BrewMaster

This is just out of curiosity. I read somewhere that people whose parents are divorced are 50% more likely to be divorced themselves. I don't know if it's true though.

And for for the sake of simplicity in answering this poll, leave out being re-married. Just consider whether you or your parents were EVER divorced. Also, if a parent or spouse is deceased, just give their marital status at the time of death. I would consider a widowed person "married" in this poll.

My parents are married and I am, until February, unmarried.

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blueindian

my parents divorced when i was 4, both remarried once, both divorced again, both almost married one more time, and both will probably never marry again.

it's rampent in my extended family as well.

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yeah, pretty much we missed the boat on that one. but it's still here. get you some.

bachviet

No divorce yet in my immediate family

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Kevster

My parents have been married for 38 years. I have been happily married to Mrs. Kevster for almost 4 years.

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zenbooty

Does being divorced from reality count?

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whitak24

my parents are married, and i am currently unmarried.

BrewMaster

only if you were ever married to reality. in your case, we know that that was never the case.

zenbooty

Dude, I once clenched onto reality with both hands, legs and all my teeth. Why you think I went nutz? HAHAHAHAHAHAA!!!!

Kim

My parents have never divorced, I am currently separated after being married for 14 years.

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kimchicowboy

i don't know how long my parents have been married for, but they still are. i'm single.

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faither

My parents will be married 41 years in June, I've been married 12 years and four of my sibblings are also married. Two were married previously (not to each other) and divorced and one is looking ay her second divorce. She's wonderful, but as her lawyer put it, "You have a knack for marrying losers."

#1 (me) married
#2 married (2nd time)
#3 married (2nd time)
#4 married
#5 married
#6 single

ialsohaveadream

I'm engaged after dating for seven years (with the requisite breakups), and now it's about to end. My parents divorced when I was about 2 or 3.

Yossarian

parents split after 14 years, 3 years later my dads parents(who lived a mile away) split after 30-40 some years

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BrewMaster

you're calling off the engagement and breaking up?

ialsohaveadream

Yup. Just happened this past week. Safe to say it'll be the WORST. CHRISTMAS. EVER.

dsuds

OUCH.. Sorry to hear that.

Parents married for longer than I can remember and I've been married for 17 years.

A good friend's grandparents have a great philosophy about the secret to a long marriage...."Don't leave & don't die, that's it." I guess we should have asked about a long, HAPPY, marriage.

WhiskeyPapa

Divorce is very rare in my family. The only two close relatives that have been divorced have each been divorced and remarried three times. My family has a history of getting married very young, and staying married a very, very long time.

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kimchicowboy

one pastor friend of mine said that whenever someone asks him what he thinks is the most important trait in someone to marry, his response is: a person with a teachable heart. cuz with a teachable heart, all the bad stuff can change.

sounds good to me.

caribiner23

Parents married for 50+ years. It just works for them.

I was divorced after 15 years of marriage. The eyes are wide open now.

BrewMaster

Oh man, sorry to hear that IAHAD. Hopefully it will be for the best in the long run.

Booyamos

parents divorced when i was about 13, i'm currently not married.

seems like half the kids i know have divorced parents. Its weird, my gf's family has family dinners and things.. feels so strange to me.

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welfareloser

my parents are still married - happily, even! - i got married at 20 and divorced at 25; happily remarried.

prm is an only child of divorced parents... his mom got remarried and divorced, but is now living with her 2nd husband again, unmarried (he was an alcoholic, and needed that kick in the butt to reform; he's a good guy and they're co-existing peacefully... best you can say for anyone who has to live with prm's mom )

his dad got remarried, separated for awhile because he has trouble with the whole monogamy thing, but he and his wife are doing well now after counselling.

and none of those problems rubbed off on prm. he was engaged to a girl for 5 years who was horrible to him... would make him "take a break" from even so much as talking on the phone for 6 months at a time so she could "sort things out"... and he would have other girls - attractive ones! - literally trying to undress him, and he still never cheated on her. if he can do THAT, i'm never going to be worried

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brainsmile

Parent still married for 36 years / Me for 7

donnar

my paerents have been married for 26 years my husband parents were married for 52 and we have been married 4 on april 3rd but together for almost 8

cheapie

parents married and no divorces on my mom's side. i've been married for 7 years.

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MissThany

My folks were married for 28 years and got a divorce..later that year, hubby's folks-married just as long- split and are no longer living together.

Hubby and I have been married for 7 years and hope to learn from our parents' mistakes. We have one son and a daughter due in 3 weeks and don't want them to EVER have to go through what we did (and, frankly, still ARE going through).

I had a friend who reccommended yearly couples counseling for married folks. She said "You go to the Doc for a yearly check up, why not go to a marriage doc for the same on your relationship?" The hub and I have done it once or twice and even though it was sometimes painful, we always emerged stronger.

BigJon

My parents aren't divorced...although they have been each divorced before with their previous spouses....and my wife and I have no plans on getting divorced...



...unless she has plans I don't know about...

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BrewMaster

We'll see if she shows up in this thread singing a different song...

johnnymk

I'm not sure that's good advice. A friend of mine told me that a lot of couples he knew were worse off after counseling. I don't know what the statistics are, but I tend to believe him.

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BrewMaster

We just finished up our pre-marital counseling today and I can't believe that. Counseling has been so helpful and our relationship was/is very healthy. It's nice to have someone else's perspective on things. I would say that it doesn't necessarily have to be an MFT, but a pastor or a trained counselor can be very helpful. We saw a friend from our church who is an MFT and I thouroghly enjoyed the process. It wasn't easy or "fun" but it was worth it. But it has to be noted that counseling is only as affective as couples allow it to be. I mean, if you don't want to let the counselor in on everything or you BS about stuff, then there's nothing they can do about that. And if someone doesn't want to change, a counselor can't force them.