woof to ex girlfriends

[rajatQ2]

this is just a general woof to all bitter ex - girlfriends out there. I broke up with mine after 2 1/2 years, broke it off in august, she said she wanted to take a break and reconsider it after fall semester, i said okay but i have really already made my decision.

I've already been through all the closure and stuff, and just talked to her today to apologize for some of the A-hole stuff i did back in the day, and she went totally bananas! She started naming off all the stuff bad that i ever did to her! If i turned it around and said "hey, you never respected -----", she dismiss it as bulls**t.

Ahh, girls can be such emotional a-bombs.... Guys can too though. I would never end a conversation with "Shut up A-Hole" and "have a nice life"


WOOOF!!! YOU SUCK!!!
An extra cheers to all those cool girls out there!

[welfareloser]

well, i'd be willing to bet some money that she was all ready to tell you that she was going to call it quits for good, or maybe even that she would deign to give you another chance IF you straightened up... and then YOU had the gall to go and dump HER before she got a chance to say it! it obviously burned her butt pretty good!

and, to be fair, it could simply be that you are at different stages of closure... you're at peace with the decision, she still feels like it's a fresh wound, so some pus came out. she may get around to realizing all the things she did wrong after she cools down. surprisingly, most people do.

also to be fair, when you say she went bananas when you started apologizing for some stuff you did... maybe you were apologizing for some really minor stuff. i can see where an apology for leaving the toilet seat up would really piss me off if you had also trashed my kitchen in a drunken rage on a regular basis and slept with my sister... i think i'd have to say something about that, too

EDIT: oh, and hello over there in champaign! (i'm in urbana)

[nickel]

i was once told that girls say 3 times as much on a subject in comparison to guys. i couldn't deny it. we are just more expressive

[Kevster]

Originally posted by nickelback
i was once told that girls say 3 times as much on a subject in comparison to guys. i couldn't deny it. we are just more expressive

Women also tend to stew on things 3 times as long as men to.

Calling an ex-gf to say you're sorry only opens the valve on the flamethrower known as her emotions - she's been mulling on things for a while and was just waiting to unload (never a good thing!)

[Nija]

Originally posted by nickelback
we are just more expensive

yup.

[rajatQ2]

Yeah, i agree on that, girls get 3x more worked up, and talk about stuff 3x more.

I talked to my mom (Moms always give the best advice) and she said that I proved my self as the secure one by giving my apology, and she was the insecure one because she blew up and couldnt handle it.

by the way, i didnt do anything major, i used to start fights alot about stupid , worthless thingss. I jsut wasnt a very nice guy sometimes.

Hey wel fare loser! are you in urbana year round? i am still a student. I'd probably shoot myself if i stayed there year round. I was in champaign for much of last summer working, and just had to escape.

[welfareloser]

well, again, maybe your mom was right, but you probably did catch her off guard with the phone call out of nowhere... and even if you thought you were saying all the right things, there was probably something you said that she took (maybe unfairly, maybe not) as placing the blame on her, or accusing her of something, etc.

i guess i have just seen much worse in the way of exes to get too worked up about something this minor. she only blew up when you called her. my husband's last ex spent 6 months calling his mom to fish for info, saying nasty stuff to me over email, planning to get together with us because "she still wanted to be friends," but then not showing up and accusing us of having issues ... etc. my last ex did some spying in windows and breaking my stuff for a few months, and a year and a half later will occasionally bust out of nowhere with a rant about how i screwed up by (insert imaginary events here.) so, someone who gets dumped over the phone (yeah, i know it was pretty much over, and she was pretty much in agreement that it should be over, but it is still getting dumped) out of the blue and does a bit of yelling just seems very, very okay to me.

Originally posted by rajatQ2
Hey wel fare loser! are you in urbana year round? i am still a student. I'd probably shoot myself if i stayed there year round. I was in champaign for much of last summer working, and just had to escape.

yep... i have been assimilated into a townie for the next three years. here's my philosophy: anyone who can't entertain themselves just isn't very creative. it doesn't matter where you are, there's always something to do! people who have to "escape" chambana to go someplace "happenin" to have something to do are generally no fun to hang out with... so you can go to a big crowded bar in chicago, big deal, you're still the same boring person. it's just not any more fun than anything you can do with yourself here. my md/phd buddies and i (all "stuck" here for 8-13 years) have all picked up hobbies like fly-fishing, ice-fishing, boat-building (the next project is an ice-skiff with a sail... using some old skis for the base... hehehehehe) new musical instruments, photography, etc. so, just get creative, and you can make anywhere fun! so, yeah, we all went through a stage where we thought this place kinda sucked (actually, i never did... cept the summer i worked 60 hours a week in the corn genetics fields...) but you can get past it if you get creative. now, we all PREFER summers here, when all the dippy undergrads are gone

[WhiskeyPapa]

Originally posted by welfareloser
EDIT: oh, and hello over there in champaign! (i'm in urbana)

Hey! I'm spending the week just south of Bloomington!

[nickel]

Originally posted by Yossarian

HI! i'm nowhere near you guys

HI! i was at your game the other night

[LegendKiller]

I dont know what it is about women, or perhaps its just me.

I have been going out with my GF for about 4 1/2 years now. I moved across the whole country for her (MN to FL), and stay with her through thick and thin. Our relationship is pretty ideal.

BUT DANG!

She remembers EVERY small little jerk thing I said! I said something on the 4th date we had, about something or other, an awkward statement from a guy who had only dated 2 other girls seriously (no, I am not a player), and she remembers it, more than 4 years later! Then there is this time when I was drunk at a college party and a chick came up and kissed me, that was when we had been dating for 2 years. She still remembers it! She doesn't dwell on it, but I know she remembers.

Me? I forget things 10min later. She tells me that its because I dont care (jokingly).

Do any other guys forget crap easily? Why?

Anyway, I am about to buy an engagement ring. I am probably going to ask her dad this weekend.

LK

[welfareloser]

that does seem to be the most common pattern, the girl remembers stuff, the guy doesn't... but it's nowhere near universal. maybe 50% of couples fall into that pattern? i seem to remember less than most girls, prm remembers more than most guys. he remembers the outfit that i wore on our first date... my parent's birthdays!!!! ... heck, he even remembers how much i paid ($7) and where (wal-mart) for a pair of leggings to wear under my jeans on an unexpectedly cold fishing trip 2-1/2 years ago (before we were dating). i pulled them out the other day to wear them as pajamas and he told me all about them.

[nickel]

Originally posted by Yossarian

really? which one?

the one i was at

i yelled out, "go yossa" like a gazillion times, and you still sucked