turtleb16a

Hey everyone,

Just told someone how I felt about her last night. She didnt feel the same and we ended the conversation quickly. I did not get a chnace to ask why and I want to know now.


EDIT:

Sorry, guess im still dazed... My question is, I would like to know why but did not get a chance to ask her...should I even bother?

Showtime

Forget about it and move on.

-j

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yeah, pretty much we missed the boat on that one. but it's still here. get you some.

turtleb16a

EDIT:

Sorry, guess im still dazed... My question is, I would like to know why but did not get a chance to ask her...should I even bother?

dsuds

Asking a woman why she doesn't feel the same way as you is akin to asking why water flows downhill. She just does. Pushing the subject with her will either get you an answer that hurts your feelings, or a lie that will give you false hopes. Be friends with her and move on.

Memo

The reason is simple, she's just not into you. Any specifics can only hurt your ego.

cheapie

that's a pretty big matzah ball hanging out there. maybe she was deaf in one ear.

Merlin

How long have you been dating this girl? If it is a long time then I'd agree with those who said to move on. If it is a shorter time I'd just keep on keepin' on and give it some time.

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zenbooty

Sounds serious. I suggest you quit pussyfooting around and go straight to this situation's endpoint.

So mail her the dead squirrel with the note attched, "Unlike this squirrel, my love for you will never die." That always wins 'em over, trust me.

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nickel

yep, i second that motion.

and mad props if you can make it one of the Geico squirrels

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cheapie

hmmm...no props for the seinfeld reference. thought nickel would be all over that.

welfareloser

i'm with all the stupids...

yeah, might as well ask her why she likes apple pie and not pumpkin. she just doesn't. and the chances of you getting an honest answer are next to nothin.

now, if you really do want to know... try to find a way to get a friend to ask a friend to ask her... higher chance of gettin the straight poop doing it the middle school way but, as previously stated, you probly don't want to know. and really, it probably wouldn't tell you anything meaningful about yourself.

i admire you for laying it out though. that's NEVER a bad idea. you didn't get the outcome you wanted... but one of these days, you'll spill your guts to a girl who DOES feel the same way... and it will all be worth it

until then... drink heavily. with friends who appreciate fart jokes. it'll pass the time nicely.

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nickel

caught me off guard cheapie
i don't think turtleb16a was confident in the 'I love you' return.

Maarchk

What answer could she possibly give that would make you feel any better about what has happened? If there was something like, oh i'm not feeling a relationship with anyone right now, i think she would have said that. I think you should save your ego the hurt and let it go.

Sadly, the people we fall hardest for, tend to be the least interested.

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cheapie

and they tend to have pepper spray.

BrewMaster

oh WL, if only you and I were not seperated by 2000 miles. we could have so much fun together along with our respective friends.

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Leebo

Sorry to hear that man. Just move on though, there's nothing else you can do. Same thing happened to me a few weeks ago. That's life.

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whitak24

hilarious cheapie!

welfareloser

you too appreciate a good fart joke? my brotha!

zenbooty

Does lighting up farts count as a joke?

Showtime

I change my answer.

-j

molecularfire

I'm going to go against the flow and disagree with the previous posts. The question you have to ask yourself is how important is this to you. If it is not a big deal then who cares and trudge on with the relationship. If it is something that you aren't going to be able to get past then the relationship is over anyways so you've got nothing to lose by asking. I mean there is the friendship route but do you really think that you guys can go on with being friends after this? If the answer is yes then decide which is more important the friendship or a chance at a relationship... the answer to that should decide your course. Now, if you want to fix the relationship then you should ask her... most likely she will give you some generic lie to spare your feelings and in that case, at least you know that the game is over. There is a minor chance that she will tell you something that is acceptable to you... although admittedly a very slim chance. Unfortunately, IMO the odds of this working out well is miniscule but it is better than none. As for how long to wait before asking... you know her better than anyone here you will have to answer that question.

That being said ask her once and if you don't get the answer you want let her go. There is no point in pestering her too much. There is a danger in these types of situations for people to let emotions get the best of them and make the other person feel uncomfortable... stalker type stuff. Not trying to imply anything bad... just that I don't know you and feel that I should just state that at least once given the emotions involved.

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BrewMaster

oh sista sista...appreciate? hell, I instigate and perpetrate fart jokes.

and of course there is plenty of beer on hand to keep the jokes going. my fridge never has less than ten bombers (22 oz bottles) of good beer in it.

cheapie

you two need to get a room. preferably one with windows that can be opened to let some air in.

BrewMaster

it's warm down here in SoCal during the day. we could sit outside and let the natural ventilation take care of us.

cheapie

warm? i have a snow-covered yard. we won't have a warm day until april sometime.

BrewMaster

I've been to MI and I sympathize. You should come visit some of your SoCal customers or FL customers. I'll buy you a beer if you're in the area.

cheapie

i don't have any!!!!

they are, in order of size, located in OH, PA, MN, WI, OK, KY, IA, MN....

not exactly garden spots. sigh....

BrewMaster

that emoticon was perfect.


...to say the least. but hey, maybe its time to do some prospecting for new customers in warmer climates.

brainsmile

ah young grasshopper... even the mighty oak eventually succumbs to the pressures of the wind and time.

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