S: being lied to

Emqtee · 12-13-2003, 03:36 PM

I would rather hear the truth also. No matter how bad it is. It's easier to hear it the first time around, then to hear it down the line or from someone else.

Are you positive this person is lying to you? If they are and have done it in the past, it will be hard to trust this person again. You will have to decide whether this person means enough to you to rebuild a friendship, or if you just want to cut your losses and go on without them in your life.

All of this I am sure that you already know, but I do agree with you...it SUCKS! Just try not to get too down about it. Look at all of the friendships that you have made here. Even though I am new around these parts, I can tell that people are not going to just tell you what you want to hear...and they do care about you.

Ladogaboy · 12-14-2003, 01:44 AM

Some people are so obsessed with the idea of keeping everything in "their world" that they will lie just to preserve that peace. My ex was the same way. She could have saved me six months of agony in a one-way relationship by simply telling the truth. I also gave her the benefit of the doubt: maybe she didn't realize what she was doing. However, the more I think about it, she did, and in her mind, she was saving me some pain.

IMO, lying is even worse when done for the sake of protecting someone's feelings, and this seems to be the case here, chosen. Good luck with this....

cheapchinese · 12-14-2003, 02:51 AM

being lied to is a bit.h
even if its white lie.. i don't want it to come from my best friends

djradam · 12-14-2003, 10:05 AM

lying is only good if the person you're lying to will NEVER find out. other than that, look what happens...

caribiner23 · 12-16-2003, 01:36 PM

Lying is never good-- you're disrespecting the person you're lying to, and unless you are light in the conscience department, it's bad for your own soul and thus a disrespect to yourself.

I learned all this the hard way.

I can usually spot when I'm being lied to, but sometimes I find myself second-guessing people I should be trusting.

Good luck, Chosen.

12-13-2003, 03:36 PM	#1
Emqtee Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Michigan Posts: 513	I would rather hear the truth also. No matter how bad it is. It's easier to hear it the first time around, then to hear it down the line or from someone else. Are you positive this person is lying to you? If they are and have done it in the past, it will be hard to trust this person again. You will have to decide whether this person means enough to you to rebuild a friendship, or if you just want to cut your losses and go on without them in your life. All of this I am sure that you already know, but I do agree with you...it SUCKS! Just try not to get too down about it. Look at all of the friendships that you have made here. Even though I am new around these parts, I can tell that people are not going to just tell you what you want to hear...and they do care about you. __________________ Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results. --Anonymous

12-14-2003, 01:44 AM	#2
Ladogaboy Admiral Join Date: Jan 2000 Location: Hiding amongst the minnows Posts: 6,843	Some people are so obsessed with the idea of keeping everything in "their world" that they will lie just to preserve that peace. My ex was the same way. She could have saved me six months of agony in a one-way relationship by simply telling the truth. I also gave her the benefit of the doubt: maybe she didn't realize what she was doing. However, the more I think about it, she did, and in her mind, she was saving me some pain. IMO, lying is even worse when done for the sake of protecting someone's feelings, and this seems to be the case here, chosen. Good luck with this.... __________________ It is not enough to merely touch the face of god; you also must open your eyes so that you may see your palm.

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12-14-2003, 02:51 AM	#3
cheapchinese I love free! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: LA, California Posts: 2,998	being lied to is a bit.h even if its white lie.. i don't want it to come from my best friends

12-14-2003, 10:05 AM	#4
djradam Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: metro detroit, mi Posts: 930	lying is only good if the person you're lying to will NEVER find out. other than that, look what happens...

12-16-2003, 01:36 PM	#5
caribiner23 Commander Join Date: Nov 2001 Location: Chicago Posts: 1,127	Lying is never good-- you're disrespecting the person you're lying to, and unless you are light in the conscience department, it's bad for your own soul and thus a disrespect to yourself. I learned all this the hard way. I can usually spot when I'm being lied to, but sometimes I find myself second-guessing people I should be trusting. Good luck, Chosen.

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