ski

Slightly taboo question:
In your relationship/marriage, do you trust your planned parenthood only on the woman taking birth control?

Assume she takes it in the intended manner (not missing doses, not taking conflicting meds, etc.). I have always been a "wrap it up" kind of guy, even with birth control, but my current girlfriend thought it was foreign that I wanted to wear protection even though she is on birth control. We have both been tested for STDs so that is not a concern. My concern is an early pregnancy as we build a relationship that seems like it's heading towards marriage. Her parents would not give me the same blessing if they found out their daughter got preggers!

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oblongmelon

the only thing that is 100% effective against unwanted pregnancy is abstinence.

uncledaddy

So right, obby. I don't know how many I've had tear, and not notice until it was over. Then worry until that time of month. Of course, abstinence can be tough too.

Explain your reasons for using as double protection. When she hears that you just want to receive full blessing from her parents, she will probably fully understand.

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ski

She accepted my desire to have as much protection as possible, right when I brought it up.

The other part that helps is that we are sparingly intimate to that particular level, it's not a regular routine. Maybe that's just training for marriage As a raised and still practicing Catholic, I'm trained to resist sex, and as a woman, she is trained to resist letting me have it when we argue

renovation

ha "wrap it up" remember this they do break now and again.

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cruelpupet

1. Abstinence is the only thing guarenteed not to work. Just look at the pregnancy stats on people who take that pledge.

2. If you are that anti-abortion/having a kid, then by all means wrap it. But...I will say there is nothing that feels better then not wearing a condom. Oh and the ex's who were on the pill, loved the feel of it too.

3. Ive never had a condom break (knocking on wood right now, no pun intended)

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cruel...i think what you mean is teaching abstinence is the only thing....

because i hope you're not claiming you can still get pregnant when you're not having sex.

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InfiniteNothing

He's claiming you can still get pregnant while pledging abstinence. And that's true, many people, in the heat of the moment, will throw their pledge to the wind and end up unprepared. If such a person doesn't let their pledge get in the way they sure aren't going to let their lack of condomage get in the way.

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Airencracken

Currently wrapping. Pills had a bad effect on the lady. She's looking into getting a copper IUD.

If it isn't skin, it isn't in. Condoms suck.

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Maarchk

That's what they say. People are either 1. not having sex period. 3. having sex but plan on it and have protection well covered, or 2. are in the middle, thinking they won't have sex, end up having sex unprepared and bad things happen.

Try to be 1 or 3. 2 is where the most accidents happen.

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Wrap it up... before you slap it up.

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avlena

I don't trust the pill - it's too easy for the human factor to screw things up. For example, if you don't take it at the exact same time every day, the amount of protection drops. That's not even considering how easy it is to forget one completely! When we were on the pill, we doubled the protection (triple if you consider using the spermicide condoms as well).

However, now I'm on birth control that is impossible for me to screw up (IUD), so we trust it to do it's job. You can also try the ring, which doesn't require daily vigilance, but I had a really hard time with the hormones in that.

but yeah... I'd rather not have an "oops, I'm pregnant" moment, so I try to make sure I'm protected like Fort Knox.

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avlena

I have the Mirena... supposed to have less side effects then the traditional copper IUD. I like it, though the insertion was a b*tch. I was in a lot of pain for a few days, and it was a few months before things stabilized.

cruelpupet

While I still stand beside the nothing feels better comment, I would like to add that I dont think screwing with body chemistry is the best idea, and I think id rather get snipped then have my future wife stay on birth control.

But in the mean time...gotta love the pill!

cruelpupet

No, i meant what I said! That how my ex got pregnant...she sat on a public toilet seat

Airencracken

Yeah she's done her research and she's rather aware of these issues. I told her that I'm fine with condoms for the time being, but she (and I) are concerned with the failure rates. I wish there were more options for male birth control.

Doesn't it make more sense to take the bullets out of the gun than to wear a bullet proof vest?

WhiskeyPapa

What the heck are you people talking about? What is this "birth control" thing you mention?

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ski

Best quote.


I just wanted to see what other people were doing. Thanks for the input!

TofuNinja

That is a great quote

With my ex we used both, even though without a condom, I agree, felt better.

With the current GF she isn't on a pill so we use condom. She is now on the pill.... not sure if we will use both or just one. I guess it is time to have that talk.

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The Happy Squirrel

Very Simple If You Dont Want Kids Dont Ahve Sex!!!!!!

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InfiniteNothing

It's not that simple unless you don't enjoy sex. If you enjoy sex then you have to balance that against the risk * cost of having kids

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*fap* *fap* *fap*

no kids.

mcs328

Speaking of which...where is Yoss? Or did I miss something?

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Up the butt, no babies.

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The Happy Squirrel

but it is that simple. If you take that risk then you should be prepared for the possible outcomes.

you might have kids, it might turn green and fall off, she might turn out to be your cousin.... either way if you accept the task you accept the risk

InfiniteNothing

But that's not what you said. You said that everyone that doesn't want kids shouldn't be having sex. By that logic like 99.9% of the US shouldn't be having sex. That's not the same as accepting the risk of having kids if you don't want kids.
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LPMiller

should married people stop having sex too?

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DarkFury

If they absolutely don't want kids.... then yes, if they don't want to use any forms of birth control.

Hopefully your wife won't make your "magic stick" turn green or fall off. If she does, then you might have other issues with your "significant other".

If she's your cousin... well maybe you just observe a different moral code than the average citizen. :hmmM:

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My grandpappy always used to say...if you cant keep it in your pants, keep it in the family.