Ahoy ahoy, Blu on Deck! Oh, and a question too

[Blu]

So hi. Sorry I was gone.

Anyway, with all this relationship talk in the air, I wanna know how long you married Apexers waited before getting married, and for the single, how long is long enough to wait to pop the question.

Blu

PS...I'm not going to do it anytime soon, so simmer down...

[DoPeY5007]

RUN WHILE YOU CAN!!!!!!!....











/me don't like thinking about marrage

[oblongmelon]

Originally posted by Blu
So hi. Sorry I was gone.

Anyway, with all this relationship talk in the air, I wanna know how long you married Apexers waited before getting married, and for the single, how long is long enough to wait to pop the question.

Blu

PS...I'm not going to do it anytime soon, so simmer down...

We talked about getting married 4 days after we met-instead we waited..it was over a year that I can remember, but it's been so long..you know..the memory goes...

[Blu]

[i]but it's been so long..you know..the memory goes... [/B]

Obby: But it's been so long, you know... he bought me a tackle box.

[Napoleon54]

Originally posted by DoPeY5007
RUN WHILE YOU CAN!!!!!!!....

Run like Forest Gump being chased with a chain saw.

[WhiskeyPapa]

My wife and I met in May of 1984, began dating in July, got engaged in November, and were married in February of 1985. We were married 266 days after we met, 203 days after our first date.

We were stupid kids! That's way too short of a time to date. However, we did beat the odds, since we celebrated our 17th anniversary a few months ago.

[whitak24]

i think you should wait at least 2 years before proposing. just my opinion.

sure, there are unique situations where you just KNOW it's right, but beyond that, i'd say at least 2 years is a minimum to know that it's really the right thing to do.

for me.....i'm thinking at least 6, maybe 7 or 8. it depends.

[Kim]

hmmmm..let me jog my old memory..We knew each other for a long time, dated for 6ish months, and had a 6 month engagement. Our 12 year anniversary was the 4th of this month.

[ufcrusher]

I think it all depends on how stongly you feel. I mean I know people who were with each other for years and years before getting married who unfortunately got divorced after a few years of marriage. On the other hand, I know people who got married after a week and are still happily married.

Personally, I "knew" my fiance was the one a few weeks into the relationship, but we waited on getting engaged until after we had at least a year under the belt. Currently we are still trying to plan the wedding (what fun) and have been engaged and living together for over 2 years.

[revil]

I ordered mine from russia.

[Jihforce]

I think it really depends on how old you are and at what stage in your life you are in. However, I'd give it at least 1 year before you pop the question, because it would probably take 6-8 months to plan a nice wedding after that. So by the time you marry, you'd have been together for at least 1.5 years.

[Cantacuzene]

I think a period of living together should be done before anything. You never know what will change once you move in with each other, and its always important to know.

[attgig]

err, my friends who are in serious relationships have been together a LONG time before getting married (2+ years) - but they were all in college when they were dating - and it makes sense to wait till you graduate/get a job before you get married, not that there's anything wrong with gettin married in college (had a couple friends do that too).

[Jihforce]

Originally posted by Cantacuzene
I think a period of living together should be done before anything. You never know what will change once you move in with each other, and its always important to know.

That doesn't work for everyone. When you are married, the level of commitment is a lot different than just "living together", not to mention the couples perspective. To me, being married to someone is like getting to know your partner on an ongoing basis. There's no way you can find out everything you need to know just by living with them before marriage. Lots of things change after marriage that you cannot foresee by living with you SO before marriage.

[attgig]

Originally posted by Jihforce
That doesn't work for everyone. When you are married, the level of commitment is a lot different than just "living together", not to mention the couples perspective. To me, being married to someone is like getting to know your partner on an ongoing basis. There's no way you can find out everything you need to know just by living with them before marriage. Lots of things change after marriage that you cannot foresee by living with you SO before marriage.

very true.
Anyways Blu, what's the deal with you?

(i rhymed )

[oblongmelon]

Originally posted by Blu


Obby: But it's been so long, you know... he bought me a tackle box.

hey it was a PLASTIC box..get it right.
the first ring he ever gave me was off a six pack of Bud at a rugby tournament..the other five rings he made "drinking goggles"...gawd..I'm married to a real GEM.

[DoPeY5007]

I do agree on the living together part first, I think that helps solve some questions....

[molecularfire]

Well... my GF and I have been going out for about 4 years now (of course, I haven't seen her in a year and eight months now). We knew each other for a little over a year before we started going out. I know that she is the one I'm going to marry, but because of school (we both go to different schools about 1000 miles away) we probably won't be getting married until we graduate (in another 3-4 years).

[Cantacuzene]

Originally posted by Jihforce


That doesn't work for everyone. When you are married, the level of commitment is a lot different than just "living together", not to mention the couples perspective. To me, being married to someone is like getting to know your partner on an ongoing basis. There's no way you can find out everything you need to know just by living with them before marriage. Lots of things change after marriage that you cannot foresee by living with you SO before marriage.

Yeah, its not 100% but its a lot better than not living together beforehand and just getting married and then moving in.

[welfareloser]

we got engaged about two weeks after the first date. we'll get married the last weekend of july (if not sooner...) which will be just under 9 months after the first date. we were close friends for eight years; casual acquaintances for 20+. otherwise i wouldn't be moving so fast.

first time around, we waited until we were 21, which, yes, i know, is well below average age of marriage - 26 - but i don't feel any more mature now than i was then... unlike me at 19... or 16... eesh. immaturity wasn't one of our problems. with him, we could have dated for 10 years and everything woulda been fine... and then marriage and kids woulda caused the same problems, whether we were 25 or 35. we were friends for two years before dating. we dated for 4 years. we were engaged for a full year. we lived together for two years. i'd still advocate living together and letting the relationship age a bit, mellow out past the honeymoon stage where everything's fabulous, even though it dint prevent diddly poop for me the first time around. i dunno. looks good on paper, i guess at some point, you just have to jump in and do it, and that point comes at a different time for everyone.

[topane]

Engaged after two years, married one year after. I vote for living together as well; you're more likely to work out issues without the extra burden of being married.

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by cpugeek04

mine was from Switzerland

Did you have her shipped by UPS? Because, apparently, you are still waiting!


Anyway, my GF and I were "unofficially" engaged--i.e. we knew we were/are going to marry each other--after the first 6 months. Officially, it will still be another 2 years or so, putting the official engagement date at around 4 years after the first date. We are looking at another 2 years on top of that before we get married.

[Pinkgirl36]

Originally posted by DoPeY5007
I do agree on the living together part first, I think that helps solve some questions....

yeah like if they'll steal your FAVORITE BLANKET in the night when your asleep just because your not using it at that moment and when you try to get it back they won't give it to you....Yeah things like that are always good to know....

[brain]

Originally posted by cpugeek04

mine was from Switzerland

Hm. I don't remember seeing any hot chicks when I was in Switzerland. Now, if you told me you ordered her from Italy,

[hoey222]

we were high school sweethearts ...yes i know..

we were together for 4 years - lived together then broke up for a year. then we got back together. the following summer we got engaged, then married a year later.