Book smart with no common sense..........

[Hunny]

Know anyone like this?

The college graduate...aced every test...honor roll...class valedictorian...who's intelligence is based on logical reasoning and information from schooling......but not a lick of common sense....

...or ...

The highschool dropout...failed all tests...the sloucher...the student every teacher loved to hate...who through little or no effort can cope with practical everyday problems, people and emotions.


Ever have the college graduate look at you like you were a nothing?

I went to a friends wedding many years ago..at the time I was a "full-time" mom at home...At the wedding, I happened to be seated at a table with a few of my friends coworkers...teachers/professors and the like...one man in particular turned to me, introduced himself and the first words out of his mouth besides for "hello,I'm so and so who are you"...was "So...what do you do for a living"...so I told him..."I'm a stay at home mom...."....WRONG ANSWER!!!
He looked at me like I had just grown a second head...said "OH"...and turned his chair so his back faced me...and that ended conversation for that day...My feelings were mixed at that point ...I felt a tad bit inferior,not to mention the humility ( I still get really pissed about it when I think of it)...Had I thought quick enough, I would have said I was a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations."...I'm sure that would have made me a better person...and had he had any common sense, he would have moved his chair to another table where I couldnt reach to spit in his plate when he turned his head ( Just kiddin about that spitting )
So much for intelligence with a degree......

So..the question still stands....do you know anyone like the above

[nickel]

i once had an arrogant b*stard look at me like he thought he was better/smarter than me, but that just spurs me on to bring him down a knotch. i kept at him, and up with him, and to the victor went the spoils.

if i would've been in your shoes Hunny, and that guy turned his back to me like i was insignificant, i would've got right in his face and kept talking. then if i was real lucky this would get him to move his sorry a$$ to another table to get away from me.

[WhiskeyPapa]

My wife gets that a lot. Once someone finds out she stays at home, they treat her like she couldn't possibly have anything to add to the conversation. It used to really bother her, but now we realize it's usually not because the other person feels they are "superior" - it's because they really don't know what to say. They can talk on and on about job, careers, salaries, etc, but when it comes down to talking about "life", they're at a loss for words.

Most people want to talk about what they are interested in - if they're not interested in family stuff, they won't want to talk to you!

OR - it goes the other way. When the other person (usually when it's a woman) finds out my wife stays at home, they spill their guts about how they wish they could stay at home, have more children, etc, etc.

[caribiner23]

In Studs Terkel's book "Working" (and the play based on it), a project manager says this:

People define themselves by their jobs. When I meet someone, I prefer to say "I'm Amanda McKinney, and at various times I've done things."

There are a lot of judgmental people out there. At one time or another you will be judged on your level of education, financial status, marital status, where you live, shoe size, whatever. The biggest mistake is to feel you have to defend yourself -- just be you.

If someone is going to base his/her opinion of you on any of the above criteria without getting to know you, they're not worth knowing. And certainly not worth a drop of your saliva, Hunny.

A prime example of this happened a few years ago when I was living ("RENTING," as residents of this particular town will emphasize) in a posh suburb north of Chicago.

I used to ride the first train to the office, so here I am at 6:00 am, an IT guy dressed in jeans listening to his walkman. Certain (not all) "suits" would sort of sniff and ignore anyone who wasn't wearing their Brooks Brothers finery.

One Monday morning, one of my bosses (a partner at the firm where I worked) boarded a few stops closer to the city, and looked like he didn't get to bed after playing football and drinking the night before. A well-dressed lady sitting next to me let out a "tsk" and I turned to her. She made a comment about class and I told her that that guy was one of the most brilliant options traders in the industry and was worth millions. Her reply was that he should really get some fashion sense if he had that kind of money.

You just can't get through to some people.

[TERRIBLETOM]

I'm wondering what his motives where, somehow I think he may have been trying to pick you up, that doesn't excuse him from the way he acted, i would have helped you spit in his plate. On another note we have this guy at work, he is in the category of being a bit slow. He is a 45 year old male and cannot read and write because of his learning disability. some things need to be explained to him carefully to achieve the results needed, but let me tell you he has a heart the size of a cement truck. I never had a problem with him because i feel and understand his needs, I don't mind giving him the extra attention he may need to get the job done. But some people in the front office do not see it as I do, they think they can not do wrong and this one woman that has a disabled brother at home treats him like dirt, you would think of all people she would understand. I don't know how many times I've gone in and stuck up for him because they verbally abuse him, not name calling but yelling in general, it pisses me off to the point where one day I had to put them all in there place, there was just no need of it. Today wasn't a good day for him, he has his mood swings, that little troll came out and started yelling at him and he is a nervous person and I think upset himself enough were he went home sick. Some may say why not let the owner aware of what is going on and I do, I think I'm the only one who sticks up for him, I am his only voice and probably why he still works there. Sorry if I got off track a bit from the original thread. (No spelling or grammar checks please)

[mcs328]

You should have gotten in his face and embarrass him at his table. That way anyone with a shred of decency at the table will see what a shallow jerk he is.

Even if you don't have a job, I like to follow through with other subjects that we might have in common. I've been guilty of asking ppl the same question but I still talk to them and remark how great it is not to bust my hump to get my butt out of bed and fight traffic.

[johnnymk]

I used to go to a singles group in the area. It was called the Professional Singles Business Network. It was comprised of a lot of uppity so-called business people in the approximate age bracket as mine. Most of them, including myself had degrees of some form or another.
Well, after a couple of years of occasionally attending these groups, I decided to call it quits. Believe me, if this were the only group of people that America contained, I would welcome AlQeida and his gang. What a bunch of self-absorbed, shallow, politically correct idiots!! I got so tired of dealing with the effeminate men and the masculine women that it just plain nauseated me.
I am sure that the guy you mentioned is so insecure that your kids would scare the #### out of him if they stuck their tongues out at him.

[elf]

Originally posted by Hunny
Know anyone like this?

The college graduate...aced every test...honor roll...class valedictorian...who's intelligence is based on logical reasoning and information from schooling......but not a lick of common sense....

Sounds like meh...

Originally posted by Hunny

Ever have the college graduate look at you like you were a nothing?

Actually no, I am smarter that the average elf and having a somewhat photographic memory does help when I encounter ejits and their makers that like to brag...<grin> The Elf Empress and my old man does seem to enjoy this </grin>

Originally posted by Hunny

So..the question still stands....do you know anyone like the above

Actually no. Having to get stitches every so often and not being very gregarious myself, I don't hang around snobs, pretty bois/girls, punks or any of the other misfit groups that couldn't hold their own in the REAL world...(Geriatrics included). I suggest you do the same.

[QuantumKicker]

I have a friened who is just like that: book smart. She focuses too hard, and has no sense of humor. It's pretty funny when someone tells a joke, and she pounces on them, scolding the person for the lack of logic involved .