Stuck in a weird situation...it's about a girl...

[Raider007]

well okay...this is the story.

My family and another family have been distant friends for like 10 years. Both our father work basically for the same company, but in different areas of california. We're in central california, they are in southern california.

In my family, i'm an only child.
in there family there are 3 daughters. The oldest is my age.

okay, so the oldest daughter and i have gone to the same school for about 3 years, but because of different friends and different major we haven't really been talking much, i mean when we see each other we stop and chat for alittle bit, but that's probably the extent of it.

The middle daugher now goes to this school to, but we have never really talked in the whole time that we've known each other...she kinda intimidates me too (weird though, she's lik 5 foot 2, weights 100 lbs, but she's just got this presense about her the intimidates me).

The youngest daughter doesn't go to the same school as we do (me and the 2 older sisters) but goes to a school about an hour away. But she comes and visits once and a while (mostly weekends).

Well the first weekend they were here they came looking for me cause we're friends and all and i haven't seen the youngest daughter in like forever. Me and the youngest girl always seem to click, we just have fun. Anyways, i wasn't around that weekend but i got back to school like 10 minutes before the girl went back to her school...and damn, she's turned into the most beautiful girl i've ever seen.

I've had an interest i this girl off and on for as long as i've known her, she's just fun and she's always been cute.

But i don't really know what to do, the only time i can basically see this girl is when the sisters go and get her at school (all 3 are sharing 1 car), and they are really close knit, the sisters are really close.

(i hope all of this is making sense)

The fact that i haven't really talked to the older sisters much doesn't help the fact that i have an interest in the youngest sister cause, well, i don't really hang out with the girls...

Anyways, does anyone have an suggestions on what (if anything) i can do to be able to possibly develpop a good friendship with the youngest sister (hell, all the sisters, they're all cool), and possibly maybe date the youngest sister?

My major conflicts with this are basically, should i talk to the oldest sister about stuff (the protector of the group i guess) and see what she thinks, and if she says no, the last thingi need are the 3 girls looking at me funny for the rest of my college life, and they are family friends, and our parents work for the same company and they see each other alot.

I basically don't want to do something and then maybe messup the friendship we got now....

any of this make sense or am i just talking to the wind...
so confusing...i just really like the youngest girl...

never been put in a situation like this...hehehe...dating has always been easy, but the charm that i have, somehow forgets to kick in when i'm around them...more like i dribble all over myself...

[caribiner23]

How old are all the parties involved?

[Raider007]

me and oldest sister = 21
middle sister = 20
youngest is either 18 or 19

[Merlin]

Do you have a car of your own? If so you could get around this limitation on their part.

As for the rest of it. Ask her out not her sister. If she says yes cool, if not pick another fruit off the girl tree.

[Ladogaboy]

Originally posted by Merlin
As for the rest of it. Ask her out not her sister. If she says yes cool, if not pick another fruit off the girl tree.

Yeah, if you need to go to her sister for approval, you are already in trouble. If the youngest daughter makes a decision on her own, they might or might not agree with it, but they really have nothing to say about it.

[Jenny]

I agree with all of them. As long as the one you are interested in is 18 or older, ask her yourself. Don't involve the other 2 in it yet. You are young enough that dating an 18 year old is still ok.

If you have a car, call her and ask her out. Maybe see if you can drive to where she is, pick her up and you guys go out to dinner and a movie or whatever. Keep it light, especially at first.

If you don't have her number, the next time you see one of the other sisters, just casually ask for ______'s phone number. If they ask why, keep it low-key and just say you'd like to ask her out one evening. They should realize they shouldn't butt in.

Good luck!

[DankNstickY]

Originally posted by Jenny


If you don't have her number, the next time you see one of the other sisters, just casually ask for ______'s phone number. If they ask why, keep it low-key and just say you'd like to ask her out one evening. They should realize they shouldn't butt in.

Good luck!

hmm.... i like that plan... i'm not really a charmer myself.... at least i dont think. but advice goes for everyone i guess

but yea.. i'd say try what jenny said.

[Raider007]

thanx for all the info, and yeah, i got a car...
keep it the ideas coming in. I've asked my friends (mostly male) and they are like "yeah man, just go for it"...yeah, i would love to just go for it, but it's not as simple as going after some girl you see every day...

[kain9i6]

Well you guys have known each other for awhile, so at least you are past that "getting to know you" phase.. that is the tedious part and a big reason why alot of people don't even bother with relationships.. i.e. myself..

It's honestly better not to plan out something like this.. In my own experience, any planning a male does that has a female in the plan ends up blowing up in their face. If you like her, let her know.. Just choose your words carefully, or even just casually ask her if she wants to go out with just you.. If you are nervous about asking her on a "date" let her assume what it is.. If she thinks it's a date cool.. If she thinks it's just "hanging out" it's still cool because then you are still on a "one on one" level and the more time spent with someone, the closer the start to feel.

The best advice I ever got was this "If you don't ask, the answer will always be no"

Learn it, Love it, live it..