SS: Getting a bill in the mail for $1300

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 10:40 AM

you don't know how pissed I am about this....

I get a bill for "Welfare reimbursement", and that is on top of the $658 monthly child support I have to pay....

**chrissy** · 03-14-2002, 01:17 PM

whoa!

did you pay every month? I remember a time when you weren't working.
I would talk to a case worker (if you can) and provide ALL reciepts for things you have bought for Lil' Dopey. Sometimes they will deduct needed things from that bill.

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 01:22 PM

I am paying the support for my son, not the second, but this in on top of all that, this is the free money she gets from the state, they are making me pay them back

**chrissy** · 03-14-2002, 01:25 PM

Oh Dopey!

I am soo sorry!

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 02:40 PM

**Kim** · 03-14-2002, 02:57 PM

That doesn't seem fair that you should have to pay back what she gets when you are already paying child support. I hope you get custody soon!

**Hoser** · 03-14-2002, 03:43 PM

Dopey, $658 a month? How did that amount get chosen? I pay $315 for my son (only 12 more months left). I feel for you. I just got a part time job to try get ahead of my bills. One day I'll be debt free, just not tomorrow.

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 03:47 PM

$658 was the % of my income that they decided ( that is for both kids ) 200+ for my sone and 350+ for the kid that is unconfirmed....

and that is based on my salery when I was making 11.27 an hour

**jujubees** · 03-14-2002, 04:44 PM

Ouch.

I might have missed this, but when did/will you get the paternity test on the "unconfirmed" kid? Or is it still baking?

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 04:57 PM

Originally posted by jujubees
Ouch.

I might have missed this, but when did/will you get the paternity test on the "unconfirmed" kid? Or is it still baking?

DA is taking forever on a date

**Hiro** · 03-14-2002, 05:01 PM

Originally posted by DoPeY5007
DA is taking forever on a date

does the unconfirmed kid look like you at all?

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 05:42 PM

Originally posted by Corsec

does the unconfirmed kid look like you at all?

NOPE

**Nija** · 03-14-2002, 06:46 PM

Originally posted by DoPeY5007
$658 was the % of my income that they decided ( that is for both kids ) 200+ for my sone and 350+ for the kid that is unconfirmed....

and that is based on my salery when I was making 11.27 an hour

oh... love how they make you pay more for the kid that isn't confirmed to be yours than your actual, proven son.... LOVE THE GOVERNMENT (this is my new sarcastic mantra, I swear)

**Hiro** · 03-14-2002, 08:30 PM

Originally posted by Nija
oh... love how they make you pay more for the kid that isn't confirmed to be yours than your actual, proven son.

Im with Nija, I was thinking this earlier when I read it. But I really don't see how they can do this.

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 08:54 PM

Originally posted by Corsec

But I really don't see how they can do this.

with out the vaseline

**Hiro** · 03-14-2002, 10:17 PM

Originally posted by DarkFury
I do know how you feel on this issue... DAYUUUM!!!

personal experiences?

And Dopey, yea, the government doesn't like vaseline. It gives them rashes.

**nomoney** · 03-14-2002, 11:47 PM

Do you get money back if its not really your kid?

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-14-2002, 11:49 PM

Originally posted by PsillyPyro
Do you get money back if its not really your kid?

prolly not

**CarolinaGal** · 03-15-2002, 10:32 PM

Dopey - have they proven whether the second kid is yours? How long does that take? I thought I remembered just about a week?

It doesn't seem fair for you to pay if he isn't yours.....

And help me, I'm slow - you are divorced, right? Why are you paying her welfare, again? Was this stuff from before y'all divorced?

Hey - I'll tell you what - we can have a got|apex-a-thon!

No, seriously, y'all could spin the tunes - AMRIVLIN could hook you up, and then we could find some fun short game we could all play on-line. If we could talk WL into a larger picture we'd even have live musical accompanyment! We could get pitchers of our favorites, and pass around favorite bad for you , but oh so good receipes, and just spend a couple hours chillin', and donate the funds we would have spent out carousing to the Dope!

Any Takers

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-15-2002, 11:21 PM

Originally posted by CarolinaGal

And help me, I'm slow - you are divorced, right? Why are you paying her welfare, again? Was this stuff from before y'all divorced?

yes I am divorced, and well in Cali, when a woman goes on welfare, and she has a child, well they go after the father to pay that back to the state

Originally posted by CarolinaGal

Hey - I'll tell you what - we can have a got|apex-a-thon!

No, seriously, y'all could spin the tunes - AMRIVLIN could hook you up,

oh I see I am not a good enough DJ for ya huh

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-30-2002, 07:53 PM

ok now they are taking money from my paychecks... they are take $756.70 a month, leaving me with about $275 a week

**Hoser** · 03-31-2002, 12:24 PM

I just stopped the allotment for my child support. My son is coming to live with me. My ex decided she didn't want him to live with her anymore, so she is moving into a one bedroom apartment. I'm sure her mom had something to do with this, she's a control freak.

He called me and asked if he could live with me. I asked him what was going on, and was told that his mom was moving. She called me a little later that night and told me that she was moving. I don't like the way she's doing this.

My son will be 18 tomorrow (1 April), and I was going to have to pay child support until he was 19, even if he wasn't living with my ex. I think that would've sucked to pay if he was living elsewhere. I told him he'll have to get a job when he gets here, so hopefully everything will work out.

**sbp** · 03-31-2002, 02:13 PM

Why doesn't that woman get a job?

And no this is not free money coming from the state-it comes out of taxpayers pockets!

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-31-2002, 08:25 PM

Originally posted by sbp
Why doesn't that woman get a job?

well aperntly her boy toy has a job, on top of what is going to her from my checks

Originally posted by sbp
And no this is not free money coming from the state-it comes out of taxpayers pockets!

well it is comming outta my pocket no one elses, I have to pay back it all... or I go to jail

**chrissy** · 03-31-2002, 09:30 PM

Geez!

Isn't there a lawyer in the house? Someone to get lil dopey back into dopey's home?

Someone to work pro bono?

If not, I second the idea for the fundraiser for a lawyer for you, of course after you have maxed out all chances of loans and such.

I wish i would have known this on the other hand... would have been nice to have done that to my ex

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 03-31-2002, 09:36 PM

I am making some calls tomorrow, and maybe taking a half day @ work to "regulate"

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 04-01-2002, 02:03 PM

Ok I am off to see a lawer @ 3pm today.... so lets hope they can help me out

**~~DoPeY5007~~** · 04-01-2002, 07:16 PM

ok well I saw some lawer ppl today, they said they can help me, $3400 later though.....

**chrissy** · 04-01-2002, 08:02 PM

It's worth it to beable to have your son and your money back though isn't it?

I would have payed $10,000 for my kids... luckly it was only about $4000