Anniversaries and Gifts

ray · 01-09-2004, 09:47 AM

So, I was recently reading a friend's Xanga and I noticed that she was commenting a lot on her new relationship with this guy. What stuck out most to me wasn't that every post was about him...Every month she made a single post noting their "anniversary" and then discussed how they were going out to celebrate and she bought him a gift etc.

On the other hand, my cousin and his girlfriend have been together for over a year now and they never exchange gifts (not even for Christmas) and they never have scheduled anniversary outings. They both agreed that those celebrations weren't as valuable as their time spent together and random gifts and in short, were childish.

Call me naive or call me insensitive, but I have to agree with my cousin and his girlfriend. Ever since I can remember, all of my friends who were involved in relationships in the past 8 years have considered their 1 month, 2 month, 3.5 month, etc anniversaries some of the most important days of their lives. They would spend their money on flowers, gifts and a nice date. But doing this on a monthly basis? It's almost absurd.

Is there really a point to celebrating so often? I can understand wedding anniversaries as those occur once a year. So what makes dating someone for a month or 6 months so important when you're younger? Ever notice that as people get older, dating anniversaries are no longer important?

Jenny · 01-09-2004, 10:21 AM

I never celebrated "anniversaries" before I was married, considering I had not been in a serious relationship for any good length of time before that. After we got married, we went somewhere special for 3 months & 6 months, but no gift til 1 year.

To each their own, I guess.

Emqtee · 01-10-2004, 06:56 AM

I think celebrating every month is kind of ridiculous also. I could see going out to dinner or something like that at a year.

Jihforce · 01-10-2004, 09:46 AM

Annual anniversaries carry more meaning than those monthly. I find it pretty pointless. She sounds like this girl never had a boyfriend before.

Leebo · 01-10-2004, 01:23 PM

some friends of mine just say celebrate the 1st month then annual after that.

01-09-2004, 09:47 AM	#1
ray captain awesome Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 7,054	Anniversaries and Gifts So, I was recently reading a friend's Xanga and I noticed that she was commenting a lot on her new relationship with this guy. What stuck out most to me wasn't that every post was about him...Every month she made a single post noting their "anniversary" and then discussed how they were going out to celebrate and she bought him a gift etc. On the other hand, my cousin and his girlfriend have been together for over a year now and they never exchange gifts (not even for Christmas) and they never have scheduled anniversary outings. They both agreed that those celebrations weren't as valuable as their time spent together and random gifts and in short, were childish. Call me naive or call me insensitive, but I have to agree with my cousin and his girlfriend. Ever since I can remember, all of my friends who were involved in relationships in the past 8 years have considered their 1 month, 2 month, 3.5 month, etc anniversaries some of the most important days of their lives. They would spend their money on flowers, gifts and a nice date. But doing this on a monthly basis? It's almost absurd. Is there really a point to celebrating so often? I can understand wedding anniversaries as those occur once a year. So what makes dating someone for a month or 6 months so important when you're younger? Ever notice that as people get older, dating anniversaries are no longer important?

01-09-2004, 10:21 AM	#2
Jenny Chief of Naval Operations Join Date: Mar 2000 Location: Kansas City area Posts: 10,947	I never celebrated "anniversaries" before I was married, considering I had not been in a serious relationship for any good length of time before that. After we got married, we went somewhere special for 3 months & 6 months, but no gift til 1 year. To each their own, I guess. __________________ Check out my spoilers for over 20 shows @ SpoilerFix.com Check out my TV blog, where I post weekly & daily TV schedules, TV news, interviews with TV stars & more! All new TV forums as well @ TV Is My Pacifier

01-10-2004, 06:56 AM	#3
Emqtee Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Michigan Posts: 513	I think celebrating every month is kind of ridiculous also. I could see going out to dinner or something like that at a year. __________________ Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results. --Anonymous

01-10-2004, 09:46 AM	#4
Jihforce Vice Admiral Join Date: Jan 2000 Posts: 4,352	Annual anniversaries carry more meaning than those monthly. I find it pretty pointless. She sounds like this girl never had a boyfriend before. __________________ Auto Leasing Info @ RIDEwithG.com \| My Food & Travel Blog

01-10-2004, 01:23 PM	#5
Leebo Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: La Jolla, Ca Posts: 821	some friends of mine just say celebrate the 1st month then annual after that. __________________ oHai!

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