Break Up Advice...

sizemic1 · 02-16-2006, 10:28 AM

OK..so i've been dating this woman for a couple of months now and have pretty much come to the conclusion that she just isn't right for me. I'm contemplating on how to break it off. She lives about 45minutes away from me and is supposed to come over Saturday. I feel like I should do it in person, but it seems sucky to have her drive all this way when I know i'm going to break up with her. Another option is I can do it on the phone prior to Saturday. Given that we've only been dating for such a short time and have typically only seen each other for a day or two on the weekends, I don't feel like SO much time has been invested in this and a phone breakup might be OK. My last option is to drive out her way, but due to the lack of privacy at her place, I don't know where I would do it. What do you all think?

Merlin · 02-16-2006, 10:51 AM

Just send her an e-mail.

nickel · 02-16-2006, 10:52 AM

tell her on the phone before Saturday, and also add that you wanted to spare her the trip.

good luck. breaking up is hard to do.... most of the time.

welfareloser · 02-16-2006, 11:01 AM

i never have understood why it's considered wrong/cowardly/mean to break up any way other than in person. if i'm getting dumped, i'd rather NOT be face-to-face.

Burzhui · 02-16-2006, 11:38 AM

should have done it before valentines day and saved money on the present/flowers

DaFunkyUnit · 02-16-2006, 12:32 PM

"Welcome to dumpsville. Population: You."

DarkFury · 02-16-2006, 12:33 PM

Whatever you do.. don't break it off at your house.

Too much risk for some of your possessions to get damaged that way....

ialsohaveadream · 02-16-2006, 01:08 PM

Meet up with her, have sex 3 or 4 times, and then after the last round, look over at her and say, "Wow, that was terrible. I think we should see other people."

Grimm · 02-16-2006, 01:26 PM

Call her and meet her before this weekend. Go to a place near her home and tell her. There is no sense in wasting any more of her time. Be a man and do it to her face... then run like hell.

ialsohaveadream · 02-16-2006, 01:27 PM

Also, wear a cup.

brainsmile · 02-16-2006, 01:32 PM

Well for me I think the best way is to have a friend unexpectedly kiss her just as you're walking in. Say you're devastated and that you can't bear to see her anymore.

mcs328 · 02-16-2006, 01:54 PM

Fake your death!!

Jihforce · 02-16-2006, 02:02 PM

i'd just call her up. save yourself and her a trip.

brainsmile · 02-16-2006, 02:13 PM

tell her you have feelings for men

esme · 02-16-2006, 02:17 PM

w/gas prices ....i say you call and break it off. what's the point of wasting gas and time??

PLUS she can't do anything to you this way

nickel · 02-16-2006, 02:23 PM

on second thought....

just link her this thread.

MikeD · 02-16-2006, 03:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Grimm

Call her and meet her before this weekend. Go to a place near her home and tell her. There is no sense in wasting any more of her time. Be a man and do it to her face... then run like hell.

with Grimm and IAHAD. Man up. Do the right thing.

InfiniteNothing · 02-16-2006, 03:21 PM

How about a handwritten letter.

CornMonkey · 02-16-2006, 04:10 PM

one of my wife's ex broke up with her on AIM...

you can try that...

Burzhui · 02-16-2006, 05:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Grimm

Be a man and do it ON her face... .

Bad Burzhui

Grimm · 02-16-2006, 06:33 PM

Burzhui,
That's just wrong.

Sirrich3 · 02-16-2006, 08:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Burzhui

{snip}

nickel · 02-16-2006, 08:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Burzhui

{snip}

ahhhh, some humor around here. thanks my brother of the teeth.

sizemic1 · 02-16-2006, 10:29 PM

bleh...that sucked.

Thanks for the input everyone.

mcs328 · 02-16-2006, 10:46 PM

So how did you do it?

DarkFury · 02-16-2006, 11:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mcs328

So how did you do it?

Yeah? Inquiring minds wanna know.

Merlin · 02-17-2006, 05:50 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Burzhui

Bad Burzhui

Greatest Smiley Ever!

nickel · 02-17-2006, 06:24 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sizemic1

bleh...that sucked.

Thanks for the input everyone.

i don't see how it could be anything but sucky, but take a deep breath, you did the right thing.

sizemic1 · 02-17-2006, 10:04 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DarkFury

Yeah? Inquiring minds wanna know.

Over the phone. Based on her reaction, I think it was the right choice.

Airencracken · 02-17-2006, 10:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Merlin

Greatest Smiley Ever!

Gotta love a pop shot smiley

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02-16-2006, 10:28 AM	#1
sizemic1 Owww, I feel good! Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Beautiful Temecula CA Posts: 2,002	Break Up Advice... OK..so i've been dating this woman for a couple of months now and have pretty much come to the conclusion that she just isn't right for me. I'm contemplating on how to break it off. She lives about 45minutes away from me and is supposed to come over Saturday. I feel like I should do it in person, but it seems sucky to have her drive all this way when I know i'm going to break up with her. Another option is I can do it on the phone prior to Saturday. Given that we've only been dating for such a short time and have typically only seen each other for a day or two on the weekends, I don't feel like SO much time has been invested in this and a phone breakup might be OK. My last option is to drive out her way, but due to the lack of privacy at her place, I don't know where I would do it. What do you all think? __________________ [___] (O lllllll O) []==O=[]

02-16-2006, 10:51 AM	#2
Merlin Admiral Join Date: Dec 2001 Location: Square On My Arse Posts: 7,410	Just send her an e-mail. __________________

02-16-2006, 10:52 AM	#3
nickel Vice Chairwoman, Joint Chieftess of Staff Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Jeterville, NYY Posts: 17,786	tell her on the phone before Saturday, and also add that you wanted to spare her the trip. good luck. breaking up is hard to do.... most of the time. __________________ click me

02-16-2006, 11:01 AM	#4
welfareloser Grand Moff Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: jabba's palace. (yes, i do... and no, you can't.) Posts: 9,718	i never have understood why it's considered wrong/cowardly/mean to break up any way other than in person. if i'm getting dumped, i'd rather NOT be face-to-face. __________________ Find the person who will love you because of your differences and not in spite of them and you have found a lover for life. ~ Leo Buscaglia http://www.welfareloser.com http://gotapexblogs.net/users/welfareloser/

02-16-2006, 11:38 AM	#5
Burzhui hot in velour pants Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: New York City Posts: 9,198	should have done it before valentines day and saved money on the present/flowers __________________ ____________________ IF A FAT GIRL FALLS IN THE WOODS DO THE TREES LAUGH?

02-16-2006, 12:32 PM	#6
DaFunkyUnit Rear Admiral Upper Half Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: the peanut gallery Posts: 3,909	all you need to say is: "Welcome to dumpsville. Population: You." __________________

02-16-2006, 12:33 PM	#7
DarkFury Secretary of the Navy Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Chillin' N Da 'Hood Posts: 34,997	Whatever you do.. don't break it off at your house. Too much risk for some of your possessions to get damaged that way.... __________________ DarkFury's Pimptopia - Don't Hate the Playa, Hate the Game! Home of the Original OG Pimp (accept NO imitations)

02-16-2006, 01:08 PM	#8
ialsohaveadream Fleet Admiral Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: FL Posts: 8,077	Meet up with her, have sex 3 or 4 times, and then after the last round, look over at her and say, "Wow, that was terrible. I think we should see other people." __________________ Web log

02-16-2006, 01:26 PM	#9
Grimm 100% Pure Evil Join Date: Sep 2000 Posts: 7,861	Call her and meet her before this weekend. Go to a place near her home and tell her. There is no sense in wasting any more of her time. Be a man and do it to her face... then run like hell.

02-16-2006, 01:27 PM	#10
ialsohaveadream Fleet Admiral Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: FL Posts: 8,077	Also, wear a cup.

02-16-2006, 01:32 PM	#11
brainsmile Chief of Naval Operations Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: woah... why is welfareloser here with me so early in the morning and more importantly why am I wearing her clothes?!? Posts: 13,754	Well for me I think the best way is to have a friend unexpectedly kiss her just as you're walking in. Say you're devastated and that you can't bear to see her anymore. __________________ ********************************** DCM #1 (Founder) "Nobody beats Vitus Gerulaitis 18 times in a row." - Vitus Gerulaitis on beating Jimmy Connors after 17 failed attempts.

02-16-2006, 01:54 PM	#12
mcs328 Admiral Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Maryland Posts: 6,578	Fake your death!! __________________

02-16-2006, 02:02 PM	#13
Jihforce Vice Admiral Join Date: Jan 2000 Posts: 4,352	i'd just call her up. save yourself and her a trip. __________________ Auto Leasing Info @ RIDEwithG.com \| My Food & Travel Blog

02-16-2006, 02:13 PM	#14
brainsmile Chief of Naval Operations Join Date: Jun 2000 Location: woah... why is welfareloser here with me so early in the morning and more importantly why am I wearing her clothes?!? Posts: 13,754	tell her you have feelings for men

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02-16-2006, 02:17 PM	#15
esme Commander Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Orange County, CA Posts: 1,089	w/gas prices ....i say you call and break it off. what's the point of wasting gas and time?? PLUS she can't do anything to you this way __________________ -Esme ..... "There is no remedy for love but to love more."

02-16-2006, 02:23 PM	#16
nickel Vice Chairwoman, Joint Chieftess of Staff Join Date: Feb 2002 Location: Jeterville, NYY Posts: 17,786	on second thought.... just link her this thread.

02-16-2006, 03:21 PM	#18
InfiniteNothing Chief of Naval Operations Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: San Diego Posts: 10,086	How about a handwritten letter.

02-16-2006, 04:10 PM	#19
CornMonkey Rear Admiral Lower Half Join Date: May 2000 Location: in front of my computer Posts: 2,503	one of my wife's ex broke up with her on AIM... you can try that...

02-16-2006, 06:33 PM	#21
Grimm 100% Pure Evil Join Date: Sep 2000 Posts: 7,861	Burzhui, That's just wrong.

02-16-2006, 10:29 PM	#24
sizemic1 Owww, I feel good! Join Date: Nov 2000 Location: Beautiful Temecula CA Posts: 2,002	bleh...that sucked. Thanks for the input everyone.

02-16-2006, 10:46 PM	#25
mcs328 Admiral Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Maryland Posts: 6,578	So how did you do it?

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