really thinkin about Chick b/c she's across an ocean. So Chick comes back and is lookin good. Good enough for Blu to be interested. So, you know, the feelings start to develop. BUT, Dude is around. Sorta. See, Dude is treating Chick with no respect. He doesn't really even talk to her daily, and royally bungles Valentine's. Blu is sitting in the wings the whole time, waiting for Chick to come to her senses, but still hasn't. So right now, Blu is hangin out, trying to decide if he should says something to Chick about Dude, or just wait and wait for her to realize how much better Blu is than the Dude.

You can help! Let me know what Blu should do.

Blu

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Blu best talk and get it out in the open, or forget about it. The waiting game never works.

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ironchef

indeed, to hell with being subtle. out with it, son. granted, i'm not saying go fer it, have her "cheat" on the other bastard (that's quite loathsome, imho) (oh, and i say "cheat" because it sounds like it's not all there with them.. but regardless) (oh, i like parenthetical stuff).

the only thing you risk is being told that you're just bound to be friends, which is the way it seems to going anyway.

if you don't tell her, and you suspect there may really be something between the two of you, you're lying to yourself and her. it's worth the effort.

of course, if it all blows up on you and Dude comes and doesn't give you "3 Steps, mister", well then, it's LPM's fault.

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Blu

No worries about Dude comin back and bein a ass....he's a wee bit smaller than I. Besides, he's not well liked by other, mutual friends of Blu and Chick.

Blu

hapoo

I must say flashing your stuff in hopes that she'll realize probably wont work. I agree with the others, just tell her. (and for god's sake, dont whine about her and how it could be instead of taking action, like some people that will remain nameless )

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Loosah

Wow, the guys actually gave you decent advice BLU.

You should tell her how you feel. She probably just assumes you are not interested since you have been friends for so long without you making a move. No balls no BLU chips, sorry I could not resist.

Blu

I suppose my biggest problem is that I have no balls, I still haven't said anything.
And do you all think I should just say how I feel and let it drop? Or should I attempt to convince her to dump the schmuck.

Blu

[Edited by TheBluGuy on 02-28-2001 at 08:28 AM]

LPMiller

talk about your feelings. Say nothing of the schmuck.

ChIcKeN_HaWk

Don't talk about dude, it makes you look like the scmuck whos's jealous. Let her know how you feel and see what she thinks.

If your friends she will let you know how she feels about you too, good or bad.

theorangeone

you need to talk with her.
when talking to her, don't mention the other guy. she will automatically go on the defensive about him, even if she is unhappy with him at that point in time. never use the i'll be so much better than him approach.

but just talk. waiting too long is just going to make it harder and harder. she may have the same kind of feelings, but doesn't think that you do or they may be there and she just doesn't realize them.

but you'll never know until you tell her.

Blu

Drudging up an old topic...

Funny how these things stretch out. Blu, Chick and Dude is still a topic. Now, things are a bit different than before. Chick and Dude have broken up, and things were off and on for a bit. So here's what happened:

Dude goes to the army for his obligatory 2 weeks. While he's gone, Blu and Chick start to hang out...every day. One night, one thing leads to another and Blu finds himself kissing Chick. Blu thinks all is well, and then Dude comes back from the Army. Well, Chick didn't tell Blu that Dude was trying to get back with Chick. Blu says "Woooot!?" Chick tells Blu that she needs some time to figure out who to go with. Blu mulls over what Chick is doing, and decides that it is best to be a patient man.

So Blu is hangin with some buds who he used to work with. Through a series of comments, Blu find out how small the world is. One of the guys (we'll call him Guy) Blu used to work with is best buds with Dude. Blu didn't know anything about that, but now does. So Guy and Blu talk about how the whole thing is, w/ Guy providing some info. Apparently, Dude is head-over-heels for Chick, but Chick doesn't necessarily feel the same way.

Blu talks about the situation with Chick about 3 times over the past few weeks. Blu thinks he's in the clear, that Chick will just let Dude go. When Chick's around Blu, she acts like they are together. Blu isn't sure how Chick acts around Dude. Blu is falling hardcore for Chick, and she knows it. Chick knows that the longer she waits, the harder the whole thing will be. Some days, Blu just wants any decision. Other days, he can handle how it's goin.

I think this weekend will be the deciding factor. Blu and Chick will be spending a weekend alone down the shore. Blu hopes everything goes according to plan.

Blu

Jihforce

Blu should be ok. Chick will figure it out because its as much as Chick's decision as it is Blu's. Blu just needs to stay being Blu and show Chick he is all that and more. That way, Chick will blow off Dude completely. I mean Guy already said Chick doesn't dig Dude as much so Blu is almost over that hurdle...hang in there Blu. Show Chick Blu's the man.

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ProMinx

This is always a difficult situation, but your best chances lie in never mentioning dude to chick, while remaining "there for her". One advice that I would levy that you may not have already heard is not to rush things with her physically. I know it feels good to hold her in your arms or anything like that...but if you act that way now, she won't really have any reason to want to make a decision. She gets the advantage of having two guys who care for her a lot...and that is a reason for her to delay a decision right there. Do not withdraw from her emotionally or anything and make it clear that you are just as interested as ever...but don't be too physical. It is a hard line to walk, but in my experience this is the best choice.

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ps - People, feel free to comment on my advice. I would like to see some other opinions on my advice.

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Blu

Well I'm not gonna jump in the sack with the girl, just a bit of foolin around. I think this coming weekend at the shore will be very telling. I want to share a bed and snuggle, not sleep with the girl. Is that too much?

Blu

PS - I'm on the phone with her as we speak

Grimm

Just in case, have protection available.

ProMinx

personally...that is far more than i would do. the way that i finally "hooked" my ex when we had a semi-similar sitatuion was by physically withdrawing. Suddenly it became an all or nothing kind of deal. She had to decide whether she wanted to be friends or dating, instead of just best friends with benefits. My methods don't necessarily fit for everyone though. It's kind of surprising that this method worked on my ex anyway, considering how the kiss we shared after watching October Sky was her very first kiss (she had intentionally never kissed her last boyfriend and had wanted to save it for something special...and then we shared it...and it still took about a month to actually become a couple). We messed around a little before she would commit to anything, but when I made it fairly clear that I wasn't looking for a gray-area relationship, she chose that we should be together.

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Blu

So it went well this weekend. The first night we just kinda passed out, we were dead tired. The next day was great, just hanging out at the beach. That night (Sat) we kinda hooked up. It was nice. We were both really comfortable, and she was acting very girlfriendly. I didn't ask her about any of it b/c I don't want to push a subject. She is just great, and that's all there is to say.


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ProMinx

You know how fishermen let the fish take the bait gently and then only after the fish gets comfortable and the meat/hook settles for a second, the fisherman yanks so that the hook will be deeper in the fish. don't let that happen. you know that you're totally vulnerable right now, so don't get any more "hooked" until you know something. trust me that not knowing can be worse than "no". now that you've had some good relaxed time...ask some of the standard FTF questions: "what are we?" (no girl that i know would ever respond with FTF), "so...what now?" or anything like that. She knows that she is really comfortable around you and likes your company when the pressure is off (which is how it would be after you two were "together"), so...I don't know what to say.

ProMinx

ps - Bly, I wish you the best of luck...screw "dude"

Chinpoko_Mon

I don't think Blu swings that way...

IntegraTypeR

this is like a mini tv series ... cant wait to hear what happens next ^.^

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renots

....who are these people?!?!?

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Blu: TheBluGuy
Chick: Her(The girl Blu wants to hook up with)
Dude: Her current BoyFriend(The ******* that Blu does'nt like)

Did Ren not read the begining?

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Blu

I might have to invite TheDirectorGuy in for a special episode

Anyways, we talked the other evening, and she mentioned that she was "closer to having a better idea of what is going on with us." And then proceeded to do...um..stuff to make me think that I may be the lucky one. As for the noted homosexual tendencies of the story, there are some. It appears that Guy (from episode 3) is in fact a member of gay community.

Renots - These people are your average people living in a small suburb of a major east coast city.


Blu

Blu

Well, I was down the shore (New Jersey shore for you folks not in PA, NJ or DE...) with Chick. She came down and stayed with the fam. We had a most excellent time hanging out and being lazy together. She acted in a very girlfriendly way the whole week, and my fam loves her.

Anyway, last night, I came home to an empty house. It was an ideal situation. She came over, planning to stay the night. We hung out, headed up to bed around 1:00 for a little nookie (no sex) and some sleep. When all was said and done, we talked about things.

She said that she wasn't back to Dude, and that she was going to be with me. It wasn't so quick, but it was along those lines. While she doesn't want to formally title the thing, this is looking like the show is winding down. And that's that.

Look for more next week on the next episode of Blu, Chick and dude


Blu

Jihforce

I guess you did it all for the nookie, so you can take that cookie, huh? haahaa. Just kidding. So I guess this has become Blue & Chick now huh? No Dude? What kind of soap opera is this??!??

Chinpoko_Mon

yeah. it's turning into soft-pron..

Or as the forum title puts it, there may be some suckage

Blu

...just to extend the quote stuff...

Yeah, I hope it's just Blu and Chick, but remember, this is a soap opera, so it's never that easy. And I was handed the warning that all will not be well right away.

So I'll keep the updates running, but maybe under a new thread. Maybe NSS: Blu gets booty?


Blu

Blu

Sorry, production on the set has been at a standstill, more to come in the next few days...


Blu

joe52985

dude this is exacatally like my story
Joe
Chick none of joes friends like
Senior dude jerk off

Chick and senior dude go out, hes a moron, i tell her hes a moron, i tell her, he has no wee wee and is dull and boring (senior dude is really like that donkey from whinnie the poo) they break up...me and chick get along really good but nothing happens, weeks later, they hook up again, hes a moron again, dull boring, has no wee wee, yada yada, i tell her "i was right wasnt i" she said im right, b4 she could dump him, he dumps her under speculation that chick is cheating on dude with me (didnt happen) Joe and chick are good friends, joe has a chance but joe has no balls (the last part of story just started developing within last 2 days. CHick admits she liked me....FRESHMAN YEAR now we are juniors and there is still some chance although im afraid i have crossed the border of only friends now but imma see how it goes and try to mack it and go with clutchys advice and ignore her lol more updates coming when school starts, blu u got a pic of chick>???

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