flirting

**revil** · 12-09-2002, 01:56 AM

It has come to my attention i do not know what flirting is.

A day or so ago, I was talking to some girl in the computer lab. (she needed some help with the computer...) anyways, when i'm done talking to her, my friend was like, "man she was flirting with you big time." and i guess it went way over my head.

so I guess my question is for the ladies. what do you do when your flirting with a guy (or girl, i'm not picky)?

**Merlin** · 12-09-2002, 04:57 AM

Look for them to be playing with their hair a lot.

**revil** · 12-09-2002, 05:50 AM

Originally posted by Merlin
Look for them to be playing with their hair a lot.

I thought that was a sure sign of an idiot....

**nickel** · 12-09-2002, 06:33 AM

i would say a lot of eye contact and smiling is subtle flirting

**molecularfire** · 12-09-2002, 08:57 AM

I say assume that all girls who are willing to talk to you are flirting with you until their slap tells you otherwise.

**mcs328** · 12-09-2002, 01:08 PM

Originally posted by revil

I thought that was a sure sign of an idiot....

**Jenny** · 12-10-2002, 08:53 AM

Touching you.

NO, NOT like that!

I mean, like touching your arm or shoulder, or hand, or whatever, just in casual conversation. Like, if you are leaning down helping her with something on the computer and she leans over and puts her hand on your arm and looks up at you and says, Thank you, she may be flirting with you.

**sbp** · 12-10-2002, 08:58 AM

**Nija** · 12-10-2002, 11:00 AM

if they are smiling like a donut, she likes, at least part of, you.

or when they wrap their legs around you head...

or how about when they just shove their tongue down their throat.

**caribiner23** · 12-10-2002, 12:23 PM

I have a friend who is very touchy-feely; she'll touch your arm or hand while talking, make a lot of eye contact, etc. She claims that's how she is and insists it's not flirting. So caveat flirtee.

By the way, I really like this scene from Friends:

Chandler: I was not flirting.
Monica: It's okay. I don't care. It's just... it's fine.
Ross: Really?
Chandler: Really?
Monica: It's no big deal, I do it all the time.
Chandler: So, uh, you... you flirt with guys all the time?
Monica: Sure! It doesn't mean anything! Just like I know it doesn't mean anything with you!
Chandler: Okay, but there is a big difference, all right? You are a lot hotter than I am.
Joey: True story!

Chandler: Rachel, when, uh... when you were going out with Ross, did it bother you when he flirted with other women?
Rachel: Uh, no, no. It bothered me when he slept with other women.

Chandler: See, when you flirt with a guy, you think, "I'm just flirting, no big deal." But the guy is thinking, "Finally! Somebody who wants to sleep with me!"
Monica: No way!
Chandler: It's true.
Monica: Well that's pathetic!
Chandler: Again, true.
Monica: And this goes for all guys?
Chandler: All guys that are awake. Then we go to sleep and all the guys from the other end of the world wake up and behave the exact same way.

**tweeteresa** · 12-11-2002, 03:29 AM

theres different levels of flirting. and yea depends on how the girl is during her normal self as well. i have a friend who is very touchy feely too...so she's not gonna apply much to wut is written below.

if a girl is usually not so talkative or shy........then just TALKING to u is considered flirting for her.

but anyhow...yea the playing with hair is a lil bit. but most of us do that subconciously... touching is defnitely a sign. like playfully punching u, touching ur arm or shoulder. running her hand through ur hair. any sorta touching. eye contact is good too. well not staring. but like looking at u and then looking down. that sort. the coyful shy look.

lots of smiling and playful teasing is definitely a sign too.

* anyhow i dunno why im so good at this. maybe its a girl thing. plus i do those things!! *hint*

everyone alwyz says guys flirt with me and im like......no way. somehow i cant read guys' signs. i'm modest.

**Leebo** · 12-11-2002, 11:18 AM

Here's a question for you all...

My friend says this girl "totally likes" me but i fail to see it..

She asked to go see a movie and ended up seeing a movie she thought i wanted to see but it ended up sucking cuz we both dont' like scary movies...

Anyways... During the movie she kept on leaning over to me like she ws about to put her head on my shoulder but never did... then after the movie, she randomly grabbed my arm like girls do sometimes when they're "linking arms" and then i said.. "uh..." and then she let go....

10 minutes later, she was commenting to one of her hs friends how Hot her bro was and how hot he was w/ a fro and ended up getting the guy's new phone number...

So You be the judge.

**molecularfire** · 12-11-2002, 12:07 PM

Well... the question is, if she was interested in you, would you care? If you do... then ask and find out. Now the slickest way to get the job done, but overall pretty effective. If you don't... then it really doesn't matter.

**chadlnc** · 12-11-2002, 12:09 PM

Originally posted by Leebo
Here's a question for you all...

My friend says this girl "totally likes" me but i fail to see it..

She asked to go see a movie and ended up seeing a movie she thought i wanted to see but it ended up sucking cuz we both dont' like scary movies...

Anyways... During the movie she kept on leaning over to me like she ws about to put her head on my shoulder but never did... then after the movie, she randomly grabbed my arm like girls do sometimes when they're "linking arms" and then i said.. "uh..." and then she let go....

10 minutes later, she was commenting to one of her hs friends how Hot her bro was and how hot he was w/ a fro and ended up getting the guy's new phone number...

So You be the judge.

My guess is that she was flirting. She put her arm in yours just to see your reaction and to see if you would reciprocate. She later was talking about “the hot guy” to get you to step in and take the initiative.

**hapoo** · 12-11-2002, 12:18 PM

Originally posted by Nija

or how about when they just shove their tongue down their throat.

Yeah, swallowing your own tongue is a major sign of flirting

**Freelance Superhero** · 12-11-2002, 06:10 PM

Originally posted by chadlnc

My guess is that she was flirting. She put her arm in yours just to see your reaction and to see if you would reciprocate. She later was talking about “the hot guy” to get you to step in and take the initiative.

i would have to agree with this statement here... but... if your response to her arm-grabbing was "uh", she maybe might have just gotten the "no" vibe from you and decided to check out her other options...

**TofuNinja** · 12-11-2002, 06:30 PM

If girls smile a lot give you stupid compliaments, touch your arms and hands,laugh a lot at almost everything you say, giggle, wink, give you pearly eyes, or some stuff like that. Oh and they walk very close to you.

ANd they call you TofuNinja.

**cheapie** · 12-13-2002, 10:40 AM

Originally posted by Leebo
she randomly grabbed my arm like girls do sometimes when they're "linking arms" and then i said.. "uh..." and then she let go....

so what you're saying is you slammed the door on her and can't figure out what's up? so much to learn you have young leebo /*says in a yoda voice.

**revil** · 12-13-2002, 03:19 PM

Originally posted by cheapbast@rd
so what you're saying is you slammed the door on her and can't figure out what's up? so much to learn you have young leebo /*says in a yoda voice.

No kidding! that's a perfect chance to practice some Judo!...

**Leebo** · 12-18-2002, 02:03 AM

Originally posted by cheapbast@rd

so what you're saying is you slammed the door on her and can't figure out what's up? so much to learn you have young leebo /*says in a yoda voice.

um... Does this mean i'm your "Young paduwan"? Haha

Anyways, i'mma ask her to see another... keeping all your advice in mind... i think. haha

**Hunny** · 12-22-2002, 10:58 PM

Originally posted by caribiner23
I have a friend who is very touchy-feely; she'll touch your arm or hand while talking, make a lot of eye contact, etc. She claims that's how she is and insists it's not flirting

Your friend is right...I'm a touchy feely person...and it doesn't always mean you are flirting.

**Hunny** · 12-22-2002, 11:03 PM

Originally posted by Nija
if they are smiling like a donut, she likes, at least part of, you.

or when they wrap their legs around you head...

or how about when they just shove their tongue down their throat.

Good god Nija..why don't you just say if she grabs her breasts and does squat thrusts she digs you too

**Merlin** · 12-23-2002, 05:19 AM

Originally posted by Hunny

Good god Nija..why don't you just say if she grabs her breasts and does squat thrusts she digs you too

Ahh Hunny, I see you're new here. This was actually one of Nija's tame threads. You know, there's one like him in every crowd.

**sbp** · 12-23-2002, 09:47 AM

Originally posted by Hunny

Good god Nija..why don't you just say if she grabs her breasts and does squat thrusts she digs you too

Ohhh yeahhh I like the way you think!

-Nija

**Hunny** · 12-23-2002, 08:46 PM

Originally posted by sbp
Ohhh yeahhh I like the way you think!

-Nija

Its the company I keep that makes me like this..

**TERRIBLETOM** · 12-24-2002, 07:55 AM

Originally posted by Hunny

Your friend is right...I'm a touchy feely person...and it doesn't always mean you are flirting.

Oh really?

**Hunny** · 12-24-2002, 07:41 PM

Originally posted by Hunny

Your friend is right...I'm a touchy feely person...and it doesn't always mean you are flirting.
--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Oh really?

Originally posted by TERRIBLETOM
Oh really?

I'm full blooded french..of course I'm touchy feely...all frenchwomen are...an arm... an arm around a shoulder...Men read into things...I think sometimes they allow their units to think for them....

The secret however, would be that if I really liked you alot...alot ...alot...

I'd do more than touch their arm or their shoulder

I'd probably plunk them with a hard candy bar, then touch their

**aznkiddo** · 12-28-2002, 01:53 AM

Yeah, I grew up in South America, and there all the women give the guys hugs and cheek kisses when they see them... so its verty normal... and I think i am kinna used to that too.. it was nice to be back in south america for a while too.. the environment is a lot more open.. and you say things like "swt heart" to the girls without having to worry about getting sued or something..

anyways, it depends on the person... and you gotta check how the girl usually is...

-Keep an open mind

Thread: flirting

Thread Tools

Search Thread

Display

flirting

Bookmarks

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions