Need the ladies opinon....

krayzie1 · 07-22-2005, 10:12 PM

Ok so I've broken up with a girl and we were extremely close friends, we hung out together every weekend with sleep overs fairly often. Last week she posted a personal ad on Yahoo and when I was on her computer someone sent a IM. To say I was fine with it would be an utter lie, of course it was hard to see her start to move on.

But I got over it the other day I asked her how her personal ad was going and I saw she put up her pic (she didn't have one at the beginning). I got a very nasty email saying basically I shouldn't be checking up on her and what not, its true I probably shouldn't have looked it up but I was curious.

Anyway we made up and was all fine but lately she's only been giveing me like extremely short answers and almost never replying to txt msg's. So I'm assuming she's still somewhat mad or something.

I have to take her key back (I was letting her dog out while she was at work, but now she has her friend comeing over everyday after work to hang out for a bit (very long story), so she doesn't need me to do it) and I was wondering is it wrong to take back items that wasn't giving to her but were mutually used. Like DVD's and computer software thats in my name and other stuff. I hate to do it but with the way she's been the last day its hard not to.

Sorry for being so long.

ooBaKeep · 07-23-2005, 12:43 AM

Let her keep the stuff and move on. You will look back and see those things as really trivial. Maybe you could post a personal ad for yourself, it could be fun!

I hope it all works out for you, breaking up is difficult.

CrystalDuck · 07-23-2005, 09:35 AM

Perhaps mention that you want one item in particular. Maybe she will give you everything, maybe you will have to hint again. But don't bother with the unimportant stuff (which may be most of it).

Chances are she's not really still mad at you for that one incident, but is rethinking the friendship. It might be easier to make a clean break. I could be wrong, trust your own judgement.

GracieBayb · 07-23-2005, 10:14 AM

maybe she is not really responding to you because she needs some distance to get over the relationship and move on. for example, if she did happen to meet someone, he would probably be uncomfortable with her ex-boyfriend coming over from time to time and consistently text messaging her... etc. just a thought

i would say to leave the stuff as well, unless she specifically asks you to take them - and i would say there might be a possibility that she has already boxed your stuff up so it's ready to go when you get there

either way, good luck to you and i hope everything works out for the best!

krayzie1 · 07-23-2005, 11:12 PM

Thanks for all the advice! Pretty new to all this

In the long run it will be fine.

kgsilvas · 08-19-2005, 04:14 PM

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Originally Posted by krayzie1

I was wondering is it wrong to take back items that wasn't giving to her but were mutually used. Like DVD's and computer software thats in my name and other stuff.

Did you ask for and/or get your stuff back?

DarkFury · 08-19-2005, 04:18 PM

Clean breaks are the best... don't look back if you can.

</me watches as you look back and turn into a Pillar of Salt>

Dayuum... just couldn't follow simple advice huh?

Jihforce · 08-19-2005, 04:25 PM

i think she's still mad, maybe freaked out that you check up on her. I'd leave the stuff with her and walk away, you should follower her lead and try to move on too. Looks like that's what she's doing. It sucks when friends hookup and it doesn't work. You destroy so much more. But hey! there's probably some girl waiting for you out there. So look hard.

07-22-2005, 10:12 PM	#1
krayzie1 Lieutenant Junior Grade Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: York, PA Posts: 51	Need the ladies opinon.... Ok so I've broken up with a girl and we were extremely close friends, we hung out together every weekend with sleep overs fairly often. Last week she posted a personal ad on Yahoo and when I was on her computer someone sent a IM. To say I was fine with it would be an utter lie, of course it was hard to see her start to move on. But I got over it the other day I asked her how her personal ad was going and I saw she put up her pic (she didn't have one at the beginning). I got a very nasty email saying basically I shouldn't be checking up on her and what not, its true I probably shouldn't have looked it up but I was curious. Anyway we made up and was all fine but lately she's only been giveing me like extremely short answers and almost never replying to txt msg's. So I'm assuming she's still somewhat mad or something. I have to take her key back (I was letting her dog out while she was at work, but now she has her friend comeing over everyday after work to hang out for a bit (very long story), so she doesn't need me to do it) and I was wondering is it wrong to take back items that wasn't giving to her but were mutually used. Like DVD's and computer software thats in my name and other stuff. I hate to do it but with the way she's been the last day its hard not to. Sorry for being so long.

07-23-2005, 12:43 AM	#2
ooBaKeep Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: East of I-5 Posts: 767	Let her keep the stuff and move on. You will look back and see those things as really trivial. Maybe you could post a personal ad for yourself, it could be fun! I hope it all works out for you, breaking up is difficult. __________________ Peek-a-Boo! I don't think a little kid should be punished for somethin' he learned from a parrot! ~ Dennis the Menace

07-23-2005, 09:35 AM	#3
CrystalDuck Lieutenant Junior Grade Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 163	Perhaps mention that you want one item in particular. Maybe she will give you everything, maybe you will have to hint again. But don't bother with the unimportant stuff (which may be most of it). Chances are she's not really still mad at you for that one incident, but is rethinking the friendship. It might be easier to make a clean break. I could be wrong, trust your own judgement. __________________

08-19-2005, 04:18 PM	#7
DarkFury Secretary of the Navy Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Chillin' N Da 'Hood Posts: 34,997	Clean breaks are the best... don't look back if you can. </me watches as you look back and turn into a Pillar of Salt> Dayuum... just couldn't follow simple advice huh? __________________ DarkFury's Pimptopia - Don't Hate the Playa, Hate the Game! Home of the Original OG Pimp (accept NO imitations)

08-19-2005, 04:25 PM	#8
Jihforce Vice Admiral Join Date: Jan 2000 Posts: 4,352	i think she's still mad, maybe freaked out that you check up on her. I'd leave the stuff with her and walk away, you should follower her lead and try to move on too. Looks like that's what she's doing. It sucks when friends hookup and it doesn't work. You destroy so much more. But hey! there's probably some girl waiting for you out there. So look hard. __________________ Auto Leasing Info @ RIDEwithG.com \| My Food & Travel Blog

07-23-2005, 10:14 AM	#4
GracieBayb Lieutenant Commander Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Orange County Posts: 818	maybe she is not really responding to you because she needs some distance to get over the relationship and move on. for example, if she did happen to meet someone, he would probably be uncomfortable with her ex-boyfriend coming over from time to time and consistently text messaging her... etc. just a thought i would say to leave the stuff as well, unless she specifically asks you to take them - and i would say there might be a possibility that she has already boxed your stuff up so it's ready to go when you get there either way, good luck to you and i hope everything works out for the best!

07-23-2005, 11:12 PM	#5
krayzie1 Lieutenant Junior Grade Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: York, PA Posts: 51	Thanks for all the advice! Pretty new to all this In the long run it will be fine.

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